Reconnecting To The Divine Through The Power of Prayer…

I think it is safe to say that life, as we have known it up until this point, is different now. This past year, I have had to reach into parts of me that, for some reason, I had turned into white noise I was ignoring. Often, when we are faced with a situation in life that is too unbearable to deal with ourselves, or we think is impossible, we go back to what has always been proven to help…Faith. I am not talking per se about religion, but faith. All souls here on Earth, come from the same place. We are given missions and assignments in this life that we have to learn. Some of those assignments may be believing in other things than many others believe in. But, for me, this has been a year of faith and trust in the Divine like never before. Through the course of my necessities, I found my way back to a few things. I had a deep conversation with God. I admitted that I had somehow gotten very lost in life. I had remembered that every time I had gone to God with something, no matter the size of the request, HE always found a way and answered my prayers. When I was in my twenties, there were many times I found myself in not the right spot for me in life. I asked God to send me a sign. HE did! At that moment, I wasn’t a fan of the sign he had sent me. I asked HIM to send me another one. HE did! The second time the message that HE was leading me away from something was even louder. In that situation, all had worked out in my favor in the long run. When I found myself tired of waking up every morning for what felt like months from a stomach issue, I went to God and said, I know you think I am strong, but I am tired of feeling this way, please help. HE did. I had quit smoking for nine months and then for some reason, started again. years later when I knew I was ready to quit because I wanted to, I went to God and asked him for a second chance at it. I asked HIM to make it as easy as it was for me the first time I quit. The first time I quit, I stopped cold. I didn’t use any tools or have any cravings, nothing. I went with my whole heart and said if you can make it that easy for me one more time. The next day, I quit cold. No cravings, no urges, as I had never smoked at all. Every time I had turned to HIM in my time of need, HE never failed.

Many years later, I found myself very sick, and in and out of the hospital. Many Doctors looked at me and were unsure how I was even alive. I specifically remember one night in October 2016, when I was 33, I showed up to the ER around 1:00 am because I had been vomiting for days and wasn’t stopping. I had been having a very difficult time walking for months, but people had brushed certain things off because I was only in my thirties. The Doctors at the ER decided to do a CT Scan to see if it was related to one of my medical conditions. About thirty minutes later, the DR had come back in the room with a very shocked look and specifically said, “I do not know how you are alive right now.” He informed me that I had five blood clots. One in my abdominal aorta, both kidneys, spleen and one in my femoral artery. He also said that from right above my belly button to the end of my pelvis all of my arteries including my Superior Mesenteric Artery that supplies vital blood flow to the colon were completely occluded. The only blood supply I had been getting to my lower organs and my legs was because my body had created a bypass and grown new capillary veins. When I was released over a week later, I was desperate and found a prayer online for a Miracle. I will admit, I said it before going to sleep and when I woke up the next morning, I will be honest, I was pissed I didn’t feel better. I may have even told God and Jesus WTH. I continued to say that prayer a few more times but had given up when I didn’t receive my Miracle healing right away. This was just one of many situations when I had been questioned how I was still alive. Fast forward three years later, I found myself faced with something that was even more challenging than my health issues and, as I mentioned, felt very lost and broken inside in ways I had never felt previously.

You would think it would be easier for a person who is lucky enough to hear God when I ask him a question. But, even I had gotten off track.

Once I had made amends with God and myself about some things in my life, I came to a realization. When I was pissed because I couldn’t see or feel the Divine when I needed them the most, I was wrong! They had always been there. I had been given my Miracle; it had just taken some time to come to the surface for me because it was on Divine timing. Which, in case you don’t know, is always on time. It is never early, never late, always exactly when it is meant to arrive. It was through the course of the greatest necessity of my life that I began to see things so clearly, and pieces of my soul and purpose and Destiny were aligning. God had been preparing me all my life with the tools needed to overcome any obstacles that would stand in the way.

The Power of Prayer is a very real thing! We have to remember that God is even more attached to our happiness and us fulfilling our Soul Purpose than we are. He created us to be our best selves. So, when you go to HIM, HE will always show up for you, no matter what. HE helped me to find some tools that have truly made an impact in my life, and reconnect me to the Divine in a way I always should have been but had been ignoring. One of the many things that has fascinated me about this process up to this point, is how God will also place people in your life so that when you reach out to friends, family, and loved ones they will also be there to help you. Divine tools to succeed come in both Human form and other items.  Although my current necessities are still coming to the surface, I know God and all of the Divine are on it.

This is the Miracle Prayer I had mentioned I had said back in 2016:

Dear God Prayer

I wanted to share with you some of the amazing tools; I have been blessed to find in this process.

Thank You Prayer

Align Holy Spirit Prayer

Healing Traumas Prayer

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-jude-novena

https://catholicnovenaapp.com/novenas/st-raphael-novena/#healing-prayer-of-st-raphael

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/holy-trinity-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-rita-novena-2

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-anne-novena

https://francismary.org/three-day-miracle-prayer-blessed-virgin-mary/

https://www.littleflower.org/prayers/prayers-to-st-therese/

https://www.romancatholicman.com/padre-pios-secret-weapon-prayer-brought-thousands-miracles/

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/saints-day-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/our-lady-of-guadalupe-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-john-paul-ii-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-peter-novena

https://novena.com/2009/09/16/560/

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/the-infant-jesus-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-peregrine-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/memorare-novena-flying-novena-mother-teresa

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-michael-archangel-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-joseph-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/novena-to-the-holy-spirit

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-francis-assisi-novena

https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-clare-novena

https://www.sainttherse.com/saint-expedite-prayer-for-urgent-needs/

I had even been working very closely with Jesus and Mother Mary during this process, as well. It took me some time to realize that it was true what they had said that Jesus had never changed and what he did in the Bible, Jesus does today. I have seen it in my own life! Once I realized “oh my” that is a true statement, it blew my mind. Mother Mary had mentioned I should do the Rosary, and what an amazing teacher to learn from than Mother Mary herself. She helped me create a very powerful form of the Rosary, which combines a prayer novena for her and the traditional rosary. Here is that combined document if you are guided to use the Rosary as well in your everyday life, or being guided to get closer to your faith once more. Below you will find the traditional Rosary, and also a revised version that is a more uplifting vibration, that was directly guided from Spirit on the revisions.

