Reality of Worthiness

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As we go through this year of New Beginnings, we start to review where we were and where we want to be in life. Some of these feelings can bring up thoughts of feeling unworthy or inadequate. Dealing with these emotions can often leave one feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed or, possibly, even anxious. We can often go through our whole lives thinking we do not deserve to be happy, or deserving of what we really want. This can be very common when we start to find ourselves feeling happy either in a new career or relationship. We can even self-sabotage ourselves out of that happiness because we do not feel worthy of it. I used to have a really challenging time when people would give me compliments of any kind. They actually used to make me feel very self-conscious and uncomfortable. I was told by many people that it can actually be a turn off when someone would sit there and not only not accept a compliment. But, then turn around and make the person who gave the compliment think that something was wrong with them. Often when we feel unworthy in life or of choices we make, we feel like we have to justify our actions and over-explain to people whom we don’t really owe an explanation. Once I started to realize I was doing this and how it was making others possible feel uncomfortable, I started to simple say two words. It was my response to any kind of compliment from “That outfit looks great, or I like those earrings, or cute shoes or purse, etc.” These two words started to feel like my own magic words where it was a win-win for everyone. I didn’t feel uncomfortable saying them and it eliminated any need for justification. So what were these two magic words you may be asking? “Thank you.” Those two small words made a huge difference. Now of course it took some time to get used to.  A few times, I had to stop myself from falling into old habits. Overtime I felt myself recognizing my own worth in certain areas of my life. To help work through all these different feelings and emotions and to find some balance, I suggest you start your morning off with a few affirmations. You can also say a few when you start to feel those overwhelming feelings that cause you to feel unworthy. The trick is to see which one you relate to the most and adjust as you see fit. Here are some affirmations that you can start to use every day:

  • All is well in my world and I exchange love and acceptance with the world.
  • I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.
  • I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
  • I am Love, I am Loved and I am worthy of Love
  • I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
  • I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
  • I deserve all that is good. I release any fear.
  • I love and accept myself unconditionally.
  • I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
  • My self-love allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
  • My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive thoughts which the Universe mirrors back at me in my life.
  • My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.

The power of prayer can also help you get through those moments where you are just in state of panic, depression, anxiousness or even questioning our own worthiness. Here is one that people have found helpful.

“Dear God,
Help me to remember I am worthy of love in my life and all of my relationships.  Please replace all of my unhealed, limiting or judgmental thoughts about myself with Your love.  I forgive myself for all past mistakes and failures and allow the purity of Your love to heal my mind and heart.  I’m willing  to see myself as whole, complete, innocent and pure, as You created me.  Please give me the wisdom and strength to release the past and claim the love and happiness that is Your will for me.  I dedicate all of my relationships to the Truth, as You created it, and trust that Peace is inevitable.  Thank You, in advance, that with You as my Source, all of my relationships are loving, lasting, harmonious and blessed.  With Your guidance and certainty, I will reach the highest levels of joy and happiness in all of my relationships.  Thy will be done.  Amen”

This Prayer is an excerpt from the Miracles in Prayer book by Robin Duncan.

Another helpful tool to use for worthiness is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also known as tapping, it is a great way to help one achieve a better mind set to help one feel worthy. Here is a great video of an example of EFT for worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohdtwaRZyI. The thing about worthiness is, as much as you want to change your feelings on it, unfortunately, it will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself especially while working through this process. When you start any of these methods of Affirmations, prayer or EFT give yourself at least 21-40 days to form a new habit and see the benefits of it in your emotional, physical and spiritual body.  Once you do, you will start to see how entire world can change. Not only will you start to see your worthiness, but you will find yourself more accepting of positive things coming into your life. The more you do that, the more they will continue to flow in abundance to you. Your relationships will improve as well as your career / life desires and ambitions. Finding your worthiness can also have a significant healthy impact on your mind, body & spirit and one’s connection to the Universe.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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A Year In Review

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I remember as a child it felt like time was taking forever. Now as an adult I feel like I blinked and this year was almost over. Last December I was so excited, and thought 2016 is going to be the best yet! Being the year of completion, I thought I was going to clear my patterns and karma. I thought it would be easy and I would be fantastic. Boy was I wrong! One of the things I learned this year is that what you think you are going to work on and learn can be completely different than what the Universe has in store for you. But, remember that even though it may seem like the Universe is out to get you, it isn’t. We all face different challenges, setbacks, illnesses because they will either help us grow and expand, or will help us see and learn areas in our lives that need attention or the ones we were either ignoring or avoiding. The months leading up to this year, I could feel things shifting for me specifically health-wise. Whenever I wasn’t paying attention to something important that was shown over and over again, my physical body would step in and get my attention and force me to stop and notice. It started slowly in August and progressively got worse in the months following. Then, in December I ended up spending the week leading up to Christmas in the Hospital. That was when I realized that 2016 was not going to be as easy or exciting as I had thought.

