When Reflection Turns To Growth…

Life… It can often be very complex, confusing, difficult and yet amazing, exciting and a blessing. Sometimes all of the above happen within the same day. As humans, we fluctuate our energy with the earth, and with others around us. Without the downs in life, we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the joy of the up’s and vice versa.  Over the last year and a half, it seems like both as individuals and as humanity in general, we have been pushed to the edge and asked to trust in a higher source to guide us on our path. That, however, can be hard to do. Years ago, I knew a retired priest, and I asked him, “If Jesus Christ came back to Earth, what do you think would happen?” At the time, that seemed like a very logical question. As a child, I worried about the end of days. Now, as an adult, it doesn’t have the same effects on me. So what did the priest say, you may be asking… He said “I think the same thing would happen. Not crucified, in public like before, but no one would believe him to be Jesus so that he would be persecuted again.” His answer perplexed me for so many years, and in many way it still does. As humans we can have a pattern to mistrust people. I think that may come from fears of not trusting ourselves in many ways.

Over the past month, I have noticed many people, myself included, almost doing a life review. I think there is something about the winter that brings people to reflect. Also as things around us have to die to transform, and that is often how our energy works. We have to be willing to let go and allow things about ourselves to die in a way. Old limiting beliefs. One of my least favorite limiting beliefs is my inability to forgive myself for things I didn’t know 20 years ago. How dare I have the audacity to not have an additional 20 years of wisdom when I was only a teenager? Sometimes it feels like we are constantly trying to work through something. The Human body, energy etc, is like an onion, there is always another layer to be worked out.

Maybe you spent years working through a physical issue only to find out it was an emotional issue with also left an energetic footprint. It can be so frustrating sometimes to work through all these things and feel like you are always so close to the finish line. As I mentioned before, winter is often considered a time of reflection in many ways. Without removing all the things that are no longer serving you, there is no room for all the things you are trying to create. A lot is changing in the world over the next two years. The Universe is asking you right now, do you what to continue to be untrusting of anything and everything? Or, perhaps you want believe that you are being guided every day by a higher source. Even though, believe it or not, I have my trust issues sometimes in life, I do know one thing. The Divine comes through when you need them. It may not be the way you want them to, or expect them to. But, your blessing will always be delivered to you.  So where are my top 5 things that I have learned in my own reflection time so far this year that has led to my personal growth that will perhaps help you in yours.

1. If you are feeling unworthy of blessings in your life, or that you are not good enough in some way, STOP. Come to a place within yourself that the Creation, GOD, Universe, whatever you believe in, made you exactly how you are meant to be. From every freckle, scar, wrinkle, etc they are all battle wounds. You are perfect just being you. Only you can truly help yourself feel worthy by coming to terms with the fact that you may have your moments of imperfection. But, that is what makes you perfectly you and perfectly worthy of being you. Sometimes when I am feeling all the normal human feelings of myself and the world, and it can seem overwhelming, I talk to GOD. I ask him “what are you going to do with me?” His response… “love you”. Meaning, GOD will always love you just as you are, unconditionally.
2. In life, we will all play the would a, sould a, could a game. Trust me, forgive yourself and move on. 99.9% of the time the stuff you are worried about won’t matter in 2 years.
3. If you want to having truly good relationships in your life, you must first have a good relationship with yourself. Without that, you will be unable to accept the love offered by others. Life can be a hall of mirrors sometimes, and that hall of mirrors can be your worst nightmare. If something keeps reflecting at you, do yourself a favor, don’t require the other person to change, simply do some of the work and change it within yourself. It won’t always be easy, but it will be worth it. This goes for any relationship in your life, co-workers, family, friends, romantic, etc.
4. If you start building the trust relationship with yourself, you will start seeing how you trust in others, as well as GOD, Universe, the Divine. Just take one day out of the week. For that one day, ask GOD, your Guides, Source energy to lead you. Trust your intuition just for that day and see what happens.
5. I spent a lot of time thinking about the question that I asked the priest so many years ago about his thoughts on Jesus. Without getting into too much religion, for the sake of my findings, I am going to approach it from the Holy Trinity of the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit and combine them in the word God. Here are my thoughts about that. God is everywhere and in everything. God is love, God is peace, God is the air, God is the silence, God is the person asking for help. God is within you. God is within me. Yes, there are people and things in this world that sometimes make it very difficult to trust or keep faith in humanity. But, there is still goodness and kindness in the world. When you see acts of kindness, that is God, that is Jesus, that is whatever faith you believe in showing you the works of a higher source, and that, you can always trust. The Divine will never lead you down the wrong path. It may take you awhile to get where you need to go, but you will always be there exactly when you need to.

As a new season is approaching, the trees, plants, animals are going to begin to grow, bloom and play. You will find yourself coming out of your state of reflection and be able to see your growth that took place. Remember it is not a sprint, but a marathon. You WILL get to where you need to be. So I leave you with this… Namaste (The God in me, recognizes the God in you).

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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A Spiritual approach to De-Clutter your life & why it’s important…

This year, more than ever, I felt surrounded by “stuff”! On all levels, I was cluttered. In my mind, my surroundings and everything felt like it was busting at the seams. I would both physically and energetically clean my space, and yet it would still feel like something was off. Then I realized that I had to start to de-clutter my life. Truth is I was a much different person when I was in my twenties than I was in my mid-thirties. In my twenties, it was “things” that I collected that were fake fulfilling me. When looking back, I was an internal mess in my twenties. At one point I had 100 pairs of shoes. A) I am not proud of that and B) no one needs that many shoes. Reality is most of the shoes hurt my feet and I never wore them or wore them once, but kept them for some kind of sentimental value. We will discuss this shortly. When I turned thirty, I had a shift. It wasn’t because I was in a new decade of my life. Things that once made me happy were suddenly not as fulfilling as they once were. I had a dramatic overhaul of shifts in perspective. Suddenly, material items like brand names, bags, belts, jewelry, shoes etc were not what made me happy anymore. To be honest, those things never did. They only masked the internal clutter I was trying to hide such as my stress, unhappiness, depression, anger, frustration and other emotions I didn’t want to feel and more. Without realizing it, I had formed unhealthy attachments to objects. I bought them to fill a void. It didn’t work.

