Making a New Year’s Resolution for your Soul…

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As a New Year is upon us, we can be inundated with resolutions, goals, and wanting to create better lives for ourselves. Rightfully so, but I have found that a lot of people take a physical approach to these New Year’s Resolutions, like getting healthier, work out, “go on a diet” (a pretty popular one), stopping bad habits etc. It is not that these are bad resolutions. In fact I have known a lot of people who have done them, my self included. We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves when it comes to these resolutions. We set a big expectation of ourselves that is hard to always accomplish. For example, losing 30lbs in a month, although feasible, but not healthy, it is also not sustainable in the long term. For many years my New Year’s Resolution revolved around a physical piece of my life. Something that I could see.  Somehow, that meant it was more real. Most of the time, the resolution would fall to the important things to do mid to late January. In fact, none of my successful physical resolutions were ever made at the “New Year”.

Around 2011, I decided that I needed some inner work done on my soul level. Sometimes it is the unseen that needs the most work! Some can appear to have it all together on the outside, but are having a tough time in ways that cannot physically show. I was horrible at taking a compliment. So horrible in fact, that some people would say “can’t you take a compliment”. It would make me so uncomfortable if someone said something nice to me, that I didn’t know how to respond. So I would either over justify, if someone complimented a piece of clothing, purse, shoes etc and explain what a deal I got which, by the way, most people don’t care unless they specifically ask you where you got those items from. Or I would sometimes end up putting myself down to the person who gave the compliment to the point that they would doubt why they said it in the first place. Either way it was uncomfortable all around. I knew it was an area about myself that I didn’t like and wanted to change. So, in 2011 I made my first New Year’s “Soul Resolution”. Something that would benefit my soul and ultimately shine out onto my physical being.  So, for that whole year I decided that if someone gave me a compliment of any kind, I would say “Thank You.” Not thank you, I got them on sale, or thank you but… just thank you. I cut out the over justification and the awkwardness. Sometimes people want you to return the compliment. But, that’s a different story. For me to do what I needed to do, I had to say “thank you,” and move on.  Was I successful in that every day, NO. But somehow because it wasn’t a physical resolution like a diet that could be broken by a bagel on January 2nd but was a core being change that would take time. I just had to take it day by day. Somedays I did well and somedays I needed improvement but that was ok.

As the years went on, I tried to tackle harder things in my soul. For instance, one year I decided I was going to no longer live in fear. Fear is one resolution I may have to make for many years as it is so difficult to overcome. One year, I decided that I was not going to doubt God’s plan or think my life would be a practical joke, and to trust Him. Another year, I focused on Self-Love. This past year, I tackled worry. I joke that I was probably worrying in my mother’s womb. Somehow worry just consumed me and stressed me out, kept me up at night and just overall consumed my thoughts. Again, somedays I did well on this, and somedays I needed to take notes so I could do better the next day. But, as this year is coming to a close, I will tell you that in hindsight that I handle worry very differently than I did at this time last year. Do I still worry, yes, but I focus my energy differently. Instead of only focusing on the worry and the undesired outcomes, I redirect my thoughts to the positive. Now this is not new information that thinking positively will help your life. I am here to tell you that “if you think you can, you will,” and that works both ways. I have also noticed that I don’t lay awake pondering things that I once worried about, because they are all things over which I have no control. I would often recite this Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” I create a new habit within me to better deal with my worry, just like I did with trusting God’s plan, fear, and taking a compliment.

Will we lose 20lbs overnight, it’s not likely. Will we stop worrying overnight? That is highly unlikely also. But, if we get up each day and try our best, and recognize that each day what our best is may change and that is ok. As long as you are giving all you’ve got, even if it’s a two on a scale of a hundred, you are still giving your best. Every year, month, week and day is the opportunity to achieve your goal or desire. As for myself, I knew I had to clear out some old things before those new things fell into place. And for me, it worked, but I am still a work in progress. It didn’t happen overnight. But, as time went on, I noticed, “Oh I dealt with that better, or I am redirecting that thought etc.” For those who may be interested, here is the full serenity prayer that can be helpful for a variety of things you may be going through.

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.”

Serenity Prayer (Full Text)

I hope you will join me this year and every year in taking a Soulful approach to your New Year’s Resolutions. If anything, it can help you work on areas that you need to before the physical ones are ready to unfold.