Rosary Prayer

Revised Elysian Life Design Rosary Prayer

One of the most important tools that I will share with you is that I had truly learned to let go, and let God. Again, I am blessed with a God-given a gift to hear God. HE would say to me, “Stacey, give me the control.” And, I would say, “God, I like the control!” We went back and forth, for a few days, but HE always gets HIS point across and as soon as I turn over everything. And I mean everything. Every part of my life, being and the world, that is when movement happened. God had tapped me into my own life, and said: “Girl, this is the moment I have been preparing you for, let’s go, we got work to do.” Let Go, and Let God. I promise you HIS WILL is to lead you to happiness, health and a life that is beyond what you could have ever dreamed of possible. But, we have to say to HIM let your WILL be done. Get me out of my way and lead the way. When I did this, I started to see positive changes in my life. My life, being and world started aligning to God’s WILL for me. Even my mind become clear, and I had peace in my mind, and in my thoughts.

We all have it in us. We all have access to it; we just forget that it is there. We can get caught up in all of the external things in life, but always remember that we never have to go through it alone. If we can move past the fear, and say “HELP” God will. So will all of the Divine, but we have to ask for it.

If you are lost and having a hard time, turn everything over — every part of yourself and your life. Sometimes, you will see things happen within seconds. Some other things are going to take some time to unfold. But trust that even before you ask for help, they see it, so the moment you ask, they are already working it out for your highest good. Be patient in the process and know that truly with God on your side, all things are possible. There is nothing stronger, more powerful or more loving than God, and HE will never fail you, just like HE has never failed me, or anyone for that matter. I often tell HIM that I am grateful he never goes back on the promises HE places in your heart. It doesn’t matter if someone else says no, or that can’t be done, or that is impossible. When it is God’s WILL, HE will make way for it to be done. I have seen HIM do it for me. I am watching HIM doing it all around me, and I know no matter who you are if you are reading this, HE leads you to it and HE will do it for you as well.

Stay Inspired!

Stacey

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Healing Through Forgiveness…

In life, everything comes down to two things. Fear and Love. That’s it, fear and love. Those are the two choices we have to work with. It can be so easy to pick fear and hold on to everything because it is familiar, and it is what we know. Even if it is no longer working for us, we stay stagnant and resist the changes that are being worked through us because we can be scared to face some uncomfortable things in life. We spend a lot of life pushing things down. Know, or perhaps we feel judged because we trusted someone with information and they used it to manipulate us.  Or, their response did not make you feel secure and supported which was what you needed. If that has happened to you, as hard as it may be, that person you turned to in your time of need that responded poorly or talked you out of doing something that you wanted to do, or hurt you so badly to the core that you have been unable to let it go. Is it unfair, yes, it is. But, that person, was coming from a place of their best. And, that they could give at the time. Sometimes, even at our best, we can be our worst. Sometimes, the people we turn to bring out the worst in us. It is an opportunity to learn from our “teachers” to fix these triggers and wounds within ourselves. Take a deep look at the root of the trigger and come to a place where it no longer triggers you. Trust me, it can take a while to forgive and work through some of these things. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen. There is one key step that you need to take first before you venture along the path of forgiveness of others. You have to start with forgiving yourself!

The relationship that we have with ourselves is the foundation that we have with everyone else in our life. I used to think it was crap when people would say that to me. I thought that they didn’t know what they were talking about. The first step of forgiveness that you must take is looking at yourself and forgiving yourself for the things you did unknowingly. For that one time you saw all the red flags but continued down the path anyway and it led you to a bad place. It’s time to forgive yourself. If you are replaying things or decisions in your mind that when badly for you a month ago, or forty years ago – STOP. To move forward, you have to forgive yourself for feeling like you let yourself down. Some of you may read that and think, that’s crap. You can think that now and that is ok. But, you may find a moment in your life where it clicks. You will look at it and say, I couldn’t forgive whatever situation, because, at the root, I forgave the wrong person. That is why sometimes, you can forgive someone, but it still bothers you and it can continue to boil inside and eat away at you. Go back to the situation and forgive yourself. Then, when you do that, you can come to a place where you can let it go fully from your mind, body, and soul. Holding onto unforgiveness, only hurts you. The other person, may or may not care or even give it a second thought. But you have to free yourself from it first. It all starts with you.