So, even though it took about 5 years for this shift to fully come into perspective, and probably even longer. I found myself at 35 and wondering what the heck to do with all this stuff? When you go through a major life overhaul it can be overwhelming. So, I suggest you start in steps. If you are like me, make a list of the steps you want to take. You will want to have three lists going for yourself, and sub-lists within each list. The first list is all of the clutter that fills up your mind. All the things you worry about over which you have no control. That one was first on my list and I have been working on that for a good three years and I will probably be a work in progress on that for the rest of my life.  Then you want to write down on that list as well, all the people that hold space in your head that don’t deserve to. I speak from experience! Cut them free from your head or send them a rent bill every month, because it is not worth it. Forgive them, forgive yourself and then let it go, and repeat if and when necessary. Then, write everything else on the list that clutters your head. Like, finances, security etc. Then, go through the list and cross off things over which you have no control. Automatically, those get cut and let go. I never thought a day would come where I would complain and say, I am paying too much for my phone bill or my cable bill. But, the day came. If finances are something that fills your head with clutter, the best thing you can do it actually look at them. See where you stand. See where you can adjust and make changes. What is each worth for you to keep in your life? Call the vendors you work with and see if there is any way they can lower your monthly bill. For me, I looked at my bills, I decided to get rid of cable. Yes, it took some adjustment. But, I was already paying a membership to Amazon Prime and had access to Netflix so spending over $100 just in cable didn’t make sense. Just like 100 pairs of shoes, I didn’t need to be watching that much TV anyway. I wanted quiet in my life and to be able to hear nature. I changed car insurance companies where I actually got more for less money. My point is to look at areas of your life and see where the money is going and adjust where you can and how you can. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the shift happens and then it becomes your comfortable place. Finances are hard for people. They are often the area that keeps people in places they don’t want to be any more for many different reasons. Make financial choices that your future self will thank you for. The next two lists may be harder believe it or not.

Energetically and physically clear your space. Energetically; everything that ever happens in our space leaves a residue of energy that can become imprinted in the space. Illness, doubt, arguments, negative emotions, trauma, grief and even every day energetic junk that you pick up can build up in the rooms of your space. Prosperity, high vibration, and abundance have a difficult time in lower vibration spaces. So, remove the clutter, organize, and make room for new. A rule that I have personally followed is that, if you have not used it in six months, get rid of it. Let’s be honest, we do not always have this “urge to purge”, or clean up. But, when your body tells you it is time, listen to it and just go with it. That is the absolute best time to go through your closet, cabinets, etc. When you get that urge to organize and clean things out, your emotions will less likely to interfere with your decisions of whether or not to keep sweatpants you love but can no longer wear because they are so worn out, or the CD you bought in 1998 that you now have in your digital music collection. Which organizing my digital library is also on my declutter list, as well as organizing my computer files. But like I said, let’s take small steps.  If you are the type of person who doesn’t get that urge that is ok too; try to do a good de-clutter at the change of each season. Take that feeling and drive and make a “physical things” list. This was definitely where I saw the shift happen. Like I said, I had a lot of stuff, and a lot of stuff I simply didn’t use anymore. And, not only did I have stuff in my home, I also had some at my parent’s house too. (I know they will read this and say to themselves and you still do…again I am self-proclaimed work in progress.) Like I said before, the basic rule to de-clutter anything is; if you haven’t used it in six months it is time to let it go. This is where keeping things for sentimental reasons can come into play. You may not even want to do a list for the physical stuff and just start purging. When you have one of those moods where you just want to clean, that is your best time to do it. You will not be influenced by your emotions to keep that t-shirt from that place, a person visited and brought back for you that you never wear. No! It’s time to let that go. Now, when I decided to go through this phase I also took on being better to the environment. So, I didn’t want to throw anything away. Everything I was letting go of either had to be donated, given to a friend who wanted it, or recycled. So, make a pile of what is what. When I questioned an item, I put it in the Goodwill pile. I had a lot of really nice expensive things that I was going to let friends get first dibs on and so those went in a separate pile. The one thing I definitely came to terms with while I was doing this was that I had more than one bad habit in my twenties besides smoking. The first rule to any recovery process is admitting you have a problem. I had a big one on my hands that I didn’t want anymore. Like the shoes, I had to have because they matched my bag. Guess what, I never wore them. I bet if I added up everything I donated it would come to thousands of dollars. Someone said, “why don’t you sell these things”?  Honestly, I was at the point I just wanted to give them a new life. If they were just going to sit in my closet like they had for the last six years, it was time to let it go and cut my losses. It got to the point where a friend asked me in a concerned voice, “why are you getting rid of all your stuff”? Are you planning on moving across the world or going somewhere”? I simply told them, “I just have too much and it is an older version of myself that I no longer am, and I am ready to let that go and free myself from that version of myself.” Now listen closely people. We all have those one pair of pants or that one item that looked amazing 15 to 20lbs ago that we hang on to as a goal. It is time to let those go as well. Now, this is a multilayered physical list that, for some, may require years to fully work through and that is ok. Besides Goodwill, I also like to donate to Dress for Success, and a local organization that helps families get back on their feet after disasters like house fires etc. Maybe you want to donate your items to a church or organization you like to work with. The point is let the items you are no longer using get a fresh start with someone who needs them. It may take you longer to spread the wealth and find new homes. For instance; you have tons of new bottles of hand lotion that you know you are never going to use.  For those who can’t afford such a luxury your donation would be like a lottery win. There are a lot of women’s shelters and shelters in general that will take items off of your hands. Re-gain your energy, space and emotional well-being. You will be amazed at how accomplished, happy, lighter and at ease, you will feel once you declutter your space. Only then will you see how the clutter was impacting you. I always found that when my home felt cluttered my overall life felt cluttered and stagnant. Even after days of work and many bags of things to drop off at donation locations, I still felt like there was a lot left. But again, I am a work in progress. I, at least, got the Chi moving in my space and it was starting to feel good. In the right space, you can accomplish your dreams. Sometimes that space is outside of you, and sometimes it is internally. And, if you’re lucky, you’re outside surroundings start to match your internal cleansing process.