With each changing of the season, I would do whatever I could to welcome in the change needed to heal or clear away whatever it was that was keeping me in this pattern. There were times I would get frustrated, because I would make plans in July for October thinking, for sure I will be better by then. October would arrive and I somehow developed a new issue. I remember having multiple conversations with God telling him “listen, I get it, but can I deal with one thing at a time instead of multiple things.” And it wasn’t like they were small things either. Over and over during the year, I found myself back to where the year started in the hospital. And, trust me, despite trying very hard to keep a positive attitude, I was mad as hell. When you are struggling, it is easy to feel that you have been abandoned. If you already have abandonment issues, they are intensified on top of everything else happening. I felt like even my guides had left because I didn’t have the interaction I once felt with them. When I would ask them why, I was told they hadn’t gone anywhere. In fact, they were still right there with me. They explained that at that moment, what I needed was to be in the physical to spend all my energy on healing. When I interact with them, my own essence is in the Spiritual and although it is important to be in both, that is not where I was meant to be at that time. That often made me more upset. I liked the spiritual and we often try to seek the highest vibration. All of this made me feel like I was vibrating at a much lower level.

Despite knowing my path, by midyear I felt more confused than ever about what I was meant to do. But how could this be a part of my path? It was the Spring Equinox. Despite running and fever and barely being able to walk, I went outside and stood in the grass and gave it all to the Universe as I had done so many times before. I was so ready just to feel better and I wanted all of the health issues gone! As I was standing there letting everything go, the wind started blowing and I could feel everything that I was releasing being blown away. When I opened my eyes, I saw bumble bees. Bumble bees represent personal power and many think they are representatives of the sun. I thought for sure I would wake up the next day and just be magically healed. The day after I would wake up the same.

Many people over the last year have asked me how I can stay so positive? I tell them, trust me I have my moments I am not so positive. There were times where I felt it was so much easier to give in or not care because I had not only been dealing with it this year. I have been dealing with health issues for sixteen years. Besides doctor appointments, tests, procedures, infusions and transfusions, I was doing physical therapy three times a week. In the beginning I would get so tired and it would hurt so badly. I had someone special tell me if I don’t try or don’t push myself just a little further every time, the only person I would be hurting was myself. That was a key shift in the process. How would I know what I was capable of unless I tried? So I started trying things I would normally do. There were definitely times that I couldn’t do them, but at least I tried. I would keep trying repeatedly and I eventually succeeded.

So even though I still have challenges I am working on, next year is the year of New Beginnings.  I have hope that new beginnings will be the areas of my health. I have, however, learned some important lessons this year.

  1. It is important, that no matter what you are facing, to have patience, not only with yourself but others.
  2. Even if others do not understand what you are going through, it is ok, because not everyone is meant to.
  3. I learned empathy on another level that I had not known before. When I see people with their own set of physical limitations, I will have a unique perspective because I have been there too.
  4. There were time this year where I had to say no to things, or to put myself first. That was the first time in 33 years that I had to do that. We are taught somewhere in life that putting ourselves first sometimes or saying no to things like family events or social functions is being selfish and that is wrong. It is not wrong, it is listening to our bodies and having enough respect for ourselves to honor our intuition.
  5. Regardless of how we may feel, we are never abandoned spiritually or physically. It can be hard to find that right balance between not wanting people in your business or just having pity on you, and having the support you need and desire to get you through both here on earth and in heaven.

