Move into Action in the New Year…

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With the New Year, the energy in the Universe urges us to take action in our lives. Not only action, but authentic action! You will find that the energy of 2018 is giving you the push you need to get your life together and get things that you have been dreaming of done. Taking action in our lives can create the results:

  • Action Creates Courage
  • Action Allows Emergence
  • Motivation Follows Action

Taking action in our lives is like creating change. It can be a very scary thing to do. We can get stuck in fear just thinking of moving forward. Part of the reason we sit in the non-action zone is that many of us we have a fear of failure. We will not do something simply because we can’t fail if we don’t try. That is why fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When we take action on those dreams and goals, we find out what we are made of, what we are actually capable of achieving, and ultimately emerge. When we create an emergence, we step into who we are meant to be without hesitation or resistance to change. We can also find peace within ourselves and our lives. Once we find internal peace that is when the hard part kind of begins. It is the long term of the action. When we have action, we must have motivation that allows us to keep that action. What is your driving force for the action you are taking? Do you want to live your purpose? Do you want to help others? Do you just want enough money to pay for your needs? Whatever it is that is going to get you out of bed each day to walk in action instead of fear is what you need to nourish. Just like you have to water a garden for it to grow, you must be willing to water your dreams and commit to them for the long term. Part of the reason we can fail at action is that we think making one mistake ruins everything. So, we might as well just give up on it because it is easier than continuing. Let me tell you that, every day and even every second of every day, you have the power to keep going. To decide, yes I screwed that up, but I am going keep going because I believe in my dreams. You want them so badly that you can taste it. If you believe it you will achieve it. If you don’t you won’t. It is that simple.

Other ways you can focus on taking action in your life is:

Connect with the Present: Stay as present as you can each day. Learn to focus on only the things over which you have control. A book that really helped me in this area was “Change your thoughts, change your life” by Wayne Dyer. If you struggle with your thoughts getting the best of you at all, I highly recommend reading it. You can also watch his PBS special at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

Think before committing: I will admit, I am a people pleaser. I used to have a big problem saying yes to everything. To make things worse, I would say yes without even thinking if it was something I really even wanted to do. Then, as soon as I agreed, I would start thinking about it. We have the right to say no to some things as well. If you don’t want to meet that friend at the bar at 9pm on a Monday night, you don’t have to. Justifications are not required. When I realized that I needed to change the pattern that I created, I implemented the following procedure. When anyone asked me if I wanted to do something, instead of saying yes right away, I would tell them that I would check my calendar and get back to them. Then, I would give myself one day, and then answer back. Now if it is something you know you really want to do, then of course say yes. But, if you find yourself in the pattern of saying yes to everything, and then canceling or backing out of commitments at the last minute, you may want to try this and see if it helps. We want to be authentic in our action. That is why taking a day to think about it actually help you stay authentic to yourself and to the people who are asking you.

Accountability:  We live in a time where accountability is a hard trait to come by. At some point, I fear finding someone who takes accountability for their actions will be like trying to find a Unicorn. Everyone is an individual. But, at some point, we all have to be accountable for our actions. We don’t want to achieve our dreams and actions by manipulation, or cheating, or hurting other people on the way. When you fuel action by those things you will never really attain you goal. The way to achieve the desired outcome from your action is through our own authenticity. How one person achieves it doesn’t mean that is how you will. You have to be brave to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable for who you are and the actions you take. Attaining your dreams is solely your responsibility.  Here is a great article on the topic further:  http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/no-excuses-being-accountable-for-your-own-success.aspx

Now, along the way, you may not get it right and that is ok. But, I guarantee you that you will learn something each time you try, and then there will come a day that you do get it right. It won’t happen overnight, but there will come a day when you wake up and say “wow, I did it!”

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

Stacey

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Upcoming Master Year of 11/2: And…

As a new year is upon us, we wonder “what is going to happen?” Each year carries a numerological energetic vibration to it. In 2018 the Universal Energetic Vibration will be an 11/ 2 year (2+0+1+8=11 (1+1=2)). Eleven is what’s considered a Master Number and, without getting to deeply into Numerology, typically Master Numbers don’t always get reduced to a single digit like other numbers. So, it can be an 11 or a 2. The year often marks the beginning of a new direction. Have you ever heard the saying “its 11:11 make a wish”? Well, think about 2018 as your opportunity to make a wish all year long! Eleven is a significant spiritual number that calls us to awaken, live our purpose, and allow our intuition to guide us in our new level of consciousness. Here are some themes we may be looking at in our own lives based on the energetic vibration of the 11/2 numbers:

  • Be patient and wait for opportunities to come to you
  • Be positive and proactive about finding love
  • Build upon what you already have
  • Consolidate and solidify what you started last year
  • Develop psychic abilities and enhance your intuition
  • Focus on your health and well-being
  • Improve your existing relationships with others
  • Practice mindfulness; consider getting some energy healing and practice meditation or yoga
  • Recognize, express, and release repressed emotions
  • Work on personal development
  • Work on self-love

You can read about the energetic vibration of both the 11 and the 2 here:

http://www.whats-your-sign.com/spiritualmeaningofnumbereleven.html

http://numerology-thenumbersandtheirmeanings.blogspot.com/2011/02/number-2.html

We are living in a era where time is going by faster than ever. Everything is rushed and it feels like people are not taking a Sunday stroll through life anymore, but running through it. Some people, not all, are impatient, rude and sometimes downright mean. But, there is also a lot of good and hope in the world. We just don’t hear about it with all the fears being projected in the media. So, what does this all mean? Here is what I feel we have the chance to do as a collective group this year.