The last list is all the internal things you need to de-clutter which takes the longest and is often the most stubborn and challenging. Looking back I think I have been de-cluttering my soul all my life. At least feels that way. Now, I wouldn’t suggest trying to do everything at once like I did, because it can often times it can feel like a crash diet where you are setting yourself up for failure. There were many times during the soul part of the de-clutter I felt like a failure, that I need to be better, do better, and be the best version of myself I could be. Again, I think this list is one we work all of our lives because on because as humans we are constantly evolving, changing, upgrading ourselves, working through things, dissolving toxic relationships even with ourselves, and working on boundaries. Not to even mention all of the past life stuff we internally hold. If you are empathic, you are also carrying everyone else’s “stuff” you are carrying around with you also.  There is no quick fix when it comes to de-cluttering your soul. But, when you combine these lists that is where you start to see the impact on your soul. During my de-cluttering phase, I took a look at my actions, limitations, how I was treating and caring for my body, soul as well as others, and environment. I stopped using straws and reduced the amount of trash I had, and focus on how I was impacting the environment. I started taking better care of my skin, and feeling my feelings and not filling them with things. I looked at foods that I was putting in my body and how they were processed. I worked on my feelings towards myself and removed fears and triggers. This is also when you have to learn to say “NO”. Not only to other people that are causing these triggers for you but to yourself as well. No, you don’t need that etc. Whenever I “wanted to buy” something, I slept on that decision overnight and 99% of the time I didn’t want it anymore. And, yes that is something I will have to continue to work on every day. But, when you become more fulfilled internally than externally, you don’t need all this “stuff”. I used to look at the world’s problems as something that was too big for me to fix and it was so overwhelming. It is as if Humans are literally hoarding the Earth and there was nothing that I could do to make that better. But, I was wrong. I could stop contributing to the problem. By going through this process, I not only think about what I am buying from a financial standpoint, but I have a different perspective of need and want after purging my life. So, I accumulate less. I also realized that with no cable my life isn’t any less than it was and I am not missing out on that and I find less clutter in my mind. It doesn’t mean that now I am naive to the world. I just view it differently and choose to live a slower pace without the noise whenever I possibly can.

Now, this really only scratches the surface of the infinite possibilities of shifts you can experience when you de-clutter your life. Again, you will want to have patience with yourself. Don’t try and do everything at once as you may find yourself in a mind, body and soul clutter mess. Also, don’t give yourself false expectations that they next day you are suddenly going to feel amazing. Especially on the mental and soul clutter items. Now, to really de-clutter your life could take years. If that is the pace is right for you, that is ok. I still have a ton of de-cluttering left to do myself and I would imagine I will be doing it for a while still, if not my whole life. But, I do know that this process has really, for the first time, allowed me to let go of the past that I really needed to let go! Release, forgive and move forward to my present and the future me that I am building every day. One that feels fulfilled on the inside because of healthy relationships, friendship and love of myself and purpose rather than one who collects “just in case items” for a non-existing use or need.

Finally, once I have physically and energetically cleaned my home, I am started feeling like I could take a deep breath. Remember, you are going to have ups and downs and that is ok. It is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and all you can do is wake up each day and do the best you can that day and that is enough. Nothing more, nothing less than your best. Every day you have the opportunity to be the person you know you can be mistakes and all. It’s a small piece in a big picture, but can have a wonderful impact on your overall life. You don’t need to get rid of everything you own to declutter your life. It is more about the learning process that organizing and process of an item with a purpose offers. You have all you need inside of you to feel fulfilled without trying to clutter your mind, body & soul.  I hope something in this month’s blog helps you on the path to finding it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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All Things Solar Plexus Chakra…

What if I told you there was a spot within you where if you tapped into it, you could unlock courage, personal power and you could feel more worthy in your everyday life. We have all been there when we had a “gut” feeling about something and we knew it was going to be an issue. But, we did it anyway and then we wished we would have listened to our gut! That instinct and the key to unlocking the courage and personal power within you is called the Solar Plexus Chakra. We all have one. Even animals have one. But, most of us do not pay it any attention and we can go our whole lives that way. Until one day we open up to this energy source, and it changes our life.

 

What is a Chakra?

A chakra is an energy source that is within your various energy fields and the physical body. It can also be referred to as a wheel of energy.  These wheels of energy connect various energy sources within your body to each other. They then connect to your physical body, and also cosmic energy. That is how we get our “Chi, Life Force Energy, Prana” etc. We all have a large variety of Chakras within all of us. There are seven major Chakras which you may be more familiar with. Running from the Base of your tailbone up to the top of your head, these seven main Chakra’s help us stay balanced, connected and healthy. When they are all working together and aligned, they can be your best friend. But, when they are having a tough time, need support and having a temper tantrum, well let’s just say you will be in for one heck of a journey. But that is another blog in itself.