Often times in our lives we must face the consequences of decisions we made as teenagers or young adults. For years I thought it was unfair, because how could someone so young be responsible for something I would have to deal with as an adult. It took me a good part of this year to realize it didn’t have to be that way at all. We are all different people now than we were in our youth. We all grow and evolve. And, sometimes it is really hard to forgive people that abandoned us, betrayed us, hated us, called us names, bullied us or put us in really uncomfortable situations. How do we forgive those people? I wish I had the answer to that question! I do know that it really all starts with forgiving ourselves. Taking ownership of whatever part we played in things that lead us to our present is important. Maybe we didn’t always make the best choices. Knowing that it is ok to just release the parts that are no longer serving you. Think of it this way. At some point we will meet that special someone. From the moment of that meeting the past doesn’t seem to matter. Life will always be different. Sometimes that is a man, or a women or even a child. In that moment we strive to become a better person not for them, but for ourselves. I think this year of completion has brought, to most of us, the ability to love and accept ourselves even through the tough times we face, or the moments we want to give up but don’t. I think if we all look back to where we were this time last year, we will find ourselves a little wiser, stronger and with expanded souls for all the new beginnings coming our way next year!

“Life always gives us exactly the teacher we need at every moment. This includes every mosquito, every misfortune, every red light, every traffic jam, every obnoxious supervisor (or employee), every illness, every loss, every moment of joy or depression, every addition, every piece of garbage, every breath. Every moment is the guru.” – Charlotte Joko Beck

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to enhance your spiritual vision

cf041c82-2537-4e49-9f15-2e236d69d520I have been on my own journey of expanding my spiritual vision for almost 6 years now. After thinking about it, haven’t most of us been on some kind of spiritual vision quest for most of our lives even if we didn’t realize it. We go through various things in life that take us to that next level in our spiritual talents. Some call it a “gut feeling” some call it “intuition” but more often than not it is the same thing. Sometimes you just get that feeling inside you or perhaps have a vision in your mind that you should just go for something, or stay away. Hopefully, these tools will help you trust in those feelings more and expand your own spiritual vision.

The following is a great exercise to try when trying to open your third eye or expand spiritual insight. I personally tried it and found it incredibly helpful. So, that is why I have recommended it to others and they also experienced great results. You can read through the details here, be sure to follow the instructions precisely:  http://www.wakingtimes.com/2012/10/05/open-your-third-eye-and-awaken-your-pineal-gland-with-these-simple-exercises/

Another way to enhance your spiritual vision is through Meditation. Meditation has many benefits that can help in many areas in life and this can be a major one. Often times when we learn to quiet our mind, even if it is just for 10 minutes, we can slow our minds down from the fast pace of life and we can learn things from the connection of spirit that meditation can bring. There are also lots of amazing guided meditations on YouTube that you can watch for free that can really help not only allow you to get in a relaxed state but strengthen your inner vision. Sound can also be another way to not only enhance the meditation experience but also assist you in awakening senses that can enhance your spiritual vision. Helpful sounds could be drumming, singing bowls, chanting, etc. You may start to feel your third eye chakra (the area in the middle of your forehead above both eyes) start to pulse or vibrate. The more you use your spiritual abilities you will find that, over time, this can happen very easily.

A major part of enhancing your spiritual vision is trusting the messages or insights you start to receive. It can take years to truly start to trust yourself and believe that you have accurate insight. So, be sure to have some patience with yourself. Let’s face it. We have all wondered at some point “oh I made that up in my head” or “maybe I am losing my mind.” No one is playing deception with you. Trust what you hear. The more you realize what you heard was right the easier it will become to listen and possibly act on the messages. There is a game I like to play with my Guides to help me build my own levels of trust. It has helped other do so also. I talk about how you can play the game too in a previous blog. You can read here:

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

As part of any journey that awakens a new part of your thinking, it is important to really care for yourself on mind, body and spiritual levels while you are going through this process. I remember when I realized the things I was hearing weren’t in my head I was afraid to fall asleep. I thought if I did I would wake up and my abilities and insight would be gone. Once I got over that fear, I learned over the years that once the light switch per say is flipped on the only reason if will turn off is if you ask for it to shut down. You always have the ability to “shut down” should you become overwhelmed or feel that you are experiencing things that you don’t want to experience. But, if you decide you want to remain open, you will. So, it is important to treat your mind and body well so you don’t burnout during the process. Just stay positive, have patience, and practice your spiritual vision. Then, the whole world can open up to you.

“The more boundless your vision, the more real you are.” – Deepak Chopra

Stay Inspired

Stacey

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