It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the long run. Through forgiveness, you can find patience and compassion, not only for yourself but others. Peace in your heart that filters into the peace of mind that so many of us have been trying to find for so long. We can turn the fear and ego out and have peace. It comes from the inside out. So, as you venture into forgiveness, start with you, and then work yourself out to the other people in your life. If those people see the growth and happiness, they will either look and you and ask how did you get happy, or I don’t forgive you. If they can’t forgive you, that is ok. That is on them, not you. The moment you truly forgive yourself and then them, you are free from the burden of carrying it and can move forward. Spend some time using the Ho’oponopono payer:

I’m sorry, please forgive me, I thank you, I love you

Do this for yourself for five minutes a day for at least seven days in a row. When and if you want, if you feel that perhaps you can’t face the other person you need to forgive, close your eyes, visualize them in front of you and say the prayer for your situation with them.  Let it then all workout, and it will. That is when the healing process can begin to fully come full circle and spread through your entire life.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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When Reflection Turns To Growth…

Life… It can often be very complex, confusing, difficult and yet amazing, exciting and a blessing. Sometimes all of the above happen within the same day. As humans, we fluctuate our energy with the earth, and with others around us. Without the downs in life, we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the joy of the up’s and vice versa.  Over the last year and a half, it seems like both as individuals and as humanity in general, we have been pushed to the edge and asked to trust in a higher source to guide us on our path. That, however, can be hard to do. Years ago, I knew a retired priest, and I asked him, “If Jesus Christ came back to Earth, what do you think would happen?” At the time, that seemed like a very logical question. As a child, I worried about the end of days. Now, as an adult, it doesn’t have the same effects on me. So what did the priest say, you may be asking… He said “I think the same thing would happen. Not crucified, in public like before, but no one would believe him to be Jesus so that he would be persecuted again.” His answer perplexed me for so many years, and in many way it still does. As humans we can have a pattern to mistrust people. I think that may come from fears of not trusting ourselves in many ways.

Over the past month, I have noticed many people, myself included, almost doing a life review. I think there is something about the winter that brings people to reflect. Also as things around us have to die to transform, and that is often how our energy works. We have to be willing to let go and allow things about ourselves to die in a way. Old limiting beliefs. One of my least favorite limiting beliefs is my inability to forgive myself for things I didn’t know 20 years ago. How dare I have the audacity to not have an additional 20 years of wisdom when I was only a teenager? Sometimes it feels like we are constantly trying to work through something. The Human body, energy etc, is like an onion, there is always another layer to be worked out.

Maybe you spent years working through a physical issue only to find out it was an emotional issue with also left an energetic footprint. It can be so frustrating sometimes to work through all these things and feel like you are always so close to the finish line. As I mentioned before, winter is often considered a time of reflection in many ways. Without removing all the things that are no longer serving you, there is no room for all the things you are trying to create. A lot is changing in the world over the next two years. The Universe is asking you right now, do you what to continue to be untrusting of anything and everything? Or, perhaps you want believe that you are being guided every day by a higher source. Even though, believe it or not, I have my trust issues sometimes in life, I do know one thing. The Divine comes through when you need them. It may not be the way you want them to, or expect them to. But, your blessing will always be delivered to you.  So where are my top 5 things that I have learned in my own reflection time so far this year that has led to my personal growth that will perhaps help you in yours.

1. If you are feeling unworthy of blessings in your life, or that you are not good enough in some way, STOP. Come to a place within yourself that the Creation, GOD, Universe, whatever you believe in, made you exactly how you are meant to be. From every freckle, scar, wrinkle, etc they are all battle wounds. You are perfect just being you. Only you can truly help yourself feel worthy by coming to terms with the fact that you may have your moments of imperfection. But, that is what makes you perfectly you and perfectly worthy of being you. Sometimes when I am feeling all the normal human feelings of myself and the world, and it can seem overwhelming, I talk to GOD. I ask him “what are you going to do with me?” His response… “love you”. Meaning, GOD will always love you just as you are, unconditionally.
2. In life, we will all play the would a, sould a, could a game. Trust me, forgive yourself and move on. 99.9% of the time the stuff you are worried about won’t matter in 2 years.
3. If you want to having truly good relationships in your life, you must first have a good relationship with yourself. Without that, you will be unable to accept the love offered by others. Life can be a hall of mirrors sometimes, and that hall of mirrors can be your worst nightmare. If something keeps reflecting at you, do yourself a favor, don’t require the other person to change, simply do some of the work and change it within yourself. It won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it. This goes for any relationship in your life, co-workers, family, friends, romantic, etc.
4. If you start building the trust relationship with yourself, you will start seeing how you trust in others, as well as GOD, Universe, the Divine. Just take one day out of the week. For that one day, ask GOD, your Guides, Source energy to lead you. Trust your intuition just for that day and see what happens.
5. I spent a lot of time thinking about the question that I asked the priest so many years ago about his thoughts on Jesus. Without getting into too much religion, for the sake of my findings, I am going to approach it from the Holy Trinity of the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit and combine them in the word God. Here are my thoughts about that. God is everywhere and in everything. God is love, God is peace, God is the air, God is the silence, God is the person asking for help. God is within you. God is within me. Yes, there are people and things in this world that sometimes make it very difficult to trust or keep faith in humanity. But, there is still goodness and kindness in the world. When you see acts of kindness, that is God, that is Jesus, that is whatever faith you believe in showing you the works of a higher source, and that, you can always trust. The Divine will never lead you down the wrong path. It may take you awhile to get where you need to go, but you will always be there exactly when you need to.

As a new season is approaching, the trees, plants, animals are going to begin to grow, bloom and play. You will find yourself coming out of your state of reflection and be able to see your growth that took place. Remember it is not a sprint, but a marathon. You WILL get to where you need to be. So I leave you with this… Namaste (The God in me, recognizes the God in you).