 

What is the Solar Plexus Chakra & Why is it important:

The Third Chakra, also known as the Solar Plexus Chakra, is just above your naval area. This energy source deals with raw emotions such as abundance, anger, frustration, personal power, success, worthiness, and intuitions. This Chakra is like your own personal vision board that you carry within you every day. It is the key to manifesting living your best life and achieving all of your desires. It is up to you to decide whether to focus on the positive aspects or negative ones.

 

How the Solar Plexus Chakra Affects your Physical & Emotional Health:

When this energy source is balanced, you can feel worthy, filled with confidence, happiness, feelings of achievement, success, calm and full of life like the Sun. It also allows you to remain flexible and allows you to handle life’s changes with ease. When this Chakra is unbalanced it can lead to a slew of health issues, unbalanced emotions, depression, anxiety, unhealthy boundaries, doubt, anger, digestive issues and more.

This is a unique chakra. Not only does it sit in a location that houses most of the essential organs from the stomach, large intestines, liver, nerves and headquarters for our immune system, etc. It can also be vital to our muscular system and can affect diabetes, self-esteem issues, and even arthritis.

 

Signs your Solar Plexus Chakra is blocked:

• A physical health issue such as constipation, addictive behavior, reflux issues and more.
• Difficult time keeping healthy boundaries with people and even ourselves.
• Feeling bored with life, passive, depressed and anxious.
• Oversensitive to thoughts and feelings and well as a feeling of vulnerability and an uneasiness of life.
• Overwhelming feelings of shame.
• Self- Esteem and Self-control issues.
• Weight gain and a form of energetic protection.

 

Signs your Solar Plexus Chakra is balanced:

• A clear direction of your life path and goals.
• Balanced relationships, work ethics, physical and emotional thoughts and actions.
• Motivation to achieve goals & desires.
• Positive self-esteem, sense of self and core beliefs and upholding values.
• Strong leadership skills & seeing the abundance in your life.

 

Ways to keep your Solar Plexus Chakra balanced & aligned:  

• Cut your Energy Cords on a regular basis. Ideally once a day if possible.
• Get organized in your physical space, and this will help you have the motivation to achieve other goals.
• Incorporating yellow foods into your diet such as corn, lemons, yellow peppers, yellow squash, etc.
• Physically work your core area in exercise.
• Practice positive affirmations to yourself and listen to positive uplifting music and sounds.
• Put into place healthy boundaries and set up ways to make it easy to keep them in place. For example, if you are a “yes” person to everything and someone asks you if you want to do something, simply say let me check my calendar and get back to you. This way you have some time to think about it.
• Remember your inner roar, and that you are strong, worthy and can achieve your desires and rise above the ebbs and flows of life.
• Spend some time in the sun and in nature connecting to the energy within you.
• Surround yourself with yellow or gold light. Either by placing an energy bubble of these colors around you or by decorating your space in these colors.
• Using Bergamot, Elevation, Cheer, or Lemon Essential oils. We personally recommend DoTerra Essential Oils.

 

I have learned that using “I AM” Affirmations specifically targeting my solar Plexus Chakra is the best and easiest way to keep it working at the desired levels. For example, some powerful ones are “I AM Worthy, I AM Enough, I AM Abundant, and I AM Achieving my dreams.” Telling yourself those simple key phrases every day can make a huge impact in making sure your Solar Plexus Chakra is balanced and healthy. I also love working with crystals for the Solar Plexus Chakra like Citrine, Tiger’s Eye, Orange Calcite, and Pyrite. Simply by carrying them on you or having them in your space can make a huge difference for you and the health of your Solar Plexus Chakra. Try getting in the habit of taking a minute each day to connect yourself to your Solar Plexus Chakra, talking positively to it, setting a daily affirmation and setting the day in a positive motion. By doing this you will create an environment that harnesses self-worth and personal power where you can achieve all. And, certainly, this can take time as we all have self-doubt, vulnerability, and fears that arise. But, take it day by day and each day give it your best effort and see what happens. The more you nurture it the more benefits you will start to see play out in your life. Then, one day you will wake up and feel that abundant joy and inner worth that was right inside of you the whole time and you will be living your desires.

I was and still am one of those people who has to constantly try to keep my Solar Plexus Chakra balanced. It is one of my weakest chakras, so I can understand firsthand the frustration it can cause in your everyday life and how it can touch each facet of life from business to personal. The best advice I can offer is to try to get to a place where you accept that you are enough just the way you are. You don’t have to be anything you aren’t in order to make others happy. Just be you. If that’s a good person or a challenging person just do the best you can and that is enough. We are all works in progress and it can take time to get to where we want to be. But, each day give yourself your best chance to make the day abundant and count towards the good in your life.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTnCUpV42lY
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RqrssdH6ET4
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDJYZXlsASg

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Move into Action in the New Year…

With the New Year, the energy in the Universe urges us to take action in our lives. Not only action, but authentic action! You will find that the energy of 2018 is giving you the push you need to get your life together and get things that you have been dreaming of done. Taking action in our lives can create the results:

• Action Creates Courage
• Action Allows Emergence
• Motivation Follows Action

Taking action in our lives is like creating change. It can be a very scary thing to do. We can get stuck in fear just thinking of moving forward. Part of the reason we sit in the non-action zone is that many of us we have a fear of failure. We will not do something simply because we can’t fail if we don’t try. That is why fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When we take action on those dreams and goals, we find out what we are made of, what we are actually capable of achieving, and ultimately emerge. When we create an emergence, we step into who we are meant to be without hesitation or resistance to change. We can also find peace within ourselves and our lives. Once we find internal peace that is when the hard part kind of begins. It is the long term of the action. When we have action, we must have motivation that allows us to keep that action. What is your driving force for the action you are taking? Do you want to live your purpose? Do you want to help others? Do you just want enough money to pay for your needs? Whatever it is that is going to get you out of bed each day to walk in action instead of fear is what you need to nourish. Just like you have to water a garden for it to grow, you must be willing to water your dreams and commit to them for the long term. Part of the reason we can fail at action is that we think making one mistake ruins everything. So, we might as well just give up on it because it is easier than continuing. Let me tell you that, every day and even every second of every day, you have the power to keep going. To decide, yes I screwed that up, but I am going keep going because I believe in my dreams. You want them so badly that you can taste it. If you believe it you will achieve it. If you don’t you won’t. It is that simple.

Other ways you can focus on taking action in your life is:

Connect with the Present: Stay as present as you can each day. Learn to focus on only the things over which you have control. A book that really helped me in this area was “Change your thoughts, change your life” by Wayne Dyer. If you struggle with your thoughts getting the best of you at all, I highly recommend reading it. You can also watch his PBS special at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

Think before committing: I will admit, I am a people pleaser. I used to have a big problem saying yes to everything. To make things worse, I would say yes without even thinking if it was something I really even wanted to do. Then, as soon as I agreed, I would start thinking about it. We have the right to say no to some things as well. If you don’t want to meet that friend at the bar at 9pm on a Monday night, you don’t have to. Justifications are not required. When I realized that I needed to change the pattern that I created, I implemented the following procedure. When anyone asked me if I wanted to do something, instead of saying yes right away, I would tell them that I would check my calendar and get back to them. Then, I would give myself one day, and then answer back. Now if it is something you know you really want to do, then of course say yes. But, if you find yourself in the pattern of saying yes to everything, and then canceling or backing out of commitments at the last minute, you may want to try this and see if it helps. We want to be authentic in our action. That is why taking a day to think about it actually help you stay authentic to yourself and to the people who are asking you.

Accountability:  We live in a time where accountability is a hard trait to come by. At some point, I fear finding someone who takes accountability for their actions will be like trying to find a Unicorn. Everyone is an individual. But, at some point, we all have to be accountable for our actions. We don’t want to achieve our dreams and actions by manipulation, or cheating, or hurting other people on the way. When you fuel action by those things you will never really attain you goal. The way to achieve the desired outcome from your action is through our own authenticity. How one person achieves it doesn’t mean that is how you will. You have to be brave to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable for who you are and the actions you take. Attaining your dreams is solely your responsibility.  Here is a great article on the topic further:  http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/no-excuses-being-accountable-for-your-own-success.aspx

Now, along the way, you may not get it right and that is ok. But, I guarantee you that you will learn something each time you try, and then there will come a day that you do get it right. It won’t happen overnight, but there will come a day when you wake up and say “wow, I did it!”

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Upcoming Master Year of 11/2: And…

As a new year is upon us, we wonder “what is going to happen?” Each year carries a numerological energetic vibration to it. In 2018 the Universal Energetic Vibration will be an 11/ 2 year (2+0+1+8=11 (1+1=2)). Eleven is what’s considered a Master Number and, without getting to deeply into Numerology, typically Master Numbers don’t always get reduced to a single digit like other numbers. So, it can be an 11 or a 2. The year often marks the beginning of a new direction. Have you ever heard the saying “its 11:11 make a wish”? Well, think about 2018 as your opportunity to make a wish all year long! Eleven is a significant spiritual number that calls us to awaken, live our purpose, and allow our intuition to guide us in our new level of consciousness. Here are some themes we may be looking at in our own lives based on the energetic vibration of the 11/2 numbers:

• Be patient and wait for opportunities to come to you
• Be positive and proactive about finding love
• Build upon what you already have
• Consolidate and solidify what you started last year
• Develop psychic abilities and enhance your intuition
• Focus on your health and well-being
• Improve your existing relationships with others
• Practice mindfulness; consider getting some energy healing and practice meditation or yoga
• Recognize, express, and release repressed emotions
• Work on personal development
• Work on self-love

You can read about the energetic vibration of both the 11 and the 2 here:

http://www.whats-your-sign.com/spiritualmeaningofnumbereleven.html

http://numerology-thenumbersandtheirmeanings.blogspot.com/2011/02/number-2.html

We are living in a era where time is going by faster than ever. Everything is rushed and it feels like people are not taking a Sunday stroll through life anymore, but running through it. Some people, not all, are impatient, rude and sometimes downright mean. But, there is also a lot of good and hope in the world. We just don’t hear about it with all the fears being projected in the media. So, what does this all mean? Here is what I feel we have the chance to do as a collective group this year.

• We will take action toward our goals and dreams that we manifested in 2017.
• Change can become impossible to ignore as we ache for it for humanity and are asking ourselves what we are tolerate and why.
• A bold opportunity to be patient! Not only with others, but ourselves and to accept the opportunities that the Universe is working on for us.
• With Jupiter spending this year in Scorpio, we will all seek the truth about things and not settle for less than the truth. That may even include no longer lying to ourselves about things.
• Have the courage to trust our ability to do what we love and to have a relationship with whom we love while making enough money to thrive and trust that the Universe and the Divine are going to provide for us in a way that is best for our higher selves.