  • We will take action toward our goals and dreams that we manifested in 2017.
  • Change can become impossible to ignore as we ache for it for humanity and are asking ourselves what we are tolerate and why.
  • A bold opportunity to be patient! Not only with others, but ourselves and to accept the opportunities that the Universe is working on for us.
  • With Jupiter spending this year in Scorpio, we will all seek the truth about things and not settle for less than the truth. That may even include no longer lying to ourselves about things.
  • Have the courage to trust our ability to do what we love and to have a relationship with whom we love while making enough money to thrive and trust that the Universe and the Divine are going to provide for us in a way that is best for our higher selves.

Do I think a shift is going to take place? Absolutely! I think it has already started with the Divine Feminine energy that came in with 2017. I think we no longer have a choice but to make a shift for the better. Change can be really scary for a lot of people. So, there may be some hesitation you see in others who decide to fight the change and do it the harder way instead of embracing it and sailing with the wind. A word of wisdom from my own experiences fighting change. It happens anyways. It is just easier if you go with it verse the alternative were the Universe pushes you into it. “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey

This is what the Universe as a whole will be vibrating at for 2018. We have what is called our personal year number that will also play into certain themes we may see in our own lives that is based on our birthdate. So, you will have the Universal Energy and your Personal Year number vibration themes for 2018. What are yours? Don’t know yours? Have Elysian Life Design do your 2018 Numerology Forecast. Your 2018 Numerology Forecast is based on your birth date. It will give you a theme for each month of the year and, get this, a day by day breakdown of what your energy may be facing. That is 12 months & 365 days of insight! To find out more about how 2018 will impact you, you can visit our listing on ETSY at:

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Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Universe Help: What’s my Life Purpose?

 

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What is my life purpose? That is one of the most common questions asked by people in in my sessions. It is a question that I have asked myself most of my life. Trust me I often think “If I knew then, what I know now”. We know that our past doesn’t define our present. But, it can provide you lessons and opportunities to figure everything out. I often think that we shouldn’t, at 18 know what we want to do with the rest of our lives. We don’t even really know who we are as a person often until our thirties. Then, when we figure it out, we have “wasted” all that time doing what we thought we loved verse what we know we are meant to do. We can feel trapped in the illusion of our security. We are afraid to makes changes once we figure it out. But, how do we even know for sure what our purpose is. Trust me if it was as easy to go see someone who can connect with your guides like myself it would be super easy. I wish I could tell people what their purpose is. But, one of the most important steps in finding your purpose, is your journey in life. Every day, every step, every choice leads you further on your path and that is how you gain insight. Many times we make choices and at the time those choices really serve who we are. But, fast forward 10 years and you may desire to live a quieter lifestyle than you once did. That will lead you in the next step of your purpose. The question is; where do we start when we don’t even know what direction to go in? Here are some helpful steps:

  1. Follow your heart, instead of your mind: I assure you the headquarters of your EGO isn’t going to tell you what you are supposed to achieve fulfillment and happiness. So, don’t ask it and don’t listen to it. Listen to the place built and designed to make you feel love and passion. Start asking your heart to lead your steps and actions.
  2. Don’t live in fear of change: “Fear kills more dreams, than failure ever did.” We all know that fear, especially of change is super scary. In my opinion, worse than a scary movie. It is really through cataclysmic change that we rebuild what is important in our lives. And, anyone that knows their purpose will tell you that they experienced some sort of trauma on their journey to finding out their purpose. Either their entire life went to crap first, or they suffered a loss so deep, or they almost died in order for them to get the message.
  3. “Do” instead of “think”: How many times a day do you spend thinking, instead of doing? I know I think and over-think things till my brain hurts. We can get so caught up in the “what ifs”, and plan a –z that we stay in place and don’t move. I often think, “I wish someone would just tell me what choice to make”. We are the only ones who can take the actions needed to achieve the goals we want. No one else can do it for us. If you want that dream to come true, you have to make choices that get you there, not think them.
  4. Do something every day you are passionate about: By living passion and trying new things, we figure out what we love to do. Maybe you always wear pink nails, but you really love purple. Next time you go to get them done, be bold and be you. If purple and sparkles makes you passionate about life do your fingers and your toes. It can be any size thing that makes you feel that passion, but take that chance and do something small or large every day to help you find out what you are made out of.
  5. Expand your comfort zone…even just a little: Our comfort zone is like a warm, soft blanket on a cold rainy day. Why in the world would we want to move from something like that? There is a saying by Anna Berkes that says, “If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.” In order to find our purpose and figure is out, we have to get out and explore the adventure waiting for us.

Perhaps, you are asking the Universe “What is my purpose?” There are a few things that I recommend to people who are in search of their purpose or know their purpose but, don’t know what to do with it when they come to me. A “Divine Check-In” or a Numerology Report. You can learn more about both on our website: https://www.elysianld.com/services.html or our ETSY store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLD

Whatever you think or know your purpose is take steps to live it every day, because that is only the beginning of the journey and the beginning of all the abundance coming your way.

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Releasing with the Full Moon

 

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The Full Moon is much more than something that helps light up the night sky and blocks certain constellations from being seen due to the moonlight. The moon represents the feminine, emotional, creative and nurturing aspects of our lives and has been worshiped throughout ancient history. The Full Moon is also known to have high tide of power, amplifying and inspiring our creativity. It is a time to release that which no longer serves us, what we no longer need in our lives or an aspect of ourselves that we have outgrown.

A complete cycle of the moon takes exactly 28 days, radiating her energy to us in cycles of waxing and waning, bringing in the ebbing and flowing we all feel throughout the month.