Stay Positive & Stay Kind & Stay Inspired

Stacey

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A Spiritual approach to De-Clutter your life & why it’s important…

This year, more than ever, I felt surrounded by “stuff”! On all levels, I was cluttered. In my mind, my surroundings and everything felt like it was busting at the seams. I would both physically and energetically clean my space, and yet it would still feel like something was off. Then I realized that I had to start to de-clutter my life. Truth is I was a much different person when I was in my twenties than I was in my mid-thirties. In my twenties, it was “things” that I collected that were fake fulfilling me. When looking back, I was an internal mess in my twenties. At one point I had 100 pairs of shoes. A) I am not proud of that and B) no one needs that many shoes. Reality is most of the shoes hurt my feet and I never wore them or wore them once, but kept them for some kind of sentimental value. We will discuss this shortly. When I turned thirty, I had a shift. It wasn’t because I was in a new decade of my life. Things that once made me happy were suddenly not as fulfilling as they once were. I had a dramatic overhaul of shifts in perspective. Suddenly, material items like brand names, bags, belts, jewelry, shoes etc were not what made me happy anymore. To be honest, those things never did. They only masked the internal clutter I was trying to hide such as my stress, unhappiness, depression, anger, frustration and other emotions I didn’t want to feel and more. Without realizing it, I had formed unhealthy attachments to objects. I bought them to fill a void. It didn’t work.

So, even though it took about 5 years for this shift to fully come into perspective, and probably even longer. I found myself at 35 and wondering what the heck to do with all this stuff? When you go through a major life overhaul it can be overwhelming. So, I suggest you start in steps. If you are like me, make a list of the steps you want to take. You will want to have three lists going for yourself, and sub-lists within each list. The first list is all of the clutter that fills up your mind. All the things you worry about over which you have no control. That one was first on my list and I have been working on that for a good three years and I will probably be a work in progress on that for the rest of my life.  Then you want to write down on that list as well, all the people that hold space in your head that don’t deserve to. I speak from experience! Cut them free from your head or send them a rent bill every month, because it is not worth it. Forgive them, forgive yourself and then let it go, and repeat if and when necessary. Then, write everything else on the list that clutters your head. Like, finances, security etc. Then, go through the list and cross off things over which you have no control. Automatically, those get cut and let go. I never thought a day would come where I would complain and say, I am paying too much for my phone bill or my cable bill. But, the day came. If finances are something that fills your head with clutter, the best thing you can do it actually look at them. See where you stand. See where you can adjust and make changes. What is each worth for you to keep in your life? Call the vendors you work with and see if there is any way they can lower your monthly bill. For me, I looked at my bills, I decided to get rid of cable. Yes, it took some adjustment. But, I was already paying a membership to Amazon Prime and had access to Netflix so spending over $100 just in cable didn’t make sense. Just like 100 pairs of shoes, I didn’t need to be watching that much TV anyway. I wanted quiet in my life and to be able to hear nature. I changed car insurance companies where I actually got more for less money. My point is to look at areas of your life and see where the money is going and adjust where you can and how you can. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the shift happens and then it becomes your comfortable place. Finances are hard for people. They are often the area that keeps people in places they don’t want to be any more for many different reasons. Make financial choices that your future self will thank you for. The next two lists may be harder believe it or not.