Do I think a shift is going to take place? Absolutely! I think it has already started with the Divine Feminine energy that came in with 2017. I think we no longer have a choice but to make a shift for the better. Change can be really scary for a lot of people. So, there may be some hesitation you see in others who decide to fight the change and do it the harder way instead of embracing it and sailing with the wind. A word of wisdom from my own experiences fighting change. It happens anyways. It is just easier if you go with it verse the alternative were the Universe pushes you into it. “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey

This is what the Universe as a whole will be vibrating at for 2018. We have what is called our personal year number that will also play into certain themes we may see in our own lives that is based on our birthdate. So, you will have the Universal Energy and your Personal Year number vibration themes for 2018. What are yours? Don’t know yours?

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Universe Help: What’s my Life Purpose?

What is my life purpose? That is one of the most common questions asked by people in in my sessions. It is a question that I have asked myself most of my life. Trust me I often think “If I knew then, what I know now”. We know that our past doesn’t define our present. But, it can provide you lessons and opportunities to figure everything out. I often think that we shouldn’t, at 18 know what we want to do with the rest of our lives. We don’t even really know who we are as a person often until our thirties. Then, when we figure it out, we have “wasted” all that time doing what we thought we loved verse what we know we are meant to do. We can feel trapped in the illusion of our security. We are afraid to makes changes once we figure it out. But, how do we even know for sure what our purpose is. Trust me if it was as easy to go see someone who can connect with your guides like myself it would be super easy. I wish I could tell people what their purpose is. But, one of the most important steps in finding your purpose, is your journey in life. Every day, every step, every choice leads you further on your path and that is how you gain insight. Many times we make choices and at the time those choices really serve who we are. But, fast forward 10 years and you may desire to live a quieter lifestyle than you once did. That will lead you in the next step of your purpose. The question is; where do we start when we don’t even know what direction to go in? Here are some helpful steps:

1. Follow your heart, instead of your mind: I assure you the headquarters of your EGO isn’t going to tell you what you are supposed to achieve fulfillment and happiness. So, don’t ask it and don’t listen to it. Listen to the place built and designed to make you feel love and passion. Start asking your heart to lead your steps and actions.
2. Don’t live in fear of change: “Fear kills more dreams, than failure ever did.” We all know that fear, especially of change is super scary. In my opinion, worse than a scary movie. It is really through cataclysmic change that we rebuild what is important in our lives. And, anyone that knows their purpose will tell you that they experienced some sort of trauma on their journey to finding out their purpose. Either their entire life went to crap first, or they suffered a loss so deep, or they almost died in order for them to get the message.
3. “Do” instead of “think”: How many times a day do you spend thinking, instead of doing? I know I think and over-think things till my brain hurts. We can get so caught up in the “what ifs”, and plan a –z that we stay in place and don’t move. I often think, “I wish someone would just tell me what choice to make”. We are the only ones who can take the actions needed to achieve the goals we want. No one else can do it for us. If you want that dream to come true, you have to make choices that get you there, not think them.
4. Do something every day you are passionate about: By living passion and trying new things, we figure out what we love to do. Maybe you always wear pink nails, but you really love purple. Next time you go to get them done, be bold and be you. If purple and sparkles makes you passionate about life do your fingers and your toes. It can be any size thing that makes you feel that passion, but take that chance and do something small or large every day to help you find out what you are made out of.
5. Expand your comfort zone…even just a little: Our comfort zone is like a warm, soft blanket on a cold rainy day. Why in the world would we want to move from something like that? There is a saying by Anna Berkes that says, “If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.” In order to find our purpose and figure is out, we have to get out and explore the adventure waiting for us.

Perhaps, you are asking the Universe “What is my purpose?” There are a few things that I recommend to people who are in search of their purpose or know their purpose but, don’t know what to do with it when they come to me. A “Divine Check-In” or a Numerology Report. You can learn more about both on our website: https://elysianld.com/services or our ETSY store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLifeDesign

Whatever you think or know your purpose is take steps to live it every day, because that is only the beginning of the journey and the beginning of all the abundance coming your way.

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Summer Solstice: Welcome the Love & Light

I am sure that many of us have long awaited this day after the crazy winter we all had with the back and forth of nice weather and cold weather. This day marks the time of year when the days start to get longer than the nights. Also known as Midsummer or Litha, it is truly a time for celebration. The time of the “light” that we experience during the Solstice and the summer months is a great opportunity for you to work on some of your spiritual goals, reconnect with the “source” energy, or manifest your dreams. Here are a few things you can do to during the Summer Solstice, to draw in the power of the sun and gratefully welcome in the season:

• Hold a Solstice bonfire celebration.
• Spend the day out in Nature and reconnect with the energy of the Sun.
• Seek some realignment in your overall life! Perhaps you should adjust some of those New Year’s resolutions.
• Reconnect with your Faith and renew your relationship with God.
• Take a walk along a body of water. While you are walking, visualize what your summer, special events, love, people and new careers that you wish to bring into your life this summer will look like.
• Sit outside and read a book that can connect with your purpose.
• Start a healthy food cleanse.
• Consider an Energy Healing session to clear out old energy and make room for new.
• Meditate outside in a garden, forest, park or your sanctuary in your own yard.
• If you happen to like Ancient Egyptian Culture like I do, work with the Egyptian God Ra. Ra is the God of the sun and radiance.
• Have a conversation with the Faeries… Yes Faeries. Making reference to “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”, there is much magic that can be obtained working with the Faeries. This can also be a fun activity if you have children. Perhaps, build a little Faery home or terrarium and welcome them to come into your home, garden or your dreams.
• Make an altar with summer flowers and herbs, and light a candle and tell the Universe what you wish to manifest this summer.
• Participate in a Solstice Ceremony or Drumming Circle.
• On or around the Solstice time, go outside and just stand in the sun for a few minutes to soak in the energy of the Sun. If you really want to feel this, stand facing the sun, close your eyes, put your hands up and just enjoy the feelings.