Besides providing some nice ambient lighting in the night sky, the moon can affect us in many ways that we don’t even realize. Much like the moon affects the tide of the ocean, it affects our body. More than half of the human body consists of water. Consequently, your body can feel full, bloated, etc around the full moon and lighter around the new moon. Also, women tend to go into labor around the Full Moons due to the gravitational pull of the moon and the fluid that surrounds the baby. The phases of the moon also affect our sleep patterns. I know whenever there is a full moon, I feel more restless and become an insomniac especially on Super Moons. There is a quote that says “In my defense, the Moon was full and I was unsupervised” Your mood is also another area that can change based on the Moon. Yes, that’s right! There is also a saying I used to hear growing up; “all the weirdo’s come out on the full moon.” I use to take this very seriously, until somewhere in my 30’s I realized that I was one of the weirdos taking a moon bath, talking to the sky, and doing other things in my yard. You can read about that below. But, the moon can bring things up and can even cause chaos inside of us. If we don’t understand it, we can feel like we are losing our minds or want to yell and scream at someone. Life can be very frustrating especially if you do not know why you have these feelings. So, start paying attention to your patterns and how your body feels in relation to the moon, and see if that helps change your perspective on life.

Here are some of my favorite ways to work with the Full Moon

Full Moon Altar:

Creating an altar with a specific intention is one of the most powerful things you can do to harness the magic within you. It doesn’t have to be fancy, or the biggest most beautiful thing you have ever seen. It just has to come from the heart. Allow your soul to speak through your actions and the items that you choose. I like to make sure I have a white candle representing the full moon. I also like to choose certain stones or crystals depending on what I am working on releasing with that specific moon. Other items you may find helpful are, feathers, musical items such as a rattle or drum and some sage to burn. Music is a great way to shift energy as you are releasing it. So, you can burn some sage, drum and sit in front of your altar and release all that no longer serves you.

Moon Bath:

No matter what I am doing the night of the Full Moon, I always like to make some time for a moon bath! A moon bath, is where you spend some time under the moonlight and just allow your energy and the energy of the moon to connect. It can be as simple as a few minutes to thirty minutes or an hour. When taking a moon bath, I like to stand with my hands palm up in the receiving position and just talk to La Luna. I tell her everything I wish to release and areas from which I am ready to move on. I ask her help in clearing the way providing an easy separation. It can be a powerful experience to allow the vibes of the moon to soak into your energy field. The Full Moon is also a great time to charge and clear any of your stones, crystals and other spiritual tools. You can place them on a window sill facing the moonlight, or place them directly outside where they can soak up the energy.

Moon Water Bath:

Similar to a Moon bath, a Moon water bath or Moon bathing, is where you soak in the tube with some Himalayan Salt.  The minerals of the salt are absorbed while toxins are released into the bath water. The inside and the outside of your body detoxifies through this process, while your energetic field is restored and energy flow is activated. You can also add other herbs and essential oils to your liking. Some popular choices are cedar, frankincense, hyssop, juniper berry, myrtle, orange, rose, sage, sandalwood, tangerine, tea tree and yarrow. While you allow yourself to soak in the water for a good 20 to 30 minutes, allow the energy of the bath to release any specific intension you may have as well.

Moon Prayer:

Praying with the moon can also bring you much releasement. Here is one of my most favorite prayers to for the Full Moon. “I AM now choosing to cleanse myself and release any and all thought forms, beings, situations and energies that are no longer of service to my highest and greatest good. across all planes of my existence, across all universes and across all lifetimes. I ask that all energies that are less than love be transmuted for the highest good of all. And so it is.” – You are Luminous

Fire Ceremony:

When we talk about releasement, fire or burning something may not be the first thing that comes to your mind. But, in the processes of burning something, you are releasing the energy associated with it. A fire ceremony is simple yet powerful. You will want to start by writing down what you want to release with the Full Moon. Sometimes, it can be just a few items or maybe you have pages of stuff you want to let go of. Once you have everything written down, head outside to the moonlight. If you have a fire pit you will be all set. If not, grab a fire safe bowl or pot, a lighter or matches, and a bottle of water. Find a great place where you can see the moon and either head to your fire pit, or take your other items. Preferably, you will be away from your house and on concrete. If you are using a fire pit, simply state your intensions to the moon and ask that it free you from everything on the list and throw it in the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl or pot, rip the paper up into smaller pieces and place them in the bowl. Once in the bowl, set your intentions for releasement, and use the lighter or matches to set them on fire. Once everything is done, you will want to safely extinguish the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl, the fire should stop once all the paper is done burning.  Then, pour a little water in the bowl and let it sit overnight in the moonlight. The next day, burry the paper and thank Mother Earth for taking what you have released. You can also make a releasement pot. Where you can burry your monthly releasements in the one pot and allow the paper to act as compost for the pot.

Moon Sprays:

I have had an infatuation with spiritual sprays for many years. So, out of my own desire to work with a special spray for the moons, I created a New Moon Blessing Spray and Full Moon Releasement Spray.  These sprays are made in sacred space, and energetically charged in the appropriate moon phase. They use the highest quality essential oils, flower essences and gemstone elixirs. They are then also charged with reiki and filled with the highest vibrations for either letting go, or drawing abundance towards you. Here is a little more information on our Moon sprays:

New Moon Blessing Spray:
Use this spray to assist you with welcoming your desires and attracting your dreams into your life around the New Moon. Contains: Rose Quartz, Star Sapphire, Sunflower, Moonstone, Carnelian, Lapis Lazuli, Sweetgrass, Gold Lime, Sandalwood, Patchouli, Holy Water and Blessings.

Full Moon Releasement Spray:
Use this spray to assist you with releasing what is no longer serving you, so you can create healing and growth in your life around the Full Moon. Contains: Round Leaved Sundew, Moonstone, Cotton Grass, Selenite, Smoky Quartz, Holy Water, Ylang Ylang, Cypress, Bergamot and Prayers.

For more information about Moon Sprays by Elysian Life Design, please visit our ETSY store at https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLD. For bulk orders, retail orders, or to order directly through us, please email contact@elysianld.com or call 914-336-7693.