Energetically and physically clear your space. Energetically; everything that ever happens in our space leaves a residue of energy that can become imprinted in the space. Illness, doubt, arguments, negative emotions, trauma, grief and even every day energetic junk that you pick up can build up in the rooms of your space. Prosperity, high vibration, and abundance have a difficult time in lower vibration spaces. So, remove the clutter, organize, and make room for new. A rule that I have personally followed is that, if you have not used it in six months, get rid of it. Let’s be honest, we do not always have this “urge to purge”, or clean up. But, when your body tells you it is time, listen to it and just go with it. That is the absolute best time to go through your closet, cabinets, etc. When you get that urge to organize and clean things out, your emotions will less likely to interfere with your decisions of whether or not to keep sweatpants you love but can no longer wear because they are so worn out, or the CD you bought in 1998 that you now have in your digital music collection. Which organizing my digital library is also on my declutter list, as well as organizing my computer files. But like I said, let’s take small steps.  If you are the type of person who doesn’t get that urge that is ok too; try to do a good de-clutter at the change of each season. Take that feeling and drive and make a “physical things” list. This was definitely where I saw the shift happen. Like I said, I had a lot of stuff, and a lot of stuff I simply didn’t use anymore. And, not only did I have stuff in my home, I also had some at my parent’s house too. (I know they will read this and say to themselves and you still do…again I am self-proclaimed work in progress.) Like I said before, the basic rule to de-clutter anything is; if you haven’t used it in six months it is time to let it go. This is where keeping things for sentimental reasons can come into play. You may not even want to do a list for the physical stuff and just start purging. When you have one of those moods where you just want to clean, that is your best time to do it. You will not be influenced by your emotions to keep that t-shirt from that place, a person visited and brought back for you that you never wear. No! It’s time to let that go. Now, when I decided to go through this phase I also took on being better to the environment. So, I didn’t want to throw anything away. Everything I was letting go of either had to be donated, given to a friend who wanted it, or recycled. So, make a pile of what is what. When I questioned an item, I put it in the Goodwill pile. I had a lot of really nice expensive things that I was going to let friends get first dibs on and so those went in a separate pile. The one thing I definitely came to terms with while I was doing this was that I had more than one bad habit in my twenties besides smoking. The first rule to any recovery process is admitting you have a problem. I had a big one on my hands that I didn’t want anymore. Like the shoes, I had to have because they matched my bag. Guess what, I never wore them. I bet if I added up everything I donated it would come to thousands of dollars. Someone said, “why don’t you sell these things”?  Honestly, I was at the point I just wanted to give them a new life. If they were just going to sit in my closet like they had for the last six years, it was time to let it go and cut my losses. It got to the point where a friend asked me in a concerned voice, “why are you getting rid of all your stuff”? Are you planning on moving across the world or going somewhere”? I simply told them, “I just have too much and it is an older version of myself that I no longer am, and I am ready to let that go and free myself from that version of myself.” Now listen closely people. We all have those one pair of pants or that one item that looked amazing 15 to 20lbs ago that we hang on to as a goal. It is time to let those go as well. Now, this is a multilayered physical list that, for some, may require years to fully work through and that is ok. Besides Goodwill, I also like to donate to Dress for Success, and a local organization that helps families get back on their feet after disasters like house fires etc. Maybe you want to donate your items to a church or organization you like to work with. The point is let the items you are no longer using get a fresh start with someone who needs them. It may take you longer to spread the wealth and find new homes. For instance; you have tons of new bottles of hand lotion that you know you are never going to use.  For those who can’t afford such a luxury your donation would be like a lottery win. There are a lot of women’s shelters and shelters in general that will take items off of your hands. Re-gain your energy, space and emotional well-being. You will be amazed at how accomplished, happy, lighter and at ease, you will feel once you declutter your space. Only then will you see how the clutter was impacting you. I always found that when my home felt cluttered my overall life felt cluttered and stagnant. Even after days of work and many bags of things to drop off at donation locations, I still felt like there was a lot left. But again, I am a work in progress. I, at least, got the Chi moving in my space and it was starting to feel good. In the right space, you can accomplish your dreams. Sometimes that space is outside of you, and sometimes it is internally. And, if you’re lucky, you’re outside surroundings start to match your internal cleansing process.

The last list is all the internal things you need to de-clutter which takes the longest and is often the most stubborn and challenging. Looking back I think I have been de-cluttering my soul all my life. At least feels that way. Now, I wouldn’t suggest trying to do everything at once like I did, because it can often times it can feel like a crash diet where you are setting yourself up for failure. There were many times during the soul part of the de-clutter I felt like a failure, that I need to be better, do better, and be the best version of myself I could be. Again, I think this list is one we work all of our lives because on because as humans we are constantly evolving, changing, upgrading ourselves, working through things, dissolving toxic relationships even with ourselves, and working on boundaries. Not to even mention all of the past life stuff we internally hold. If you are empathic, you are also carrying everyone else’s “stuff” you are carrying around with you also.  There is no quick fix when it comes to de-cluttering your soul. But, when you combine these lists that is where you start to see the impact on your soul. During my de-cluttering phase, I took a look at my actions, limitations, how I was treating and caring for my body, soul as well as others, and environment. I stopped using straws and reduced the amount of trash I had, and focus on how I was impacting the environment. I started taking better care of my skin, and feeling my feelings and not filling them with things. I looked at foods that I was putting in my body and how they were processed. I worked on my feelings towards myself and removed fears and triggers. This is also when you have to learn to say “NO”. Not only to other people that are causing these triggers for you but to yourself as well. No, you don’t need that etc. Whenever I “wanted to buy” something, I slept on that decision overnight and 99% of the time I didn’t want it anymore. And, yes that is something I will have to continue to work on every day. But, when you become more fulfilled internally than externally, you don’t need all this “stuff”. I used to look at the world’s problems as something that was too big for me to fix and it was so overwhelming. It is as if Humans are literally hoarding the Earth and there was nothing that I could do to make that better. But, I was wrong. I could stop contributing to the problem. By going through this process, I not only think about what I am buying from a financial standpoint, but I have a different perspective of need and want after purging my life. So, I accumulate less. I also realized that with no cable my life isn’t any less than it was and I am not missing out on that and I find less clutter in my mind. It doesn’t mean that now I am naive to the world. I just view it differently and choose to live a slower pace without the noise whenever I possibly can.