No matter how you choose to spend the Summer Solstice, know that there will be loving magic behind your intentions. This is what will make it unique and special for you. With the warmth of the Sun coming to Earth, you can expect to feel happier, healthier and an overall sense of well-being, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There are many Sun deities and Goddesses that you can work with during your summer solstice celebrations, and you may want to work with them all. The most important thing is to recognize what you are guided towards and go with it as it is part of the carefree joy and laughter of the season.

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Releasing with the Full Moon

The Full Moon is much more than something that helps light up the night sky and blocks certain constellations from being seen due to the moonlight. The moon represents the feminine, emotional, creative and nurturing aspects of our lives and has been worshiped throughout ancient history. The Full Moon is also known to have high tide of power, amplifying and inspiring our creativity. It is a time to release that which no longer serves us, what we no longer need in our lives or an aspect of ourselves that we have outgrown.

A complete cycle of the moon takes exactly 28 days, radiating her energy to us in cycles of waxing and waning, bringing in the ebbing and flowing we all feel throughout the month.

Besides providing some nice ambient lighting in the night sky, the moon can affect us in many ways that we don’t even realize. Much like the moon affects the tide of the ocean, it affects our body. More than half of the human body consists of water. Consequently, your body can feel full, bloated, etc around the full moon and lighter around the new moon. Also, women tend to go into labor around the Full Moons due to the gravitational pull of the moon and the fluid that surrounds the baby. The phases of the moon also affect our sleep patterns. I know whenever there is a full moon, I feel more restless and become an insomniac especially on Super Moons. There is a quote that says “In my defense, the Moon was full and I was unsupervised” Your mood is also another area that can change based on the Moon. Yes, that’s right! There is also a saying I used to hear growing up; “all the weirdo’s come out on the full moon.” I use to take this very seriously, until somewhere in my 30’s I realized that I was one of the weirdos taking a moon bath, talking to the sky, and doing other things in my yard. You can read about that below. But, the moon can bring things up and can even cause chaos inside of us. If we don’t understand it, we can feel like we are losing our minds or want to yell and scream at someone. Life can be very frustrating especially if you do not know why you have these feelings. So, start paying attention to your patterns and how your body feels in relation to the moon, and see if that helps change your perspective on life.

Here are some of my favorite ways to work with the Full Moon

Full Moon Altar:

Creating an altar with a specific intention is one of the most powerful things you can do to harness the magic within you. It doesn’t have to be fancy, or the biggest most beautiful thing you have ever seen. It just has to come from the heart. Allow your soul to speak through your actions and the items that you choose. I like to make sure I have a white candle representing the full moon. I also like to choose certain stones or crystals depending on what I am working on releasing with that specific moon. Other items you may find helpful are, feathers, musical items such as a rattle or drum and some sage to burn. Music is a great way to shift energy as you are releasing it. So, you can burn some sage, drum and sit in front of your altar and release all that no longer serves you.

Moon Bath:

No matter what I am doing the night of the Full Moon, I always like to make some time for a moon bath! A moon bath, is where you spend some time under the moonlight and just allow your energy and the energy of the moon to connect. It can be as simple as a few minutes to thirty minutes or an hour. When taking a moon bath, I like to stand with my hands palm up in the receiving position and just talk to La Luna. I tell her everything I wish to release and areas from which I am ready to move on. I ask her help in clearing the way providing an easy separation. It can be a powerful experience to allow the vibes of the moon to soak into your energy field. The Full Moon is also a great time to charge and clear any of your stones, crystals and other spiritual tools. You can place them on a window sill facing the moonlight, or place them directly outside where they can soak up the energy.

Moon Water Bath:

Similar to a Moon bath, a Moon water bath or Moon bathing, is where you soak in the tube with some Himalayan Salt.  The minerals of the salt are absorbed while toxins are released into the bath water. The inside and the outside of your body detoxifies through this process, while your energetic field is restored and energy flow is activated. You can also add other herbs and essential oils to your liking. Some popular choices are cedar, frankincense, hyssop, juniper berry, myrtle, orange, rose, sage, sandalwood, tangerine, tea tree and yarrow. While you allow yourself to soak in the water for a good 20 to 30 minutes, allow the energy of the bath to release any specific intension you may have as well.

Moon Prayer:

Praying with the moon can also bring you much releasement. Here is one of my most favorite prayers to for the Full Moon. “I AM now choosing to cleanse myself and release any and all thought forms, beings, situations and energies that are no longer of service to my highest and greatest good. across all planes of my existence, across all universes and across all lifetimes. I ask that all energies that are less than love be transmuted for the highest good of all. And so it is.” – You are Luminous

Fire Ceremony:

When we talk about releasement, fire or burning something may not be the first thing that comes to your mind. But, in the processes of burning something, you are releasing the energy associated with it. A fire ceremony is simple yet powerful. You will want to start by writing down what you want to release with the Full Moon. Sometimes, it can be just a few items or maybe you have pages of stuff you want to let go of. Once you have everything written down, head outside to the moonlight. If you have a fire pit you will be all set. If not, grab a fire safe bowl or pot, a lighter or matches, and a bottle of water. Find a great place where you can see the moon and either head to your fire pit, or take your other items. Preferably, you will be away from your house and on concrete. If you are using a fire pit, simply state your intensions to the moon and ask that it free you from everything on the list and throw it in the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl or pot, rip the paper up into smaller pieces and place them in the bowl. Once in the bowl, set your intentions for releasement, and use the lighter or matches to set them on fire. Once everything is done, you will want to safely extinguish the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl, the fire should stop once all the paper is done burning.  Then, pour a little water in the bowl and let it sit overnight in the moonlight. The next day, burry the paper and thank Mother Earth for taking what you have released. You can also make a releasement pot. Where you can burry your monthly releasements in the one pot and allow the paper to act as compost for the pot.