No matter how you decide to work with the Full Moon and releasing what you need, as long as it is personal to you, and the intentions in your heart are ready, the magic of the moon is yours to claim and help you in any way you need. “The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light.” – Tahereh MafiShatter Me

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to work with Spirit Animals and Power Animals: 101

Working with animals on a spiritual level can be just as important as working with angels, guides and loved one. You may have heard many terms related to the ways animals can work with us spiritually such as “Spirit Animal” and “Power Animal”. A Spirit Animal is an animal who comes to you in order to show you through its own unique nature and skills how to deal with the manifestations of your Spiritual Journey. Think of your spirit animal as a guardian spirit or spirit guide. It can play the role of protector and provides guidance. It’s like a “personal guide or protector.” The Important thing to know about Spirit Animals is that you do not choose your Spirit Animal, and it chooses you! Another key point of Spirit Animals is they will appear only at the time and place in your life when you are ready to accept them and the wisdom they come to offer. I have found that, over the course of various times in life, a person can have multiple Spirit Animals based on what may be going on at that time and can change once a certain lesson may be learned. But, once a Spirit Animal presents itself to you, regardless if a particular part of your journey is over, you can always call on the animal’s energy whenever you need it. You can do this even if a new animal has presented itself or you haven’t worked with the animal in a long time. From what Spirit has told me, everyone has a constant Spirit Animal that they are born with, almost like a Guardian Angel. While other Spirit Animals may come and go, this Spirit Animal will always be by your side.

The other term you may be familiar with is a Power Animal. A Power Animal will often let us call upon it and harness its energy and powers to get us through a situations and particular moments. Unlike a Spirit Animal we can choose this animal. In addition, the spirit of the animal could unite with the person it “chose” in more personal ways and one will often find similarities in traits of personality, characteristics, and synchronicity between the two. As such, the power or essence of the animal can be felt or communicated. One of the cool things is you can actually merge with a Spirit/ Power Animal. If any of you have seen any of the Twilight movies, you know that Jacob is part of a tribe that can turn into wolves. That is a Spirit/ Power Animal for him! I often tell clients to imagine they are one with the animal. For example, let’s say you have a Spirit/ Power Animal that is a lion. You can literally ask the lion to merge with you. It would feel as if the animal was the outside shield protecting you while you were inside and safe from harsh energies.

Here is a great Meditation to help you find your Spirit Animal.

  1. Create a safe private space that you can relax in private free from interruption including all electronics.
  2. You will want to create sacred space. You can use holy water, crystals, prayer, or call in the  guides, and angels you work with. You can also call in the 4 directions (east, south, west, & north) and Mother Earth and Father Sky. If you do not know how to do this, you can read about it here: http://thefourwinds.com/blog/shamanism/opening-sacred-space/
  3. You will want to relax by either sitting or lying down in a position which keeps your back straight. Use sounds of nature to help you be present in this meditation.
  4. Relax and breathe. Allow your body to release all tension, beginning at the top of your head or crown chakra. Then, as you continue to breathe, you will find that all negativity and stress have released out your feet and into the Earth.
  5. When you feel ready, invite your spirit animal to come forward. Don’t panic if an animal doesn’t immediately appear. Trust in your intuition and it will come. When it does, welcome them into your energy field. You will also want to thank it for the messages and insight it is going to provide you.
  6. You will want to create a dialogue with the animal. Start by asking it if it is your spirit animal. Once you confirm, ask it any questions you may have. You may want to ask its name, what its purpose in helping you is, you can ask about certain areas of your life that you may need assistance with and so on.
  7. Once you have received all the insight you desire, you will once again want to thank your spirit animal for showing up in your meditation.
  8. You will once again want to focus on your breathing, you will become more present as you return to your sacred space. Take some time to thank any other spirits, guides, angels etc. You will also want to thank the four direction.
  9. You may want to journal about your experience so you can go back and remember the insight that your spirit animal provided you.

Once you know your spirit animal or power animal is, you can work with it through any form of meditation, prayer, or by simply asking that it to join you for the day. I have even seen people incorporate their animal in their jewelry. You can always look for signs of the actual animal as well. This can serve as a reminder that they are with you. The more you work with these animals the deeper connection you will have and the stronger you will trust your own intuition. I love using the site http://www.whats-your-sign.com/ to look up the spiritual meaning of the animal that comes through. It is very detailed and you will learn why that animal is in your life. It is a privilege to work with any type of spirit animal or power animal energy. Consider it just as important as any other relationships you have. Your animal will be there for you and protect you. Stay open to receiving and it will always show up for you.

“I think of animals more as spirits that come and go. They enter our lives at a particular time and they leave at a particular time. The whole glorious history of animals with people is about joy and connection. It’s about loving this creature and letting this creature love you.” – Jon Katz

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships: Part 2

A few years ago, I wrote “An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships”. It has been by far our most popular blog. What I have learned from this is that love is really universal and so is energy. People from all over the world are experiencing the same things regarding love and relationship. This applies whether it is a parent, a sibling, co-workers or a romantic partner. As an empath, you are so sensitive to energy shifts from people, places, things and world events. Here are some answers to the most common questions over the years and some additional information.