Now, this really only scratches the surface of the infinite possibilities of shifts you can experience when you de-clutter your life. Again, you will want to have patience with yourself. Don’t try and do everything at once as you may find yourself in a mind, body and soul clutter mess. Also, don’t give yourself false expectations that they next day you are suddenly going to feel amazing. Especially on the mental and soul clutter items. Now, to really de-clutter your life could take years. If that is the pace is right for you, that is ok. I still have a ton of de-cluttering left to do myself and I would imagine I will be doing it for a while still, if not my whole life. But, I do know that this process has really, for the first time, allowed me to let go of the past that I really needed to let go! Release, forgive and move forward to my present and the future me that I am building every day. One that feels fulfilled on the inside because of healthy relationships, friendship and love of myself and purpose rather than one who collects “just in case items” for a non-existing use or need.

Finally, once I have physically and energetically cleaned my home, I am started feeling like I could take a deep breath. Remember, you are going to have ups and downs and that is ok. It is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and all you can do is wake up each day and do the best you can that day and that is enough. Nothing more, nothing less than your best. Every day you have the opportunity to be the person you know you can be mistakes and all. It’s a small piece in a big picture, but can have a wonderful impact on your overall life. You don’t need to get rid of everything you own to declutter your life. It is more about the learning process that organizing and process of an item with a purpose offers. You have all you need inside of you to feel fulfilled without trying to clutter your mind, body & soul.  I hope something in this month’s blog helps you on the path to finding it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Your Divine Support Team…

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The Divine Support Team

We all have access to a Divine Support Team, and it can be one of the most powerful spiritual tools we could ever use on our spiritual journey. In many ways, it can be the ultimate connection to the Divine. It will open and expand your mind to realize that the Divine works in an amazing way beyond our understanding and if you haven’t experienced the Divine’s gifts first hand you would find it hard to believe it was real.  Are you ready for a key part of accessing your own Divine connection?

 

What is your Divine Support Team?

The Divine Support Team is very important to any healing process. It can be made up of your Guides, Power Animals, Passed Love Ones, Angels, Divine beings and any Deities you may work with already, or to which you feel a connection.

 

Why should you work with them?

Your Divine Support Team can help you stay sane during the healing process. It is easy to feel alone when you are going through a healing crisis of some kind. But, the truth is the Divine is always there to support you. You may have to ask for the healing, help, and guidance. It may not come instantly. But, your request will be heard and it will come.

 

How can you work with them?

Call them in every day. Ask them to help your ground yourself and remain open to hearing them, or seeing any signs they are sending. The more you work with them the stronger the connection will become, and the level of trust will enhance. Sometimes it is as simple as asking for help from them. We have to give permission for our Divine Support Team to intervene in our life. We also highly suggest that you not only the use of signs and symbols to connect with them but also use meditation and mindful awareness of your thoughts. Here are some resources to review for more information.

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/07/01/divine-meditation-tips-techniques-for-beginners/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

https://www.amazon.com/Archangels-Ascended-Masters-Working-Divinities/dp/1401900631

 

The Divine, and your Divine Support Team are an extension of the Universe. You will start to see miracles in your life every day by working with them and remembering to ask for help. You may feel that issues are unsurmountable in your life. But, to the Divine, all things are possible. Remember they are on your side, and your biggest supporter. I know sometimes things don’t turn out the way we would like. But, in most cases in hindsight, we can see the blessings behind why it didn’t happen, and understand the bigger blessings that we never imagined. Hold faith that however life works out that it will hold those Divine blessings for you.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Spring Transformation & Balance…

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This is one of my most favorite times of year. It is a time when we welcome the balance of the day-force and the night-force with the Spring Equinox (also known as the Vernal Equinox or Ostara). This year, the Spring Equinox is March 20th, 2018 at 12:15 pm EST. On this day, there will be an equal amount of day time and night time. In Christianity it is associated with the passion of Christ and Ancient cultures often associated it with Resurrection. Much like during spring, the Earth resurrects from winter and the darkness. This is a magical day of new beginnings, transformation, and re-birth. The energy of this day will help you match your grid matrix with that of the Universe and offer you healing and balance.

The month of March is all about Fertility and new growth. So, what better day than the Spring Equinox to welcome in new beginnings and any transformation you have been seeking. Many of you may have heard the term “Spring Cleaning”. I am a big fan of “spring cleaning” my soul. Bring in your light, shed your old layers, let go of anything and any one that is toxic to your energy, bring balance, resurrect from your ashes, and give birth to your spiritual self. This isn’t always an easy thing to do. Many of us want to manifest all these abundances into our lives. If the space you have inside is cluttered and full of all these old emotions and limitations, how can new things grow? You have to make the room. So detox your mind, body, and spirit this month as you prepare for the Spring Equinox.