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Heart Chakra Prayer…

The Heart Chakra is a key power center for all energy of all things related to Love. This chakra allows deep bonds with others, your sense of caring and compassion, feelings of self-love, generosity, kindness, and respect among other things. I also like to think that the Heart Chakra is where we give and receive love to ourselves and others. The colors of the Heart Chakra are Green and Pink, so you can also incorporate them in your wardrobe and accessories when you want to help your Heart Chakra.

Here is some information on how to know if you Heart Chakra is balanced or unbalanced.

When your Heart Chakra is balanced, you may feel emotions of:

Balance of Giving and Receiving, Balance in relationships, Bliss, Compassion, Courage, Emotional Wisdom, Expansion, Faith, Harmony, Healing, Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Relationships, Honesty, Joy, Oneness with Life, Openness, Peace, Self Love, and Self Nurturance.

When your Heart Chakra is unbalanced, you may feel emotions of:

Antisocial, Codependent, Conditional Love, Controlling, Critical, Demanding, Depression, Jealousy, Judgmental, Lack of Boundaries, Lack of Empathy, Self Preservation, Separation, True Forgiveness, Unconditional Love, and Withholding Love.

Some helpful ways that you can help keep your Heart Chakra open and balanced are  by doing some Heart Chakra Exercises and Tools. One of my favorite things for the Heart Chakra is using Affirmations. Here are some that may help you.

Heart Chakra Affirmations

• I AM accepting all things as they are, and know that all is well.
• I AM connected to the Earth & the Heavens.
• I AM deeply and completely love and accept myself.
• I AM forgiving myself and the the past
• I AM grateful for all that helped me to transform and open up to love.
• I AM joy.
• I AM living a life in balance, happiness and gratitude.
• I AM love, and it love is within my heart.
• I AM one with the Universe
• I AM open to love.
• I AM peaceful.
• I AM receiving love with ease and grace.
• I AM the embodiment of love.
• I AM wanted and loved.

Other Heart Chakra Tools:

Stones & Crystals

• Emerald
• Green Aventurine
• Green Calcite
• Jade
• Malachite
• Rhodochrosite
• Rhodonite
• Rose Quartz

The best ways to work with these crystals, are either placing them directly on the Heart Chakra, having them by your bed while you sleep, wearing them in your pocket, or holding them in your hands.

You can also use Meditation, Yoga, and Visualization.  Additionally, you can also incorporate the color of the Heart Chakra into your diet. For example, leafy green vegetables, or any green foods.

Another powerful tool you can use to help keep your Heart Chakra healthy and balanced is by using prayer. Here is a short prayer I have put together for you. Remember that “I AM” are two of the most powerful words you can say in prayer or affirmations.

Heart Chakra Prayer by Elysian Life Design

Beloved I AM presence, I come before the Universe and Source energy ready to be healed from all of my worries and all that is keeping me unbalanced in my Heart.

I declare that I AM open to giving and receiving love. I AM Love, I AM the embodiment of love. I AM Love.

With each breath, I AM breathing love into my body, and with every exhale I AM releasing worry and stress. I AM breathing in Love 24 hours a day seven days a week.

I AM Love. I AM Worthy of Love. I AM the Embodiment of Love.

I AM surrounded in love every day. I AM loving myself and others without limitation as my Heart Chakra is open and it is safe for me to share love with others.

I AM Love.

(It is recommended that you say this 3 times a day, for the most powerful results and transformation of love. )

Remember that healing your Heart Chakra may not happen overnight. But, the more you work at it, the easier it will become and the more your Heart will open and be able to heal. Remember that you are worthy of love and, to truly love others, you have to start by truly loving yourself. When you do that, all will fall into place.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Making a New Year’s Resolution for your Soul…

As a New Year is upon us, we can be inundated with resolutions, goals, and wanting to create better lives for ourselves. Rightfully so, but I have found that a lot of people take a physical approach to these New Year’s Resolutions, like getting healthier, work out, “go on a diet” (a pretty popular one), stopping bad habits etc. It is not that these are bad resolutions. In fact I have known a lot of people who have done them, my self included. We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves when it comes to these resolutions. We set a big expectation of ourselves that is hard to always accomplish. For example, losing 30lbs in a month, although feasible, but not healthy, it is also not sustainable in the long term. For many years my New Year’s Resolution revolved around a physical piece of my life. Something that I could see.  Somehow, that meant it was more real. Most of the time, the resolution would fall to the important things to do mid to late January. In fact, none of my successful physical resolutions were ever made at the “New Year”.

Around 2011, I decided that I needed some inner work done on my soul level. Sometimes it is the unseen that needs the most work! Some can appear to have it all together on the outside, but are having a tough time in ways that cannot physically show. I was horrible at taking a compliment. So horrible in fact, that some people would say “can’t you take a compliment”. It would make me so uncomfortable if someone said something nice to me, that I didn’t know how to respond. So I would either over justify, if someone complimented a piece of clothing, purse, shoes etc and explain what a deal I got which, by the way, most people don’t care unless they specifically ask you where you got those items from. Or I would sometimes end up putting myself down to the person who gave the compliment to the point that they would doubt why they said it in the first place. Either way it was uncomfortable all around. I knew it was an area about myself that I didn’t like and wanted to change. So, in 2011 I made my first New Year’s “Soul Resolution”. Something that would benefit my soul and ultimately shine out onto my physical being.  So, for that whole year I decided that if someone gave me a compliment of any kind, I would say “Thank You.” Not thank you, I got them on sale, or thank you but… just thank you. I cut out the over justification and the awkwardness. Sometimes people want you to return the compliment. But, that’s a different story. For me to do what I needed to do, I had to say “thank you,” and move on.  Was I successful in that every day, NO. But somehow because it wasn’t a physical resolution like a diet that could be broken by a bagel on January 2^nd but was a core being change that would take time. I just had to take it day by day. Somedays I did well and somedays I needed improvement but that was ok.

