Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

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Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

  1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
  2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
  3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
  4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Releasing with the Full Moon

 

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The Full Moon is much more than something that helps light up the night sky and blocks certain constellations from being seen due to the moonlight. The moon represents the feminine, emotional, creative and nurturing aspects of our lives and has been worshiped throughout ancient history. The Full Moon is also known to have high tide of power, amplifying and inspiring our creativity. It is a time to release that which no longer serves us, what we no longer need in our lives or an aspect of ourselves that we have outgrown.

A complete cycle of the moon takes exactly 28 days, radiating her energy to us in cycles of waxing and waning, bringing in the ebbing and flowing we all feel throughout the month.

Besides providing some nice ambient lighting in the night sky, the moon can affect us in many ways that we don’t even realize. Much like the moon affects the tide of the ocean, it affects our body. More than half of the human body consists of water. Consequently, your body can feel full, bloated, etc around the full moon and lighter around the new moon. Also, women tend to go into labor around the Full Moons due to the gravitational pull of the moon and the fluid that surrounds the baby. The phases of the moon also affect our sleep patterns. I know whenever there is a full moon, I feel more restless and become an insomniac especially on Super Moons. There is a quote that says “In my defense, the Moon was full and I was unsupervised” Your mood is also another area that can change based on the Moon. Yes, that’s right! There is also a saying I used to hear growing up; “all the weirdo’s come out on the full moon.” I use to take this very seriously, until somewhere in my 30’s I realized that I was one of the weirdos taking a moon bath, talking to the sky, and doing other things in my yard. You can read about that below. But, the moon can bring things up and can even cause chaos inside of us. If we don’t understand it, we can feel like we are losing our minds or want to yell and scream at someone. Life can be very frustrating especially if you do not know why you have these feelings. So, start paying attention to your patterns and how your body feels in relation to the moon, and see if that helps change your perspective on life.

Here are some of my favorite ways to work with the Full Moon

Full Moon Altar:

Creating an altar with a specific intention is one of the most powerful things you can do to harness the magic within you. It doesn’t have to be fancy, or the biggest most beautiful thing you have ever seen. It just has to come from the heart. Allow your soul to speak through your actions and the items that you choose. I like to make sure I have a white candle representing the full moon. I also like to choose certain stones or crystals depending on what I am working on releasing with that specific moon. Other items you may find helpful are, feathers, musical items such as a rattle or drum and some sage to burn. Music is a great way to shift energy as you are releasing it. So, you can burn some sage, drum and sit in front of your altar and release all that no longer serves you.

Moon Bath:

No matter what I am doing the night of the Full Moon, I always like to make some time for a moon bath! A moon bath, is where you spend some time under the moonlight and just allow your energy and the energy of the moon to connect. It can be as simple as a few minutes to thirty minutes or an hour. When taking a moon bath, I like to stand with my hands palm up in the receiving position and just talk to La Luna. I tell her everything I wish to release and areas from which I am ready to move on. I ask her help in clearing the way providing an easy separation. It can be a powerful experience to allow the vibes of the moon to soak into your energy field. The Full Moon is also a great time to charge and clear any of your stones, crystals and other spiritual tools. You can place them on a window sill facing the moonlight, or place them directly outside where they can soak up the energy.

Moon Water Bath:

Similar to a Moon bath, a Moon water bath or Moon bathing, is where you soak in the tube with some Himalayan Salt.  The minerals of the salt are absorbed while toxins are released into the bath water. The inside and the outside of your body detoxifies through this process, while your energetic field is restored and energy flow is activated. You can also add other herbs and essential oils to your liking. Some popular choices are cedar, frankincense, hyssop, juniper berry, myrtle, orange, rose, sage, sandalwood, tangerine, tea tree and yarrow. While you allow yourself to soak in the water for a good 20 to 30 minutes, allow the energy of the bath to release any specific intension you may have as well.

Moon Prayer:

Praying with the moon can also bring you much releasement. Here is one of my most favorite prayers to for the Full Moon. “I AM now choosing to cleanse myself and release any and all thought forms, beings, situations and energies that are no longer of service to my highest and greatest good. across all planes of my existence, across all universes and across all lifetimes. I ask that all energies that are less than love be transmuted for the highest good of all. And so it is.” – You are Luminous

Fire Ceremony:

When we talk about releasement, fire or burning something may not be the first thing that comes to your mind. But, in the processes of burning something, you are releasing the energy associated with it. A fire ceremony is simple yet powerful. You will want to start by writing down what you want to release with the Full Moon. Sometimes, it can be just a few items or maybe you have pages of stuff you want to let go of. Once you have everything written down, head outside to the moonlight. If you have a fire pit you will be all set. If not, grab a fire safe bowl or pot, a lighter or matches, and a bottle of water. Find a great place where you can see the moon and either head to your fire pit, or take your other items. Preferably, you will be away from your house and on concrete. If you are using a fire pit, simply state your intensions to the moon and ask that it free you from everything on the list and throw it in the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl or pot, rip the paper up into smaller pieces and place them in the bowl. Once in the bowl, set your intentions for releasement, and use the lighter or matches to set them on fire. Once everything is done, you will want to safely extinguish the fire. If you are using a fire safe bowl, the fire should stop once all the paper is done burning.  Then, pour a little water in the bowl and let it sit overnight in the moonlight. The next day, burry the paper and thank Mother Earth for taking what you have released. You can also make a releasement pot. Where you can burry your monthly releasements in the one pot and allow the paper to act as compost for the pot.

Moon Sprays:

I have had an infatuation with spiritual sprays for many years. So, out of my own desire to work with a special spray for the moons, I created a New Moon Blessing Spray and Full Moon Releasement Spray.  These sprays are made in sacred space, and energetically charged in the appropriate moon phase. They use the highest quality essential oils, flower essences and gemstone elixirs. They are then also charged with reiki and filled with the highest vibrations for either letting go, or drawing abundance towards you. Here is a little more information on our Moon sprays:

New Moon Blessing Spray:
Use this spray to assist you with welcoming your desires and attracting your dreams into your life around the New Moon. Contains: Rose Quartz, Star Sapphire, Sunflower, Moonstone, Carnelian, Lapis Lazuli, Sweetgrass, Gold Lime, Sandalwood, Patchouli, Holy Water and Blessings.

Full Moon Releasement Spray:
Use this spray to assist you with releasing what is no longer serving you, so you can create healing and growth in your life around the Full Moon. Contains: Round Leaved Sundew, Moonstone, Cotton Grass, Selenite, Smoky Quartz, Holy Water, Ylang Ylang, Cypress, Bergamot and Prayers.

For more information about Moon Sprays by Elysian Life Design, please visit our ETSY store at https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLD. For bulk orders, retail orders, or to order directly through us, please email contact@elysianld.com or call 914-336-7693.

No matter how you decide to work with the Full Moon and releasing what you need, as long as it is personal to you, and the intentions in your heart are ready, the magic of the moon is yours to claim and help you in any way you need. “The moon is a loyal companion. It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light.” – Tahereh MafiShatter Me

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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