Here are a few suggestions how you can celebrate the Spring Equinox:

  • Clear a space for a garden
  • Honor Mother Earth and spend some time taking a walk in nature
  • Meditate for balance at dawn or sunset
  • Honor the God or Goddess of your choice and ask for their assistance with your transformation
  • Use the energy of the day to fuel new projects and goals
  • Leave an offering of fruit as a symbol of fertility and growth for the nature spirits
  • Light some candles at dawn to help welcome more light to the Earth
  • If you are a mother, spend some time honoring your own fertility and gift of life that was created within you
  • If becoming a mother is part of your re-birth, honor your fertility and set your intentions with Mother Earth, your God or Goddess of choice and the Universe
  • You have heard the phrase “Spring Cleaning”, there is a reason. This is the time to clean your home and welcome in the new season
  • This one was my personal favorite to do last year. It is an activity you can do with the whole family. At the exact time of the Equinox, if you take an egg outside and place it on the ground, it will stand up straight! Yes it is true, I tried it myself and it actually works and is really cool to see in person
  • You can hold a Holi Festival with your family and friends. A Holi Festival is a Hindu tradition where they throw various colors at each other and around town, in honor of the revival of spring

 

No matter how you choose to spend the Spring Equinox, know that your own transformation is divinely supported. Make that room in your spirit and know that you can achieve any goal you have if you nurture it and allow it to grow just like springtime. With the change of the season, you will start to feel more balanced and re-energized.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

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Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

  1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
  2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
  3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
  4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Move into Action in the New Year…

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With the New Year, the energy in the Universe urges us to take action in our lives. Not only action, but authentic action! You will find that the energy of 2018 is giving you the push you need to get your life together and get things that you have been dreaming of done. Taking action in our lives can create the results:

  • Action Creates Courage
  • Action Allows Emergence
  • Motivation Follows Action

Taking action in our lives is like creating change. It can be a very scary thing to do. We can get stuck in fear just thinking of moving forward. Part of the reason we sit in the non-action zone is that many of us we have a fear of failure. We will not do something simply because we can’t fail if we don’t try. That is why fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When we take action on those dreams and goals, we find out what we are made of, what we are actually capable of achieving, and ultimately emerge. When we create an emergence, we step into who we are meant to be without hesitation or resistance to change. We can also find peace within ourselves and our lives. Once we find internal peace that is when the hard part kind of begins. It is the long term of the action. When we have action, we must have motivation that allows us to keep that action. What is your driving force for the action you are taking? Do you want to live your purpose? Do you want to help others? Do you just want enough money to pay for your needs? Whatever it is that is going to get you out of bed each day to walk in action instead of fear is what you need to nourish. Just like you have to water a garden for it to grow, you must be willing to water your dreams and commit to them for the long term. Part of the reason we can fail at action is that we think making one mistake ruins everything. So, we might as well just give up on it because it is easier than continuing. Let me tell you that, every day and even every second of every day, you have the power to keep going. To decide, yes I screwed that up, but I am going keep going because I believe in my dreams. You want them so badly that you can taste it. If you believe it you will achieve it. If you don’t you won’t. It is that simple.

Other ways you can focus on taking action in your life is:

Connect with the Present: Stay as present as you can each day. Learn to focus on only the things over which you have control. A book that really helped me in this area was “Change your thoughts, change your life” by Wayne Dyer. If you struggle with your thoughts getting the best of you at all, I highly recommend reading it. You can also watch his PBS special at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

Think before committing: I will admit, I am a people pleaser. I used to have a big problem saying yes to everything. To make things worse, I would say yes without even thinking if it was something I really even wanted to do. Then, as soon as I agreed, I would start thinking about it. We have the right to say no to some things as well. If you don’t want to meet that friend at the bar at 9pm on a Monday night, you don’t have to. Justifications are not required. When I realized that I needed to change the pattern that I created, I implemented the following procedure. When anyone asked me if I wanted to do something, instead of saying yes right away, I would tell them that I would check my calendar and get back to them. Then, I would give myself one day, and then answer back. Now if it is something you know you really want to do, then of course say yes. But, if you find yourself in the pattern of saying yes to everything, and then canceling or backing out of commitments at the last minute, you may want to try this and see if it helps. We want to be authentic in our action. That is why taking a day to think about it actually help you stay authentic to yourself and to the people who are asking you.

Accountability:  We live in a time where accountability is a hard trait to come by. At some point, I fear finding someone who takes accountability for their actions will be like trying to find a Unicorn. Everyone is an individual. But, at some point, we all have to be accountable for our actions. We don’t want to achieve our dreams and actions by manipulation, or cheating, or hurting other people on the way. When you fuel action by those things you will never really attain you goal. The way to achieve the desired outcome from your action is through our own authenticity. How one person achieves it doesn’t mean that is how you will. You have to be brave to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable for who you are and the actions you take. Attaining your dreams is solely your responsibility.  Here is a great article on the topic further:  http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/no-excuses-being-accountable-for-your-own-success.aspx

Now, along the way, you may not get it right and that is ok. But, I guarantee you that you will learn something each time you try, and then there will come a day that you do get it right. It won’t happen overnight, but there will come a day when you wake up and say “wow, I did it!”