As the years went on, I tried to tackle harder things in my soul. For instance, one year I decided I was going to no longer live in fear. Fear is one resolution I may have to make for many years as it is so difficult to overcome. One year, I decided that I was not going to doubt God’s plan or think my life would be a practical joke, and to trust Him. Another year, I focused on Self-Love. This past year, I tackled worry. I joke that I was probably worrying in my mother’s womb. Somehow worry just consumed me and stressed me out, kept me up at night and just overall consumed my thoughts. Again, somedays I did well on this, and somedays I needed to take notes so I could do better the next day. But, as this year is coming to a close, I will tell you that in hindsight that I handle worry very differently than I did at this time last year. Do I still worry, yes, but I focus my energy differently. Instead of only focusing on the worry and the undesired outcomes, I redirect my thoughts to the positive. Now this is not new information that thinking positively will help your life. I am here to tell you that “if you think you can, you will,” and that works both ways. I have also noticed that I don’t lay awake pondering things that I once worried about, because they are all things over which I have no control. I would often recite this Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” I create a new habit within me to better deal with my worry, just like I did with trusting God’s plan, fear, and taking a compliment.

Will we lose 20lbs overnight, it’s not likely. Will we stop worrying overnight? That is highly unlikely also. But, if we get up each day and try our best, and recognize that each day what our best is may change and that is ok. As long as you are giving all you’ve got, even if it’s a two on a scale of a hundred, you are still giving your best. Every year, month, week and day is the opportunity to achieve your goal or desire. As for myself, I knew I had to clear out some old things before those new things fell into place. And for me, it worked, but I am still a work in progress. It didn’t happen overnight. But, as time went on, I noticed, “Oh I dealt with that better, or I am redirecting that thought etc.” For those who may be interested, here is the full serenity prayer that can be helpful for a variety of things you may be going through.

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.”

Serenity Prayer (Full Text)

I hope you will join me this year and every year in taking a Soulful approach to your New Year’s Resolutions. If anything, it can help you work on areas that you need to before the physical ones are ready to unfold.

Stay Positive & Stay Kind & Stay Inspired

Stacey

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A Spiritual approach to De-Clutter your life & why it’s important…

This year, more than ever, I felt surrounded by “stuff”! On all levels, I was cluttered. In my mind, my surroundings and everything felt like it was busting at the seams. I would both physically and energetically clean my space, and yet it would still feel like something was off. Then I realized that I had to start to de-clutter my life. Truth is I was a much different person when I was in my twenties than I was in my mid-thirties. In my twenties, it was “things” that I collected that were fake fulfilling me. When looking back, I was an internal mess in my twenties. At one point I had 100 pairs of shoes. A) I am not proud of that and B) no one needs that many shoes. Reality is most of the shoes hurt my feet and I never wore them or wore them once, but kept them for some kind of sentimental value. We will discuss this shortly. When I turned thirty, I had a shift. It wasn’t because I was in a new decade of my life. Things that once made me happy were suddenly not as fulfilling as they once were. I had a dramatic overhaul of shifts in perspective. Suddenly, material items like brand names, bags, belts, jewelry, shoes etc were not what made me happy anymore. To be honest, those things never did. They only masked the internal clutter I was trying to hide such as my stress, unhappiness, depression, anger, frustration and other emotions I didn’t want to feel and more. Without realizing it, I had formed unhealthy attachments to objects. I bought them to fill a void. It didn’t work.

So, even though it took about 5 years for this shift to fully come into perspective, and probably even longer. I found myself at 35 and wondering what the heck to do with all this stuff? When you go through a major life overhaul it can be overwhelming. So, I suggest you start in steps. If you are like me, make a list of the steps you want to take. You will want to have three lists going for yourself, and sub-lists within each list. The first list is all of the clutter that fills up your mind. All the things you worry about over which you have no control. That one was first on my list and I have been working on that for a good three years and I will probably be a work in progress on that for the rest of my life.  Then you want to write down on that list as well, all the people that hold space in your head that don’t deserve to. I speak from experience! Cut them free from your head or send them a rent bill every month, because it is not worth it. Forgive them, forgive yourself and then let it go, and repeat if and when necessary. Then, write everything else on the list that clutters your head. Like, finances, security etc. Then, go through the list and cross off things over which you have no control. Automatically, those get cut and let go. I never thought a day would come where I would complain and say, I am paying too much for my phone bill or my cable bill. But, the day came. If finances are something that fills your head with clutter, the best thing you can do it actually look at them. See where you stand. See where you can adjust and make changes. What is each worth for you to keep in your life? Call the vendors you work with and see if there is any way they can lower your monthly bill. For me, I looked at my bills, I decided to get rid of cable. Yes, it took some adjustment. But, I was already paying a membership to Amazon Prime and had access to Netflix so spending over $100 just in cable didn’t make sense. Just like 100 pairs of shoes, I didn’t need to be watching that much TV anyway. I wanted quiet in my life and to be able to hear nature. I changed car insurance companies where I actually got more for less money. My point is to look at areas of your life and see where the money is going and adjust where you can and how you can. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the shift happens and then it becomes your comfortable place. Finances are hard for people. They are often the area that keeps people in places they don’t want to be any more for many different reasons. Make financial choices that your future self will thank you for. The next two lists may be harder believe it or not.

