As we go through this year of New Beginnings, we start to review where we were and where we want to be in life. Some of these feelings can bring up thoughts of feeling unworthy or inadequate. Dealing with these emotions can often leave one feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed or, possibly, even anxious. We can often go through our whole lives thinking we do not deserve to be happy, or deserving of what we really want. This can be very common when we start to find ourselves feeling happy either in a new career or relationship. We can even self-sabotage ourselves out of that happiness because we do not feel worthy of it. I used to have a really challenging time when people would give me compliments of any kind. They actually used to make me feel very self-conscious and uncomfortable. I was told by many people that it can actually be a turn off when someone would sit there and not only not accept a compliment. But, then turn around and make the person who gave the compliment think that something was wrong with them. Often when we feel unworthy in life or of choices we make, we feel like we have to justify our actions and over-explain to people whom we don’t really owe an explanation. Once I started to realize I was doing this and how it was making others possible feel uncomfortable, I started to simple say two words. It was my response to any kind of compliment from “That outfit looks great, or I like those earrings, or cute shoes or purse, etc.” These two words started to feel like my own magic words where it was a win-win for everyone. I didn’t feel uncomfortable saying them and it eliminated any need for justification. So what were these two magic words you may be asking? “Thank you.” Those two small words made a huge difference. Now of course it took some time to get used to. A few times, I had to stop myself from falling into old habits. Overtime I felt myself recognizing my own worth in certain areas of my life. To help work through all these different feelings and emotions and to find some balance, I suggest you start your morning off with a few affirmations. You can also say a few when you start to feel those overwhelming feelings that cause you to feel unworthy. The trick is to see which one you relate to the most and adjust as you see fit. Here are some affirmations that you can start to use every day:
- All is well in my world and I exchange love and acceptance with the world.
- I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.
- I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
- I am Love, I am Loved and I am worthy of Love
- I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
- I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
- I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
- I deserve all that is good. I release any fear.
- I love and accept myself unconditionally.
- I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
- My self-love allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
- My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive thoughts which the Universe mirrors back at me in my life.
- My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.
The power of prayer can also help you get through those moments where you are just in state of panic, depression, anxiousness or even questioning our own worthiness. Here is one that people have found helpful.
Help me to remember I am worthy of love in my life and all of my relationships. Please replace all of my unhealed, limiting or judgmental thoughts about myself with Your love. I forgive myself for all past mistakes and failures and allow the purity of Your love to heal my mind and heart. I’m willing to see myself as whole, complete, innocent and pure, as You created me. Please give me the wisdom and strength to release the past and claim the love and happiness that is Your will for me. I dedicate all of my relationships to the Truth, as You created it, and trust that Peace is inevitable. Thank You, in advance, that with You as my Source, all of my relationships are loving, lasting, harmonious and blessed. With Your guidance and certainty, I will reach the highest levels of joy and happiness in all of my relationships. Thy will be done. Amen”
This Prayer is an excerpt from the Miracles in Prayer book by Robin Duncan.
Another helpful tool to use for worthiness is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also known as tapping, it is a great way to help one achieve a better mind set to help one feel worthy. Here is a great video of an example of EFT for worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohdtwaRZyI. The thing about worthiness is, as much as you want to change your feelings on it, unfortunately, it will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself especially while working through this process. When you start any of these methods of Affirmations, prayer or EFT give yourself at least 21-40 days to form a new habit and see the benefits of it in your emotional, physical and spiritual body. Once you do, you will start to see how entire world can change. Not only will you start to see your worthiness, but you will find yourself more accepting of positive things coming into your life. The more you do that, the more they will continue to flow in abundance to you. Your relationships will improve as well as your career / life desires and ambitions. Finding your worthiness can also have a significant healthy impact on your mind, body & spirit and one’s connection to the Universe.
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