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Universe Help: What’s my Life Purpose?

 

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What is my life purpose? That is one of the most common questions asked by people in in my sessions. It is a question that I have asked myself most of my life. Trust me I often think “If I knew then, what I know now”. We know that our past doesn’t define our present. But, it can provide you lessons and opportunities to figure everything out. I often think that we shouldn’t, at 18 know what we want to do with the rest of our lives. We don’t even really know who we are as a person often until our thirties. Then, when we figure it out, we have “wasted” all that time doing what we thought we loved verse what we know we are meant to do. We can feel trapped in the illusion of our security. We are afraid to makes changes once we figure it out. But, how do we even know for sure what our purpose is. Trust me if it was as easy to go see someone who can connect with your guides like myself it would be super easy. I wish I could tell people what their purpose is. But, one of the most important steps in finding your purpose, is your journey in life. Every day, every step, every choice leads you further on your path and that is how you gain insight. Many times we make choices and at the time those choices really serve who we are. But, fast forward 10 years and you may desire to live a quieter lifestyle than you once did. That will lead you in the next step of your purpose. The question is; where do we start when we don’t even know what direction to go in? Here are some helpful steps:

  1. Follow your heart, instead of your mind: I assure you the headquarters of your EGO isn’t going to tell you what you are supposed to achieve fulfillment and happiness. So, don’t ask it and don’t listen to it. Listen to the place built and designed to make you feel love and passion. Start asking your heart to lead your steps and actions.
  2. Don’t live in fear of change: “Fear kills more dreams, than failure ever did.” We all know that fear, especially of change is super scary. In my opinion, worse than a scary movie. It is really through cataclysmic change that we rebuild what is important in our lives. And, anyone that knows their purpose will tell you that they experienced some sort of trauma on their journey to finding out their purpose. Either their entire life went to crap first, or they suffered a loss so deep, or they almost died in order for them to get the message.
  3. “Do” instead of “think”: How many times a day do you spend thinking, instead of doing? I know I think and over-think things till my brain hurts. We can get so caught up in the “what ifs”, and plan a –z that we stay in place and don’t move. I often think, “I wish someone would just tell me what choice to make”. We are the only ones who can take the actions needed to achieve the goals we want. No one else can do it for us. If you want that dream to come true, you have to make choices that get you there, not think them.
  4. Do something every day you are passionate about: By living passion and trying new things, we figure out what we love to do. Maybe you always wear pink nails, but you really love purple. Next time you go to get them done, be bold and be you. If purple and sparkles makes you passionate about life do your fingers and your toes. It can be any size thing that makes you feel that passion, but take that chance and do something small or large every day to help you find out what you are made out of.
  5. Expand your comfort zone…even just a little: Our comfort zone is like a warm, soft blanket on a cold rainy day. Why in the world would we want to move from something like that? There is a saying by Anna Berkes that says, “If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.” In order to find our purpose and figure is out, we have to get out and explore the adventure waiting for us.

Perhaps, you are asking the Universe “What is my purpose?” There are a few things that I recommend to people who are in search of their purpose or know their purpose but, don’t know what to do with it when they come to me. A “Divine Check-In” or a Numerology Report. You can learn more about both on our website: https://www.elysianld.com/services.html or our ETSY store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLD

Whatever you think or know your purpose is take steps to live it every day, because that is only the beginning of the journey and the beginning of all the abundance coming your way.

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Summer Solstice: Welcome the Love & Light

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On Wednesday June 21st 2017 at 12:24am EST, Summer officially arrives in the Northern Hemisphere. I am sure that many of us have long awaited this day after the crazy winter we all had with the back and forth of nice weather and cold weather. This day marks the time of year when the days start to get longer than the nights. Also known as Midsummer or Litha, it is truly a time for celebration. The time of the “light” that we experience during the Solstice and the summer months is a great opportunity for you to work on some of your spiritual goals, reconnect with the “source” energy, or manifest your dreams. Here are a few things you can do to during the Summer Solstice, to draw in the power of the sun and gratefully welcome in the season:

  • Hold a Solstice bonfire celebration.
  • Spend the day out in Nature and reconnect with the energy of the Sun.
  • Seek some realignment in your overall life! Perhaps you should adjust some of those New Year’s resolutions.
  • Reconnect with your Faith and renew your relationship with God.
  • Take a walk along a body of water. While you are walking, visualize what your summer, special events, love, people and new careers that you wish to bring into your life this summer will look like.
  • Sit outside and read a book that can connect with your purpose.
  • Start a healthy food cleanse.
  • Consider an Energy Healing session to clear out old energy and make room for new.
  • Meditate outside in a garden, forest, park or your sanctuary in your own yard.
  • If you happen to like Ancient Egyptian Culture like I do, work with the Egyptian God Ra. Ra is the God of the sun and radiance.
  • Have a conversation with the Faeries… Yes Faeries. Making reference to “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”, there is much magic that can be obtained working with the Faeries. This can also be a fun activity if you have children. Perhaps, build a little Faery home or terrarium and welcome them to come into your home, garden or your dreams.
  • Make an altar with summer flowers and herbs, and light a candle and tell the Universe what you wish to manifest this summer.
  • Participate in a Solstice Ceremony or Drumming Circle.
  • On or around the Solstice time, go outside and just stand in the sun for a few minutes to soak in the energy of the Sun. If you really want to feel this, stand facing the sun, close your eyes, put your hands up and just enjoy the feelings.