Energetically and physically clear your space. Energetically; everything that ever happens in our space leaves a residue of energy that can become imprinted in the space. Illness, doubt, arguments, negative emotions, trauma, grief and even every day energetic junk that you pick up can build up in the rooms of your space. Prosperity, high vibration, and abundance have a difficult time in lower vibration spaces. So, remove the clutter, organize, and make room for new. A rule that I have personally followed is that, if you have not used it in six months, get rid of it. Let’s be honest, we do not always have this “urge to purge”, or clean up. But, when your body tells you it is time, listen to it and just go with it. That is the absolute best time to go through your closet, cabinets, etc. When you get that urge to organize and clean things out, your emotions will less likely to interfere with your decisions of whether or not to keep sweatpants you love but can no longer wear because they are so worn out, or the CD you bought in 1998 that you now have in your digital music collection. Which organizing my digital library is also on my declutter list, as well as organizing my computer files. But like I said, let’s take small steps.  If you are the type of person who doesn’t get that urge that is ok too; try to do a good de-clutter at the change of each season. Take that feeling and drive and make a “physical things” list. This was definitely where I saw the shift happen. Like I said, I had a lot of stuff, and a lot of stuff I simply didn’t use anymore. And, not only did I have stuff in my home, I also had some at my parent’s house too. (I know they will read this and say to themselves and you still do…again I am self-proclaimed work in progress.) Like I said before, the basic rule to de-clutter anything is; if you haven’t used it in six months it is time to let it go. This is where keeping things for sentimental reasons can come into play. You may not even want to do a list for the physical stuff and just start purging. When you have one of those moods where you just want to clean, that is your best time to do it. You will not be influenced by your emotions to keep that t-shirt from that place, a person visited and brought back for you that you never wear. No! It’s time to let that go. Now, when I decided to go through this phase I also took on being better to the environment. So, I didn’t want to throw anything away. Everything I was letting go of either had to be donated, given to a friend who wanted it, or recycled. So, make a pile of what is what. When I questioned an item, I put it in the Goodwill pile. I had a lot of really nice expensive things that I was going to let friends get first dibs on and so those went in a separate pile. The one thing I definitely came to terms with while I was doing this was that I had more than one bad habit in my twenties besides smoking. The first rule to any recovery process is admitting you have a problem. I had a big one on my hands that I didn’t want anymore. Like the shoes, I had to have because they matched my bag. Guess what, I never wore them. I bet if I added up everything I donated it would come to thousands of dollars. Someone said, “why don’t you sell these things”?  Honestly, I was at the point I just wanted to give them a new life. If they were just going to sit in my closet like they had for the last six years, it was time to let it go and cut my losses. It got to the point where a friend asked me in a concerned voice, “why are you getting rid of all your stuff”? Are you planning on moving across the world or going somewhere”? I simply told them, “I just have too much and it is an older version of myself that I no longer am, and I am ready to let that go and free myself from that version of myself.” Now listen closely people. We all have those one pair of pants or that one item that looked amazing 15 to 20lbs ago that we hang on to as a goal. It is time to let those go as well. Now, this is a multilayered physical list that, for some, may require years to fully work through and that is ok. Besides Goodwill, I also like to donate to Dress for Success, and a local organization that helps families get back on their feet after disasters like house fires etc. Maybe you want to donate your items to a church or organization you like to work with. The point is let the items you are no longer using get a fresh start with someone who needs them. It may take you longer to spread the wealth and find new homes. For instance; you have tons of new bottles of hand lotion that you know you are never going to use.  For those who can’t afford such a luxury your donation would be like a lottery win. There are a lot of women’s shelters and shelters in general that will take items off of your hands. Re-gain your energy, space and emotional well-being. You will be amazed at how accomplished, happy, lighter and at ease, you will feel once you declutter your space. Only then will you see how the clutter was impacting you. I always found that when my home felt cluttered my overall life felt cluttered and stagnant. Even after days of work and many bags of things to drop off at donation locations, I still felt like there was a lot left. But again, I am a work in progress. I, at least, got the Chi moving in my space and it was starting to feel good. In the right space, you can accomplish your dreams. Sometimes that space is outside of you, and sometimes it is internally. And, if you’re lucky, you’re outside surroundings start to match your internal cleansing process.