One of the most common things I know I have experienced, as well as others, is this ping pong effect that can happen with someone you are really close with, especially a partner. Let’s say that your partner is going through an incredibly challenging time. As a result, they shut down emotionally and it is like a stone wall barrier. Although the situation has nothing to do with you personally, you feel the energy of the situation very strongly. It is very common that you may pick up the other person’s emotions of sadness, anxiety, frustration, loneliness, depression and more. Many times you may think that it is you feeling that way when, in fact, it is the other person. Then what can happen when you are both really close like a husband or wife, or in a romantic relationship, and both of you are sensitive to energy the energy can bounce back and forth from each of you, creating the ping pong effect. You may feel helpless in this type of situation, or feel like you are going crazy, or not know what to do at all. Honestly, the best thing you can do is to center your energy and ground yourself. By you doing this, you will also impact the other person’s energy and help them ground and center their own energy without even realizing it. It can help a couple out of that ping pong feeling and allow those feelings of anxiety, depression etc. to shift into peace, happiness and feelings of living in the present. You can review some information about centering and grounding in part one which you can read here: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/02/01/an-empaths-guide-to-dating-and-relationships/

Last year, I wrote a book called “Spiritual Grounding and More: A Reference Guide & Manual” It has four difference grounding techniques plus an additional one for after travel. It also has a lot of extra tools such as protecting your energy, clearing your chakras, and more. If you want more information or to download a copy of the e-book version click here:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/246931027/spiritual-grounding-more-a-manual-and?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=spiritual%20grounding&ref=sr_gallery_2

Another common question, has been about someone being an empath in a relationship. Sometimes past issues come up for them causing fear and panic. This causes them to abruptly walk away from the relationship even though they care about the other person. This can be a really hard thing to deal with. I know I myself have dealt with these feeling in a relationship. We all have things called triggers, and it is very common for those triggers to carry on from one relationship to another, even unintentionally. Honestly, you may not even know you have a trigger about something until you start a new relationship. The most common one I have come across has been around communication. Let’s say that you were in a past relationship with someone who kept things from you and lied with the intention of misleading your or hurting you, such as cheating or manipulation. I spent most of my college years in just that scenario. Then, you meet a great person and you are like “yes, this is it”. You start a new relationship and a few months in you start to notice that they are quite or you feel maybe they are being secretive about stuff. Because of your past experience with this emotion, your ego will automatically make you think that the same thing is happening again.  Now there can be many reasons why someone is acting secretive that don’t involve cheating. Perhaps they are dealing with something personal with which they don’t want to burden you. Or, maybe the new relationship is bringing up a trigger for them as well and they are trying to work through it without you thinking they have lost their mind. They may even be having issues with self- worth or feelings of they don’t deserve you. These are very common feelings for an Empath to feel. The best way to avoid a breaking point where someone walks away is to talk about it and be honest about your feelings. This will be a challenge for some as having talks about your feelings can make you feel vulnerable and sometimes you don’t understand your feelings or know how to describe them. You will want to do a few things before asking the other person if “you can talk”. First you will want to make sure you are grounded and your energy is protected before having that kind of conversation. Next, make sure you both have a full stomach, because, let’s face it when someone is hungry, the energy of angry and annoyance can escalate emotions. Also, if you know you need to have one of these kinds of talks, ask the Universe to show you the right time to do so. Then keep yourself open so you see when they tell you the right time is. Also, you don’t want to have this type of conversation when either of you is tired, angry or frustrated about another situation. And, when you speak to the person, it is important not to play the blame game or say things below the belt or make someone feel ashamed of their feelings. That is the fastest way to get an Empath to walk away. Be completely honest with the other person and maybe even share things about yourself and allow yourself to feel vulnerable. This will help open the lines of communication. In my case, I make sure I am grounded and that my partner and I are fed and relaxed. When I feel the time is right, I work certain topics into the conversation. The two Archangels I highly suggest working with in this situation are Archangel Gabriel, who is the Archangel of communication, and Archangel Raguel, who can help with fairness and resolving disagreements.

Another popular question that comes up is what is my biggest recommendation for an Empath? I can’t stress enough the impact that daily affirmations can have on your life as an Empath.  It will help you stay in the moment, focus on yourself, and allow you to be in your own energy instead of feeling everyone else’s. Also another tip is to ask to be disconnected from the mass consciousness before you go to sleep. This will help your mind and body heal while you sleep and allow you to actually sleep better because your mind won’t be racing about things you saw on social media or TV.

Here are some other tools I really love for assistance for Empaths:

  • The Spiritual Power of Empathy by Cyndi Dale
  • The Reluctant Empath by Bety Comerford and Steve Wilson
  • The Art of Empathy by Karla McLaren

http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/empathy/empathy_exercises.htm

http://humansarefree.com/2013/11/coping-tips-for-empaths-to-help-you.html

http://boforbes.com/yoga-practice-lab/blog/feel-pain-empaths-guide-staying-balanced/

This is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for anxiety that can be very helpful as an Empath:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWu3rSEddZI&t=279

Products that have been helpful:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/248459653/energy-grounding-protection-oil?ref=shop_home_active_7

http://cocreativehealth.com/shop/self-care/grounding/

https://doterra.com/us/en/p/balance-grounding-blend-oil

Stones and Crystals are also great for an Empath. You can place them under your pillow while you sleep, carry them in your pocket or purse throughout the day, or ladies can even wear them in their bra. Here is a great site where you can read all about Stones and crystals for Emapths and how they can help: http://www.crystalrockstar.com/crystals-for-empaths/#.WJBXEfkrLIU. I personally happen to love Lepidolite.

Being an Empath is nothing to be afraid or embarrassed of. We are living in a time unlike any other on earth. People are becoming more aware of spirituality. As a whole, we are raising our vibrations as a culture even if it doesn’t feel that way. We are also inundated, like never before, with information and news. If you are an Empath just be aware that you are impacted by these things, especially images you see on television. Our eyes cannot make the distinction between something on television and something that is happening right in front of us. So, when the message gets up to our brain, our mind and body then react accordingly. This may even activate or fight or flight responses which can wreak havoc on our health. Above all love yourself through the process. The more self-love you have the more love…relationships overall.  You will feel more confident in your interactions with people.  The world needs Empaths right now. I hope you found some good tools to help you along the journey. If you have additional questions, or want some help with a certain situation, feel free to email us here: contact@elysianld.com

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.” ― Anthon St. Maarten

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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A Year In Review