No matter how you choose to spend the Summer Solstice, know that there will be loving magic behind your intentions. This is what will make it unique and special for you. With the warmth of the Sun coming to Earth, you can expect to feel happier, healthier and an overall sense of well-being, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There are many Sun deities and Goddesses that you can work with during your summer solstice celebrations, and you may want to work with them all. The most important thing is to recognize what you are guided towards and go with it as it is part of the carefree joy and laughter of the season.

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Reality of Worthiness

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As we go through this year of New Beginnings, we start to review where we were and where we want to be in life. Some of these feelings can bring up thoughts of feeling unworthy or inadequate. Dealing with these emotions can often leave one feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed or, possibly, even anxious. We can often go through our whole lives thinking we do not deserve to be happy, or deserving of what we really want. This can be very common when we start to find ourselves feeling happy either in a new career or relationship. We can even self-sabotage ourselves out of that happiness because we do not feel worthy of it. I used to have a really challenging time when people would give me compliments of any kind. They actually used to make me feel very self-conscious and uncomfortable. I was told by many people that it can actually be a turn off when someone would sit there and not only not accept a compliment. But, then turn around and make the person who gave the compliment think that something was wrong with them. Often when we feel unworthy in life or of choices we make, we feel like we have to justify our actions and over-explain to people whom we don’t really owe an explanation. Once I started to realize I was doing this and how it was making others possible feel uncomfortable, I started to simple say two words. It was my response to any kind of compliment from “That outfit looks great, or I like those earrings, or cute shoes or purse, etc.” These two words started to feel like my own magic words where it was a win-win for everyone. I didn’t feel uncomfortable saying them and it eliminated any need for justification. So what were these two magic words you may be asking? “Thank you.” Those two small words made a huge difference. Now of course it took some time to get used to.  A few times, I had to stop myself from falling into old habits. Overtime I felt myself recognizing my own worth in certain areas of my life. To help work through all these different feelings and emotions and to find some balance, I suggest you start your morning off with a few affirmations. You can also say a few when you start to feel those overwhelming feelings that cause you to feel unworthy. The trick is to see which one you relate to the most and adjust as you see fit. Here are some affirmations that you can start to use every day:

  • All is well in my world and I exchange love and acceptance with the world.
  • I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.
  • I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
  • I am Love, I am Loved and I am worthy of Love
  • I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
  • I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
  • I deserve all that is good. I release any fear.
  • I love and accept myself unconditionally.
  • I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
  • My self-love allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
  • My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive thoughts which the Universe mirrors back at me in my life.
  • My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.

The power of prayer can also help you get through those moments where you are just in state of panic, depression, anxiousness or even questioning our own worthiness. Here is one that people have found helpful.

“Dear God,
Help me to remember I am worthy of love in my life and all of my relationships.  Please replace all of my unhealed, limiting or judgmental thoughts about myself with Your love.  I forgive myself for all past mistakes and failures and allow the purity of Your love to heal my mind and heart.  I’m willing  to see myself as whole, complete, innocent and pure, as You created me.  Please give me the wisdom and strength to release the past and claim the love and happiness that is Your will for me.  I dedicate all of my relationships to the Truth, as You created it, and trust that Peace is inevitable.  Thank You, in advance, that with You as my Source, all of my relationships are loving, lasting, harmonious and blessed.  With Your guidance and certainty, I will reach the highest levels of joy and happiness in all of my relationships.  Thy will be done.  Amen”

This Prayer is an excerpt from the Miracles in Prayer book by Robin Duncan.