The last list is all the internal things you need to de-clutter which takes the longest and is often the most stubborn and challenging. Looking back I think I have been de-cluttering my soul all my life. At least feels that way. Now, I wouldn’t suggest trying to do everything at once like I did, because it can often times it can feel like a crash diet where you are setting yourself up for failure. There were many times during the soul part of the de-clutter I felt like a failure, that I need to be better, do better, and be the best version of myself I could be. Again, I think this list is one we work all of our lives because on because as humans we are constantly evolving, changing, upgrading ourselves, working through things, dissolving toxic relationships even with ourselves, and working on boundaries. Not to even mention all of the past life stuff we internally hold. If you are empathic, you are also carrying everyone else’s “stuff” you are carrying around with you also.  There is no quick fix when it comes to de-cluttering your soul. But, when you combine these lists that is where you start to see the impact on your soul. During my de-cluttering phase, I took a look at my actions, limitations, how I was treating and caring for my body, soul as well as others, and environment. I stopped using straws and reduced the amount of trash I had, and focus on how I was impacting the environment. I started taking better care of my skin, and feeling my feelings and not filling them with things. I looked at foods that I was putting in my body and how they were processed. I worked on my feelings towards myself and removed fears and triggers. This is also when you have to learn to say “NO”. Not only to other people that are causing these triggers for you but to yourself as well. No, you don’t need that etc. Whenever I “wanted to buy” something, I slept on that decision overnight and 99% of the time I didn’t want it anymore. And, yes that is something I will have to continue to work on every day. But, when you become more fulfilled internally than externally, you don’t need all this “stuff”. I used to look at the world’s problems as something that was too big for me to fix and it was so overwhelming. It is as if Humans are literally hoarding the Earth and there was nothing that I could do to make that better. But, I was wrong. I could stop contributing to the problem. By going through this process, I not only think about what I am buying from a financial standpoint, but I have a different perspective of need and want after purging my life. So, I accumulate less. I also realized that with no cable my life isn’t any less than it was and I am not missing out on that and I find less clutter in my mind. It doesn’t mean that now I am naive to the world. I just view it differently and choose to live a slower pace without the noise whenever I possibly can.

Now, this really only scratches the surface of the infinite possibilities of shifts you can experience when you de-clutter your life. Again, you will want to have patience with yourself. Don’t try and do everything at once as you may find yourself in a mind, body and soul clutter mess. Also, don’t give yourself false expectations that they next day you are suddenly going to feel amazing. Especially on the mental and soul clutter items. Now, to really de-clutter your life could take years. If that is the pace is right for you, that is ok. I still have a ton of de-cluttering left to do myself and I would imagine I will be doing it for a while still, if not my whole life. But, I do know that this process has really, for the first time, allowed me to let go of the past that I really needed to let go! Release, forgive and move forward to my present and the future me that I am building every day. One that feels fulfilled on the inside because of healthy relationships, friendship and love of myself and purpose rather than one who collects “just in case items” for a non-existing use or need.

Finally, once I have physically and energetically cleaned my home, I am started feeling like I could take a deep breath. Remember, you are going to have ups and downs and that is ok. It is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and all you can do is wake up each day and do the best you can that day and that is enough. Nothing more, nothing less than your best. Every day you have the opportunity to be the person you know you can be mistakes and all. It’s a small piece in a big picture, but can have a wonderful impact on your overall life. You don’t need to get rid of everything you own to declutter your life. It is more about the learning process that organizing and process of an item with a purpose offers. You have all you need inside of you to feel fulfilled without trying to clutter your mind, body & soul.  I hope something in this month’s blog helps you on the path to finding it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Your Divine Support Team…

The Divine Support Team

We all have access to a Divine Support Team, and it can be one of the most powerful spiritual tools we could ever use on our spiritual journey. In many ways, it can be the ultimate connection to the Divine. It will open and expand your mind to realize that the Divine works in an amazing way beyond our understanding and if you haven’t experienced the Divine’s gifts first hand you would find it hard to believe it was real.  Are you ready for a key part of accessing your own Divine connection?

 

What is your Divine Support Team?

The Divine Support Team is very important to any healing process. It can be made up of your Guides, Power Animals, Passed Love Ones, Angels, Divine beings and any Deities you may work with already, or to which you feel a connection.

 

Why should you work with them?

Your Divine Support Team can help you stay sane during the healing process. It is easy to feel alone when you are going through a healing crisis of some kind. But, the truth is the Divine is always there to support you. You may have to ask for the healing, help, and guidance. It may not come instantly. But, your request will be heard and it will come.

 

How can you work with them?

Call them in every day. Ask them to help your ground yourself and remain open to hearing them, or seeing any signs they are sending. The more you work with them the stronger the connection will become, and the level of trust will enhance. Sometimes it is as simple as asking for help from them. We have to give permission for our Divine Support Team to intervene in our life. We also highly suggest that you not only the use of signs and symbols to connect with them but also use meditation and mindful awareness of your thoughts. Here are some resources to review for more information.

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/07/01/divine-meditation-tips-techniques-for-beginners/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

https://www.amazon.com/Archangels-Ascended-Masters-Working-Divinities/dp/1401900631

 

The Divine, and your Divine Support Team are an extension of the Universe. You will start to see miracles in your life every day by working with them and remembering to ask for help. You may feel that issues are unsurmountable in your life. But, to the Divine, all things are possible. Remember they are on your side, and your biggest supporter. I know sometimes things don’t turn out the way we would like. But, in most cases in hindsight, we can see the blessings behind why it didn’t happen, and understand the bigger blessings that we never imagined. Hold faith that however life works out that it will hold those Divine blessings for you.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Spring Transformation & Balance…

This is one of my most favorite times of year. It is a time when we welcome the balance of the day-force and the night-force with the Spring Equinox (also known as the Vernal Equinox or Ostara). On this day, there will be an equal amount of day time and night time. In Christianity it is associated with the passion of Christ and Ancient cultures often associated it with Resurrection. Much like during spring, the Earth resurrects from winter and the darkness. This is a magical day of new beginnings, transformation, and re-birth. The energy of this day will help you match your grid matrix with that of the Universe and offer you healing and balance.

The month of March is all about Fertility and new growth. So, what better day than the Spring Equinox to welcome in new beginnings and any transformation you have been seeking. Many of you may have heard the term “Spring Cleaning”. I am a big fan of “spring cleaning” my soul. Bring in your light, shed your old layers, let go of anything and any one that is toxic to your energy, bring balance, resurrect from your ashes, and give birth to your spiritual self. This isn’t always an easy thing to do. Many of us want to manifest all these abundances into our lives. If the space you have inside is cluttered and full of all these old emotions and limitations, how can new things grow? You have to make the room. So detox your mind, body, and spirit this month as you prepare for the Spring Equinox.