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I remember as a child it felt like time was taking forever. Now as an adult I feel like I blinked and this year was almost over. Last December I was so excited, and thought 2016 is going to be the best yet! Being the year of completion, I thought I was going to clear my patterns and karma. I thought it would be easy and I would be fantastic. Boy was I wrong! One of the things I learned this year is that what you think you are going to work on and learn can be completely different than what the Universe has in store for you. But, remember that even though it may seem like the Universe is out to get you, it isn’t. We all face different challenges, setbacks, illnesses because they will either help us grow and expand, or will help us see and learn areas in our lives that need attention or the ones we were either ignoring or avoiding. The months leading up to this year, I could feel things shifting for me specifically health-wise. Whenever I wasn’t paying attention to something important that was shown over and over again, my physical body would step in and get my attention and force me to stop and notice. It started slowly in August and progressively got worse in the months following. Then, in December I ended up spending the week leading up to Christmas in the Hospital. That was when I realized that 2016 was not going to be as easy or exciting as I had thought.

With each changing of the season, I would do whatever I could to welcome in the change needed to heal or clear away whatever it was that was keeping me in this pattern. There were times I would get frustrated, because I would make plans in July for October thinking, for sure I will be better by then. October would arrive and I somehow developed a new issue. I remember having multiple conversations with God telling him “listen, I get it, but can I deal with one thing at a time instead of multiple things.” And it wasn’t like they were small things either. Over and over during the year, I found myself back to where the year started in the hospital. And, trust me, despite trying very hard to keep a positive attitude, I was mad as hell. When you are struggling, it is easy to feel that you have been abandoned. If you already have abandonment issues, they are intensified on top of everything else happening. I felt like even my guides had left because I didn’t have the interaction I once felt with them. When I would ask them why, I was told they hadn’t gone anywhere. In fact, they were still right there with me. They explained that at that moment, what I needed was to be in the physical to spend all my energy on healing. When I interact with them, my own essence is in the Spiritual and although it is important to be in both, that is not where I was meant to be at that time. That often made me more upset. I liked the spiritual and we often try to seek the highest vibration. All of this made me feel like I was vibrating at a much lower level.

Despite knowing my path, by midyear I felt more confused than ever about what I was meant to do. But how could this be a part of my path? It was the Spring Equinox. Despite running and fever and barely being able to walk, I went outside and stood in the grass and gave it all to the Universe as I had done so many times before. I was so ready just to feel better and I wanted all of the health issues gone! As I was standing there letting everything go, the wind started blowing and I could feel everything that I was releasing being blown away. When I opened my eyes, I saw bumble bees. Bumble bees represent personal power and many think they are representatives of the sun. I thought for sure I would wake up the next day and just be magically healed. The day after I would wake up the same.

Many people over the last year have asked me how I can stay so positive? I tell them, trust me I have my moments I am not so positive. There were times where I felt it was so much easier to give in or not care because I had not only been dealing with it this year. I have been dealing with health issues for sixteen years. Besides doctor appointments, tests, procedures, infusions and transfusions, I was doing physical therapy three times a week. In the beginning I would get so tired and it would hurt so badly. I had someone special tell me if I don’t try or don’t push myself just a little further every time, the only person I would be hurting was myself. That was a key shift in the process. How would I know what I was capable of unless I tried? So I started trying things I would normally do. There were definitely times that I couldn’t do them, but at least I tried. I would keep trying repeatedly and I eventually succeeded.

So even though I still have challenges I am working on, next year is the year of New Beginnings.  I have hope that new beginnings will be the areas of my health. I have, however, learned some important lessons this year.

  1. It is important, that no matter what you are facing, to have patience, not only with yourself but others.
  2. Even if others do not understand what you are going through, it is ok, because not everyone is meant to.
  3. I learned empathy on another level that I had not known before. When I see people with their own set of physical limitations, I will have a unique perspective because I have been there too.
  4. There were time this year where I had to say no to things, or to put myself first. That was the first time in 33 years that I had to do that. We are taught somewhere in life that putting ourselves first sometimes or saying no to things like family events or social functions is being selfish and that is wrong. It is not wrong, it is listening to our bodies and having enough respect for ourselves to honor our intuition.
  5. Regardless of how we may feel, we are never abandoned spiritually or physically. It can be hard to find that right balance between not wanting people in your business or just having pity on you, and having the support you need and desire to get you through both here on earth and in heaven.

Often times in our lives we must face the consequences of decisions we made as teenagers or young adults. For years I thought it was unfair, because how could someone so young be responsible for something I would have to deal with as an adult. It took me a good part of this year to realize it didn’t have to be that way at all. We are all different people now than we were in our youth. We all grow and evolve. And, sometimes it is really hard to forgive people that abandoned us, betrayed us, hated us, called us names, bullied us or put us in really uncomfortable situations. How do we forgive those people? I wish I had the answer to that question! I do know that it really all starts with forgiving ourselves. Taking ownership of whatever part we played in things that lead us to our present is important. Maybe we didn’t always make the best choices. Knowing that it is ok to just release the parts that are no longer serving you. Think of it this way. At some point we will meet that special someone. From the moment of that meeting the past doesn’t seem to matter. Life will always be different. Sometimes that is a man, or a women or even a child. In that moment we strive to become a better person not for them, but for ourselves. I think this year of completion has brought, to most of us, the ability to love and accept ourselves even through the tough times we face, or the moments we want to give up but don’t. I think if we all look back to where we were this time last year, we will find ourselves a little wiser, stronger and with expanded souls for all the new beginnings coming our way next year!

“Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes every mosquito, every misfortune, every red light, every traffic jam, every obnoxious supervisor (or employee), every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression, every addition, every piece of garbage, every breath. Every moment is the guru.” – Charlotte Joko Beck

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to enhance your spiritual vision

cf041c82-2537-4e49-9f15-2e236d69d520I have been on my own journey of expanding my spiritual vision for almost 6 years now. After thinking about it, haven’t most of us been on some kind of spiritual vision quest for most of our lives even if we didn’t realize it. We go through various things in life that take us to that next level in our spiritual talents. Some call it a “gut feeling” some call it “intuition” but more often than not it is the same thing. Sometimes you just get that feeling inside you or perhaps have a vision in your mind that you should just go for something, or stay away. Hopefully, these tools will help you trust in those feelings more and expand your own spiritual vision.

The following is a great exercise to try when trying to open your third eye or expand spiritual insight. I personally tried it and found it incredibly helpful. So, that is why I have recommended it to others and they also experienced great results. You can read through the details here, be sure to follow the instructions precisely:  http://www.wakingtimes.com/2012/10/05/open-your-third-eye-and-awaken-your-pineal-gland-with-these-simple-exercises/

Another way to enhance your spiritual vision is through Meditation. Meditation has many benefits that can help in many areas in life and this can be a major one. Often times when we learn to quiet our mind, even if it is just for 10 minutes, we can slow our minds down from the fast pace of life and we can learn things from the connection of spirit that meditation can bring. There are also lots of amazing guided meditations on YouTube that you can watch for free that can really help not only allow you to get in a relaxed state but strengthen your inner vision. Sound can also be another way to not only enhance the meditation experience but also assist you in awakening senses that can enhance your spiritual vision. Helpful sounds could be drumming, singing bowls, chanting, etc. You may start to feel your third eye chakra (the area in the middle of your forehead above both eyes) start to pulse or vibrate. The more you use your spiritual abilities you will find that, over time, this can happen very easily.

A major part of enhancing your spiritual vision is trusting the messages or insights you start to receive. It can take years to truly start to trust yourself and believe that you have accurate insight. So, be sure to have some patience with yourself. Let’s face it. We have all wondered at some point “oh I made that up in my head” or “maybe I am losing my mind.” No one is playing deception with you. Trust what you hear. The more you realize what you heard was right the easier it will become to listen and possibly act on the messages. There is a game I like to play with my Guides to help me build my own levels of trust. It has helped other do so also. I talk about how you can play the game too in a previous blog. You can read here:

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

As part of any journey that awakens a new part of your thinking, it is important to really care for yourself on mind, body and spiritual levels while you are going through this process. I remember when I realized the things I was hearing weren’t in my head I was afraid to fall asleep. I thought if I did I would wake up and my abilities and insight would be gone. Once I got over that fear, I learned over the years that once the light switch per say is flipped on the only reason if will turn off is if you ask for it to shut down. You always have the ability to “shut down” should you become overwhelmed or feel that you are experiencing things that you don’t want to experience. But, if you decide you want to remain open, you will. So, it is important to treat your mind and body well so you don’t burnout during the process. Just stay positive, have patience, and practice your spiritual vision. Then, the whole world can open up to you.

“The more boundless your vision, the more real you are.” – Deepak Chopra

Stay Inspired

Stacey

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Manifestation: Abundance, Prosperity & Wealth! 

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“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.” Anne Bradstreet

Let’s face it we could all use some more abundance, prosperity and wealth in our lives. I know when I first started learning to manifest, I was so worried I would do it incorrectly and screw it all up, but the good news is, you really can’t do it wrong. Regardless of what method or tools you decide to use to manifest with, 99% of it is the intention behind it. So, unless you are asking for lack of abundance, prosperity or wealth, you’re good. Here are some of the things I like to work with when doing manifestation work:

Before you begin, make sure you have a clear picture of the outcome that you desire. Try writing it down as many times as necessary until you have it just right. Make sure you are clear and specific with your intention. Remember that is mostly your own magic that brings your manifested desires into reality.

First you may choose to set up a place in your home specifically for this purpose. It will help you better visualize your intentions; much like a 3D vision board. You may choose to decorate your altar with stones, crystals or even statues. A good statue for an altar for abundance, prosperity & wealth would be Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of exactly that. You can find a statue of her in many sizes, colors, etc. You can even frame a photo you love instead of using a statue. You can also use stones or herbs depending on your liking. This will help increase the energy vibrations of your manifestation. Citrine, Rose Quartz and Aventurine are all good choices for stones, especially for beginners. Other tools you can use are binaural beats for manifesting abundance. Song has great power in shifting energy. So, you can either listen to it while thinking of your intention, or perhaps listen to it while falling asleep at night.

A personal favorite of mine is the Rose of Jericho. I have to admit when I first came across it, I was unsure of how it would work. I made sure I followed the directions as explained in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5tXfQOPwYI by the shop owner from whom I purchased it. I used holy water in the bowl and, to try it, I used pennies and asked that each penny represented $100. Once the plant had opened into a full bloom I placed 13 pennies in it and then let the plant close back up and then reopen. Within a week, I received the $1,300 I had asked for from the manifestation exercise. So be prepared when you use the Rose of Jericho because wealth will find its way to you.

When you are doing any kind of manifestation work, besides a solid intention, you may find that you want to work with an affirmation while the Universe is bringing you your desires. You may want to include something such as “I am worthy of the abundance coming my way”, or “My income is constantly increasing,” these will allow you to stay true in your belief that your intention was heard by the Universe and the Divine is assisting you to reach your goals.

And finally, be sure to express gratitude not only when you receive it, but while it is still manifesting. Go in with the attitude that it is already done! Express gratitude every day for it as you never know the unexpected ways the Universe will provide it for you. Be realistic with it while practicing then after a while you can work your way up to becoming a millionaire!

You may find that when you try to live a life of abundance on a regular basis, the more abundance and prosperity will find its way to you. Even if you can add in one activity that can help you live an abundant life instead of a scarcity mindset, you will notice how your life will start to change. Below you will find a list of characteristic of living in abundance by having an abundance consciousness or living a in a scarcity mindset.