Another helpful tool to use for worthiness is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also known as tapping, it is a great way to help one achieve a better mind set to help one feel worthy. Here is a great video of an example of EFT for worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohdtwaRZyI. The thing about worthiness is, as much as you want to change your feelings on it, unfortunately, it will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself especially while working through this process. When you start any of these methods of Affirmations, prayer or EFT give yourself at least 21-40 days to form a new habit and see the benefits of it in your emotional, physical and spiritual body.  Once you do, you will start to see how entire world can change. Not only will you start to see your worthiness, but you will find yourself more accepting of positive things coming into your life. The more you do that, the more they will continue to flow in abundance to you. Your relationships will improve as well as your career / life desires and ambitions. Finding your worthiness can also have a significant healthy impact on your mind, body & spirit and one’s connection to the Universe.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to work with Spirit Animals and Power Animals: 101

Working with animals on a spiritual level can be just as important as working with angels, guides and loved one. You may have heard many terms related to the ways animals can work with us spiritually such as “Spirit Animal” and “Power Animal”. A Spirit Animal is an animal who comes to you in order to show you through its own unique nature and skills how to deal with the manifestations of your Spiritual Journey. Think of your spirit animal as a guardian spirit or spirit guide. It can play the role of protector and provides guidance. It’s like a “personal guide or protector.” The Important thing to know about Spirit Animals is that you do not choose your Spirit Animal, and it chooses you! Another key point of Spirit Animals is they will appear only at the time and place in your life when you are ready to accept them and the wisdom they come to offer. I have found that, over the course of various times in life, a person can have multiple Spirit Animals based on what may be going on at that time and can change once a certain lesson may be learned. But, once a Spirit Animal presents itself to you, regardless if a particular part of your journey is over, you can always call on the animal’s energy whenever you need it. You can do this even if a new animal has presented itself or you haven’t worked with the animal in a long time. From what Spirit has told me, everyone has a constant Spirit Animal that they are born with, almost like a Guardian Angel. While other Spirit Animals may come and go, this Spirit Animal will always be by your side.

The other term you may be familiar with is a Power Animal. A Power Animal will often let us call upon it and harness its energy and powers to get us through a situations and particular moments. Unlike a Spirit Animal we can choose this animal. In addition, the spirit of the animal could unite with the person it “chose” in more personal ways and one will often find similarities in traits of personality, characteristics, and synchronicity between the two. As such, the power or essence of the animal can be felt or communicated. One of the cool things is you can actually merge with a Spirit/ Power Animal. If any of you have seen any of the Twilight movies, you know that Jacob is part of a tribe that can turn into wolves. That is a Spirit/ Power Animal for him! I often tell clients to imagine they are one with the animal. For example, let’s say you have a Spirit/ Power Animal that is a lion. You can literally ask the lion to merge with you. It would feel as if the animal was the outside shield protecting you while you were inside and safe from harsh energies.

Here is a great Meditation to help you find your Spirit Animal.

  1. Create a safe private space that you can relax in private free from interruption including all electronics.
  2. You will want to create sacred space. You can use holy water, crystals, prayer, or call in the  guides, and angels you work with. You can also call in the 4 directions (east, south, west, & north) and Mother Earth and Father Sky. If you do not know how to do this, you can read about it here: http://thefourwinds.com/blog/shamanism/opening-sacred-space/
  3. You will want to relax by either sitting or lying down in a position which keeps your back straight. Use sounds of nature to help you be present in this meditation.
  4. Relax and breathe. Allow your body to release all tension, beginning at the top of your head or crown chakra. Then, as you continue to breathe, you will find that all negativity and stress have released out your feet and into the Earth.
  5. When you feel ready, invite your spirit animal to come forward. Don’t panic if an animal doesn’t immediately appear. Trust in your intuition and it will come. When it does, welcome them into your energy field. You will also want to thank it for the messages and insight it is going to provide you.
  6. You will want to create a dialogue with the animal. Start by asking it if it is your spirit animal. Once you confirm, ask it any questions you may have. You may want to ask its name, what its purpose in helping you is, you can ask about certain areas of your life that you may need assistance with and so on.
  7. Once you have received all the insight you desire, you will once again want to thank your spirit animal for showing up in your meditation.
  8. You will once again want to focus on your breathing, you will become more present as you return to your sacred space. Take some time to thank any other spirits, guides, angels etc. You will also want to thank the four direction.
  9. You may want to journal about your experience so you can go back and remember the insight that your spirit animal provided you.

Once you know your spirit animal or power animal is, you can work with it through any form of meditation, prayer, or by simply asking that it to join you for the day. I have even seen people incorporate their animal in their jewelry. You can always look for signs of the actual animal as well. This can serve as a reminder that they are with you. The more you work with these animals the deeper connection you will have and the stronger you will trust your own intuition. I love using the site http://www.whats-your-sign.com/ to look up the spiritual meaning of the animal that comes through. It is very detailed and you will learn why that animal is in your life. It is a privilege to work with any type of spirit animal or power animal energy. Consider it just as important as any other relationships you have. Your animal will be there for you and protect you. Stay open to receiving and it will always show up for you.

“I think of animals more as spirits that come and go. They enter our lives at a particular time and they leave at a particular time. The whole glorious history of animals with people is about joy and connection. It’s about loving this creature and letting this creature love you.” – Jon Katz

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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