Here are a few suggestions how you can celebrate the Spring Equinox:

• Clear a space for a garden
• Honor Mother Earth and spend some time taking a walk in nature
• Meditate for balance at dawn or sunset
• Honor the God or Goddess of your choice and ask for their assistance with your transformation
• Use the energy of the day to fuel new projects and goals
• Leave an offering of fruit as a symbol of fertility and growth for the nature spirits
• Light some candles at dawn to help welcome more light to the Earth
• If you are a mother, spend some time honoring your own fertility and gift of life that was created within you
• If becoming a mother is part of your re-birth, honor your fertility and set your intentions with Mother Earth, your God or Goddess of choice and the Universe
• You have heard the phrase “Spring Cleaning”, there is a reason. This is the time to clean your home and welcome in the new season
• This one was my personal favorite to do last year. It is an activity you can do with the whole family. At the exact time of the Equinox, if you take an egg outside and place it on the ground, it will stand up straight! Yes it is true, I tried it myself and it actually works and is really cool to see in person
• You can hold a Holi Festival with your family and friends. A Holi Festival is a Hindu tradition where they throw various colors at each other and around town, in honor of the revival of spring

No matter how you choose to spend the Spring Equinox, know that your own transformation is divinely supported. Make that room in your spirit and know that you can achieve any goal you have if you nurture it and allow it to grow just like springtime. With the change of the season, you will start to feel more balanced and re-energized.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTnCUpV42lY
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RqrssdH6ET4
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDJYZXlsASg

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Move into Action in the New Year…

With the New Year, the energy in the Universe urges us to take action in our lives. Not only action, but authentic action! You will find that the energy of 2018 is giving you the push you need to get your life together and get things that you have been dreaming of done. Taking action in our lives can create the results:

• Action Creates Courage
• Action Allows Emergence
• Motivation Follows Action

Taking action in our lives is like creating change. It can be a very scary thing to do. We can get stuck in fear just thinking of moving forward. Part of the reason we sit in the non-action zone is that many of us we have a fear of failure. We will not do something simply because we can’t fail if we don’t try. That is why fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When we take action on those dreams and goals, we find out what we are made of, what we are actually capable of achieving, and ultimately emerge. When we create an emergence, we step into who we are meant to be without hesitation or resistance to change. We can also find peace within ourselves and our lives. Once we find internal peace that is when the hard part kind of begins. It is the long term of the action. When we have action, we must have motivation that allows us to keep that action. What is your driving force for the action you are taking? Do you want to live your purpose? Do you want to help others? Do you just want enough money to pay for your needs? Whatever it is that is going to get you out of bed each day to walk in action instead of fear is what you need to nourish. Just like you have to water a garden for it to grow, you must be willing to water your dreams and commit to them for the long term. Part of the reason we can fail at action is that we think making one mistake ruins everything. So, we might as well just give up on it because it is easier than continuing. Let me tell you that, every day and even every second of every day, you have the power to keep going. To decide, yes I screwed that up, but I am going keep going because I believe in my dreams. You want them so badly that you can taste it. If you believe it you will achieve it. If you don’t you won’t. It is that simple.

Other ways you can focus on taking action in your life is:

Connect with the Present: Stay as present as you can each day. Learn to focus on only the things over which you have control. A book that really helped me in this area was “Change your thoughts, change your life” by Wayne Dyer. If you struggle with your thoughts getting the best of you at all, I highly recommend reading it. You can also watch his PBS special at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

Think before committing: I will admit, I am a people pleaser. I used to have a big problem saying yes to everything. To make things worse, I would say yes without even thinking if it was something I really even wanted to do. Then, as soon as I agreed, I would start thinking about it. We have the right to say no to some things as well. If you don’t want to meet that friend at the bar at 9pm on a Monday night, you don’t have to. Justifications are not required. When I realized that I needed to change the pattern that I created, I implemented the following procedure. When anyone asked me if I wanted to do something, instead of saying yes right away, I would tell them that I would check my calendar and get back to them. Then, I would give myself one day, and then answer back. Now if it is something you know you really want to do, then of course say yes. But, if you find yourself in the pattern of saying yes to everything, and then canceling or backing out of commitments at the last minute, you may want to try this and see if it helps. We want to be authentic in our action. That is why taking a day to think about it actually help you stay authentic to yourself and to the people who are asking you.

Accountability:  We live in a time where accountability is a hard trait to come by. At some point, I fear finding someone who takes accountability for their actions will be like trying to find a Unicorn. Everyone is an individual. But, at some point, we all have to be accountable for our actions. We don’t want to achieve our dreams and actions by manipulation, or cheating, or hurting other people on the way. When you fuel action by those things you will never really attain you goal. The way to achieve the desired outcome from your action is through our own authenticity. How one person achieves it doesn’t mean that is how you will. You have to be brave to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable for who you are and the actions you take. Attaining your dreams is solely your responsibility.  Here is a great article on the topic further:  http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/no-excuses-being-accountable-for-your-own-success.aspx

Now, along the way, you may not get it right and that is ok. But, I guarantee you that you will learn something each time you try, and then there will come a day that you do get it right. It won’t happen overnight, but there will come a day when you wake up and say “wow, I did it!”

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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