Abundance Consciousness

  • Accept responsibility for their failures.
  • Continuously learn.
  • Embrace change.
  • Exude joy.
  • Forgive others.
  • Give other people credit for their victories.
  • Have a sense of gratitude.
  • Keep a “to-be” list.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Operate from a transformational perspective.
  • Read every day. Talk about ideas.
  • Set goals and develop life plans.
  • Share information and data.
  • Want others to succeed.

Scarcity Mindset

  • Blame others for their failures.
  • Don’t know what they want to be.
  • Exude anger.
  • Fear change.
  • Fly by their seat of their pants.
  • Have a sense of entitlement.
  • Hold a grudge.
  • Horde information and data.
  • Never set goals.
  • Operate from a transactional perspective.
  • Say they keep a journal but really don’t.
  • Secretly hope others fail.
  • Take all the credit for their victories.
  • Talk about people.
  • Think they know it all.
  • Watch TV every day.

In the end, have fun with your manifestation work and do not be afraid to try new things and see how they work for you. Add in your own spiritual tools that you may already know and love. Make the manifestation work your own and that will make it even more powerful!

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Your going through an Awakening: Now what?

8ebef193-024a-47c2-bfcf-ac2bd429ea8e“Divine desperateness is the beginning of spiritual awakening because it gives rise to the aspiration for God-realization” – Meher Baba

Over the past few years you may have heard the term “spiritual awakening” a lot as it seems to be a trendy topic and everyone seems to be having one. But, for those of us who have been through one and lived to tell the tale know it isn’t always rainbows and unicorns. So why do we actually have to have a Spiritual Awakening anyway? Here are some of the top reasons and ultimate desired outcomes from the process:

  • To discover your true inner self , the spiritual you, and to connect to this self through a increase in consciousness during the awareness process
  • To raise your consciousness to higher levels on a spiritual level
  • Learn to love and accept yourself and others fully
  • Discover any spiritual gifts or reawaken the ones that you closed off
  • Discover your purpose and life calling
  • Develop empathy and sensitivity for people, animals and nature
  • Learn to experience life in the moment and to the fullest

Through this process, it is very common to question everything in your life. Things that used to make you happy suddenly aren’t as appealing as they once were. This includes friends, work, habits etc. Many times people who begin to go through a spiritual awakening find that they stop drinking and smoking because they understand that, on a soul level, those behaviors no longer serve who they are anymore. Relationships may shift during this process. Also, you may no longer connect with people with whom you did in the past. At the same time, you may develop deeper connections with people whom you feel know the “real” you as you discover who that is. The number one thing I see with people starting their spiritual awakening is not being happy with their career anymore and wanting to make a drastic change, not for money, but to make their soul happy.

Finding out who you are is really the beginning of anything from relationships, career, family, health and the elements around you. By knowing yourself you can have a better understanding about your role in the world and how there is really no separation between you, the Divine and nature.

There are a few things to be aware of that I feel no one really talks about when you read about having a Spiritual Awakening. Many times to in order to really have change in your life, you may feel like your life completely falls apart, or it is just one thing after another that happens. You should know that the Universe is not trying to frustrate you or feel like you have been abandoned. Sometimes drastic measures have to happen for you to pay attention and really look at things and want to make room for how these changes will impact you for the better long term because more often than not we don’t seek change. It finds us and we must decide if we are going to step into it or be dragged into it. Another part of your life you may see impacted is, your health. Although I can talk with Spirit, I don’t always listen to their advice for me and there insight can tend to become background noise. I know it’s there but don’t always tune in. Well, when that happens and I am really supposed to hear the messages Spirit tends to get my attention by having something physical happen to make me stop in my tracks. Nothing will make you stop and slow down like an injury, illness or a health scare in general. I usually try to make a deal like “oh, I will do this if you can make this better” I warn you that only works a few times if you don’t keep your word. You may not always see how that issue relates to your awakening, but in the end the issues are always connected, whether it’s to love yourself, have more empathy for others, or to bring your purpose to light. The Divine will never do something “just because”. Everything happens for a reason. One day you will realize why it was necessary. Another thing to be aware of is that, while you are going through your spiritual awakening, you are going to want to make the world a better place. You will want to share your new knowledge with everyone especially friends or family that you feel may not be living in the best version of themselves just because you have seen the light. No one is going to want to hear that you feel they are doing something wrong anymore that you would like to hear it from them. Often, if you are really close to the person you can easily become consumed by wanting to help them. You want to make it easier for them than it was for you. But, here is the truth, are you ready… It’s not your problem and it’s not your place. Just like when someone has an addiction no one can change that about them unless they want to change it. Step back and say “Not my monkeys, not my circus”. It’s best to just be there for that person if they want to talk about it with you. You never know if talking with you is part of their own journey that will stimulate the change leading up to their spiritual awakening.

You may feel you have been going through the process of a spiritual awakening forever and maybe you have. It can take years and years to go through the process. Or, you don’t have many issues and it only takes you months. What I do know is that you usually do not go through this process by choice. You don’t wake up one day and say “I’m going to start my spiritual awakening today” because it is honestly one of the hardest things you will ever experience. The other thing is that it is very hard to stop the process once you have started it. Delaying the process will potentially only make it worse once it comes back around because it will and usually when it is inconvenient for you.
Now there are also some really amazing things that happen in this process that will empower  and ultimately change your life for the better.  This will probably include really loving and accepting who you are for the first timeprocess, .ifes one of the best…include really loving and accepting who you are for the first time. Not caring who knows whom i. Not caring who knows whom is one of the best gifts you can truly have in this life. So, when you feel defeated along the way, or wish you could stop the process, I urge you to power through it and make it to the other side and see what the Universe has in store for you.

Stay Inspired

Stacey

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