Moon Sprays:

I have had an infatuation with spiritual sprays for many years. So, out of my own desire to work with a special spray for the moons, I created a New Moon Blessing Spray and Full Moon Releasement Spray.  These sprays are made in sacred space, and energetically charged in the appropriate moon phase. They use the highest quality essential oils, flower essences and gemstone elixirs. They are then also charged with reiki and filled with the highest vibrations for either letting go, or drawing abundance towards you. Here is a little more information on our Moon sprays:

New Moon Blessing Spray: Use this spray to assist you with welcoming your desires and attracting your dreams into your life around the New Moon. Contains: Rose Quartz, Star Sapphire, Sunflower, Moonstone, Carnelian, Lapis Lazuli, Sweetgrass, Gold Lime, Sandalwood, Patchouli, Holy Water and Blessings.

Full Moon Releasement Spray: Use this spray to assist you with releasing what is no longer serving you, so you can create healing and growth in your life around the Full Moon. Contains: Round Leaved Sundew, Moonstone, Cotton Grass, Selenite, Smoky Quartz, Holy Water, Ylang Ylang, Cypress, Bergamot and Prayers.

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No matter how you decide to work with the Full Moon and releasing what you need, as long as it is personal to you, and the intentions in your heart are ready, the magic of the moon is yours to claim and help you in any way you need. “The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light.” – Tahereh Mafi, Shatter Me

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Reality of Worthiness

As we go through this year of New Beginnings, we start to review where we were and where we want to be in life. Some of these feelings can bring up thoughts of feeling unworthy or inadequate. Dealing with these emotions can often leave one feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed or, possibly, even anxious. We can often go through our whole lives thinking we do not deserve to be happy, or deserving of what we really want. This can be very common when we start to find ourselves feeling happy either in a new career or relationship. We can even self-sabotage ourselves out of that happiness because we do not feel worthy of it. I used to have a really challenging time when people would give me compliments of any kind. They actually used to make me feel very self-conscious and uncomfortable. I was told by many people that it can actually be a turn off when someone would sit there and not only not accept a compliment. But, then turn around and make the person who gave the compliment think that something was wrong with them. Often when we feel unworthy in life or of choices we make, we feel like we have to justify our actions and over-explain to people whom we don’t really owe an explanation. Once I started to realize I was doing this and how it was making others possible feel uncomfortable, I started to simple say two words. It was my response to any kind of compliment from “That outfit looks great, or I like those earrings, or cute shoes or purse, etc.” These two words started to feel like my own magic words where it was a win-win for everyone. I didn’t feel uncomfortable saying them and it eliminated any need for justification. So what were these two magic words you may be asking? “Thank you.” Those two small words made a huge difference. Now of course it took some time to get used to.  A few times, I had to stop myself from falling into old habits. Overtime I felt myself recognizing my own worth in certain areas of my life. To help work through all these different feelings and emotions and to find some balance, I suggest you start your morning off with a few affirmations. You can also say a few when you start to feel those overwhelming feelings that cause you to feel unworthy. The trick is to see which one you relate to the most and adjust as you see fit. Here are some affirmations that you can start to use every day:

• All is well in my world and I exchange love and acceptance with the world.
• I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.
• I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
• I am Love, I am Loved and I am worthy of Love
• I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
• I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
• I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
• I deserve all that is good. I release any fear.
• I love and accept myself unconditionally.
• I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
• My self-love allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
• My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive thoughts which the Universe mirrors back at me in my life.
• My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.

The power of prayer can also help you get through those moments where you are just in state of panic, depression, anxiousness or even questioning our own worthiness. Here is one that people have found helpful.

“Dear God,
Help me to remember I am worthy of love in my life and all of my relationships.  Please replace all of my unhealed, limiting or judgmental thoughts about myself with Your love.  I forgive myself for all past mistakes and failures and allow the purity of Your love to heal my mind and heart.  I’m willing  to see myself as whole, complete, innocent and pure, as You created me.  Please give me the wisdom and strength to release the past and claim the love and happiness that is Your will for me.  I dedicate all of my relationships to the Truth, as You created it, and trust that Peace is inevitable.  Thank You, in advance, that with You as my Source, all of my relationships are loving, lasting, harmonious and blessed.  With Your guidance and certainty, I will reach the highest levels of joy and happiness in all of my relationships.  Thy will be done.  Amen”

This Prayer is an excerpt from the Miracles in Prayer book by Robin Duncan.

Another helpful tool to use for worthiness is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also known as tapping, it is a great way to help one achieve a better mind set to help one feel worthy. Here is a great video of an example of EFT for worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohdtwaRZyI. The thing about worthiness is, as much as you want to change your feelings on it, unfortunately, it will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself especially while working through this process. When you start any of these methods of Affirmations, prayer or EFT give yourself at least 21-40 days to form a new habit and see the benefits of it in your emotional, physical and spiritual body.  Once you do, you will start to see how entire world can change. Not only will you start to see your worthiness, but you will find yourself more accepting of positive things coming into your life. The more you do that, the more they will continue to flow in abundance to you. Your relationships will improve as well as your career / life desires and ambitions. Finding your worthiness can also have a significant healthy impact on your mind, body & spirit and one’s connection to the Universe.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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