Summer Solstice: Welcome the Love & Light

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On Wednesday June 21st 2017 at 12:24am EST, Summer officially arrives in the Northern Hemisphere. I am sure that many of us have long awaited this day after the crazy winter we all had with the back and forth of nice weather and cold weather. This day marks the time of year when the days start to get longer than the nights. Also known as Midsummer or Litha, it is truly a time for celebration. The time of the “light” that we experience during the Solstice and the summer months is a great opportunity for you to work on some of your spiritual goals, reconnect with the “source” energy, or manifest your dreams. Here are a few things you can do to during the Summer Solstice, to draw in the power of the sun and gratefully welcome in the season:

  • Hold a Solstice bonfire celebration.
  • Spend the day out in Nature and reconnect with the energy of the Sun.
  • Seek some realignment in your overall life! Perhaps you should adjust some of those New Year’s resolutions.
  • Reconnect with your Faith and renew your relationship with God.
  • Take a walk along a body of water. While you are walking, visualize what your summer, special events, love, people and new careers that you wish to bring into your life this summer will look like.
  • Sit outside and read a book that can connect with your purpose.
  • Start a healthy food cleanse.
  • Consider an Energy Healing session to clear out old energy and make room for new.
  • Meditate outside in a garden, forest, park or your sanctuary in your own yard.
  • If you happen to like Ancient Egyptian Culture like I do, work with the Egyptian God Ra. Ra is the God of the sun and radiance.
  • Have a conversation with the Faeries… Yes Faeries. Making reference to “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”, there is much magic that can be obtained working with the Faeries. This can also be a fun activity if you have children. Perhaps, build a little Faery home or terrarium and welcome them to come into your home, garden or your dreams.
  • Make an altar with summer flowers and herbs, and light a candle and tell the Universe what you wish to manifest this summer.
  • Participate in a Solstice Ceremony or Drumming Circle.
  • On or around the Solstice time, go outside and just stand in the sun for a few minutes to soak in the energy of the Sun. If you really want to feel this, stand facing the sun, close your eyes, put your hands up and just enjoy the feelings.

No matter how you choose to spend the Summer Solstice, know that there will be loving magic behind your intentions. This is what will make it unique and special for you. With the warmth of the Sun coming to Earth, you can expect to feel happier, healthier and an overall sense of well-being, physically, emotionally and spiritually. There are many Sun deities and Goddesses that you can work with during your summer solstice celebrations, and you may want to work with them all. The most important thing is to recognize what you are guided towards and go with it as it is part of the carefree joy and laughter of the season.

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Reality of Worthiness

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As we go through this year of New Beginnings, we start to review where we were and where we want to be in life. Some of these feelings can bring up thoughts of feeling unworthy or inadequate. Dealing with these emotions can often leave one feeling vulnerable, overwhelmed or, possibly, even anxious. We can often go through our whole lives thinking we do not deserve to be happy, or deserving of what we really want. This can be very common when we start to find ourselves feeling happy either in a new career or relationship. We can even self-sabotage ourselves out of that happiness because we do not feel worthy of it. I used to have a really challenging time when people would give me compliments of any kind. They actually used to make me feel very self-conscious and uncomfortable. I was told by many people that it can actually be a turn off when someone would sit there and not only not accept a compliment. But, then turn around and make the person who gave the compliment think that something was wrong with them. Often when we feel unworthy in life or of choices we make, we feel like we have to justify our actions and over-explain to people whom we don’t really owe an explanation. Once I started to realize I was doing this and how it was making others possible feel uncomfortable, I started to simple say two words. It was my response to any kind of compliment from “That outfit looks great, or I like those earrings, or cute shoes or purse, etc.” These two words started to feel like my own magic words where it was a win-win for everyone. I didn’t feel uncomfortable saying them and it eliminated any need for justification. So what were these two magic words you may be asking? “Thank you.” Those two small words made a huge difference. Now of course it took some time to get used to.  A few times, I had to stop myself from falling into old habits. Overtime I felt myself recognizing my own worth in certain areas of my life. To help work through all these different feelings and emotions and to find some balance, I suggest you start your morning off with a few affirmations. You can also say a few when you start to feel those overwhelming feelings that cause you to feel unworthy. The trick is to see which one you relate to the most and adjust as you see fit. Here are some affirmations that you can start to use every day:

  • All is well in my world and I exchange love and acceptance with the world.
  • I accept others as they are and they in turn accept me as I am.
  • I am free to make my own choices and decisions.
  • I am Love, I am Loved and I am worthy of Love
  • I am never alone. The universe supports me and is with me at every step.
  • I approve of myself and feel great about myself.
  • I consciously release the past and live only in the present.
  • I deserve all that is good. I release any fear.
  • I love and accept myself unconditionally.
  • I release the need to prove myself to anyone as I am my own self and I love it that way.
  • My self-love allows me to accept compliments easily and also freely compliment others.
  • My mind is filled only with loving, healthy, positive thoughts which the Universe mirrors back at me in my life.
  • My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life.

The power of prayer can also help you get through those moments where you are just in state of panic, depression, anxiousness or even questioning our own worthiness. Here is one that people have found helpful.

“Dear God,
Help me to remember I am worthy of love in my life and all of my relationships.  Please replace all of my unhealed, limiting or judgmental thoughts about myself with Your love.  I forgive myself for all past mistakes and failures and allow the purity of Your love to heal my mind and heart.  I’m willing  to see myself as whole, complete, innocent and pure, as You created me.  Please give me the wisdom and strength to release the past and claim the love and happiness that is Your will for me.  I dedicate all of my relationships to the Truth, as You created it, and trust that Peace is inevitable.  Thank You, in advance, that with You as my Source, all of my relationships are loving, lasting, harmonious and blessed.  With Your guidance and certainty, I will reach the highest levels of joy and happiness in all of my relationships.  Thy will be done.  Amen”

This Prayer is an excerpt from the Miracles in Prayer book by Robin Duncan.

Another helpful tool to use for worthiness is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also known as tapping, it is a great way to help one achieve a better mind set to help one feel worthy. Here is a great video of an example of EFT for worthiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pohdtwaRZyI. The thing about worthiness is, as much as you want to change your feelings on it, unfortunately, it will not change overnight. Be patient with yourself especially while working through this process. When you start any of these methods of Affirmations, prayer or EFT give yourself at least 21-40 days to form a new habit and see the benefits of it in your emotional, physical and spiritual body.  Once you do, you will start to see how entire world can change. Not only will you start to see your worthiness, but you will find yourself more accepting of positive things coming into your life. The more you do that, the more they will continue to flow in abundance to you. Your relationships will improve as well as your career / life desires and ambitions. Finding your worthiness can also have a significant healthy impact on your mind, body & spirit and one’s connection to the Universe.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships: Part 2

A few years ago, I wrote “An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships”. It has been by far our most popular blog. What I have learned from this is that love is really universal and so is energy. People from all over the world are experiencing the same things regarding love and relationship. This applies whether it is a parent, a sibling, co-workers or a romantic partner. As an empath, you are so sensitive to energy shifts from people, places, things and world events. Here are some answers to the most common questions over the years and some additional information.

One of the most common things I know I have experienced, as well as others, is this ping pong effect that can happen with someone you are really close with, especially a partner. Let’s say that your partner is going through an incredibly challenging time. As a result, they shut down emotionally and it is like a stone wall barrier. Although the situation has nothing to do with you personally, you feel the energy of the situation very strongly. It is very common that you may pick up the other person’s emotions of sadness, anxiety, frustration, loneliness, depression and more. Many times you may think that it is you feeling that way when, in fact, it is the other person. Then what can happen when you are both really close like a husband or wife, or in a romantic relationship, and both of you are sensitive to energy the energy can bounce back and forth from each of you, creating the ping pong effect. You may feel helpless in this type of situation, or feel like you are going crazy, or not know what to do at all. Honestly, the best thing you can do is to center your energy and ground yourself. By you doing this, you will also impact the other person’s energy and help them ground and center their own energy without even realizing it. It can help a couple out of that ping pong feeling and allow those feelings of anxiety, depression etc. to shift into peace, happiness and feelings of living in the present. You can review some information about centering and grounding in part one which you can read here: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/02/01/an-empaths-guide-to-dating-and-relationships/

Last year, I wrote a book called “Spiritual Grounding and More: A Reference Guide & Manual” It has four difference grounding techniques plus an additional one for after travel. It also has a lot of extra tools such as protecting your energy, clearing your chakras, and more. If you want more information or to download a copy of the e-book version click here:

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Another common question, has been about someone being an empath in a relationship. Sometimes past issues come up for them causing fear and panic. This causes them to abruptly walk away from the relationship even though they care about the other person. This can be a really hard thing to deal with. I know I myself have dealt with these feeling in a relationship. We all have things called triggers, and it is very common for those triggers to carry on from one relationship to another, even unintentionally. Honestly, you may not even know you have a trigger about something until you start a new relationship. The most common one I have come across has been around communication. Let’s say that you were in a past relationship with someone who kept things from you and lied with the intention of misleading your or hurting you, such as cheating or manipulation. I spent most of my college years in just that scenario. Then, you meet a great person and you are like “yes, this is it”. You start a new relationship and a few months in you start to notice that they are quite or you feel maybe they are being secretive about stuff. Because of your past experience with this emotion, your ego will automatically make you think that the same thing is happening again.  Now there can be many reasons why someone is acting secretive that don’t involve cheating. Perhaps they are dealing with something personal with which they don’t want to burden you. Or, maybe the new relationship is bringing up a trigger for them as well and they are trying to work through it without you thinking they have lost their mind. They may even be having issues with self- worth or feelings of they don’t deserve you. These are very common feelings for an Empath to feel. The best way to avoid a breaking point where someone walks away is to talk about it and be honest about your feelings. This will be a challenge for some as having talks about your feelings can make you feel vulnerable and sometimes you don’t understand your feelings or know how to describe them. You will want to do a few things before asking the other person if “you can talk”. First you will want to make sure you are grounded and your energy is protected before having that kind of conversation. Next, make sure you both have a full stomach, because, let’s face it when someone is hungry, the energy of angry and annoyance can escalate emotions. Also, if you know you need to have one of these kinds of talks, ask the Universe to show you the right time to do so. Then keep yourself open so you see when they tell you the right time is. Also, you don’t want to have this type of conversation when either of you is tired, angry or frustrated about another situation. And, when you speak to the person, it is important not to play the blame game or say things below the belt or make someone feel ashamed of their feelings. That is the fastest way to get an Empath to walk away. Be completely honest with the other person and maybe even share things about yourself and allow yourself to feel vulnerable. This will help open the lines of communication. In my case, I make sure I am grounded and that my partner and I are fed and relaxed. When I feel the time is right, I work certain topics into the conversation. The two Archangels I highly suggest working with in this situation are Archangel Gabriel, who is the Archangel of communication, and Archangel Raguel, who can help with fairness and resolving disagreements.

Another popular question that comes up is what is my biggest recommendation for an Empath? I can’t stress enough the impact that daily affirmations can have on your life as an Empath.  It will help you stay in the moment, focus on yourself, and allow you to be in your own energy instead of feeling everyone else’s. Also another tip is to ask to be disconnected from the mass consciousness before you go to sleep. This will help your mind and body heal while you sleep and allow you to actually sleep better because your mind won’t be racing about things you saw on social media or TV.

Here are some other tools I really love for assistance for Empaths:

  • The Spiritual Power of Empathy by Cyndi Dale
  • The Reluctant Empath by Bety Comerford and Steve Wilson
  • The Art of Empathy by Karla McLaren

http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/empathy/empathy_exercises.htm

http://humansarefree.com/2013/11/coping-tips-for-empaths-to-help-you.html

http://boforbes.com/yoga-practice-lab/blog/feel-pain-empaths-guide-staying-balanced/

This is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for anxiety that can be very helpful as an Empath:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWu3rSEddZI&t=279

Products that have been helpful:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/248459653/energy-grounding-protection-oil?ref=shop_home_active_7

http://cocreativehealth.com/shop/self-care/grounding/

https://doterra.com/us/en/p/balance-grounding-blend-oil

Stones and Crystals are also great for an Empath. You can place them under your pillow while you sleep, carry them in your pocket or purse throughout the day, or ladies can even wear them in their bra. Here is a great site where you can read all about Stones and crystals for Emapths and how they can help: http://www.crystalrockstar.com/crystals-for-empaths/#.WJBXEfkrLIU. I personally happen to love Lepidolite.

Being an Empath is nothing to be afraid or embarrassed of. We are living in a time unlike any other on earth. People are becoming more aware of spirituality. As a whole, we are raising our vibrations as a culture even if it doesn’t feel that way. We are also inundated, like never before, with information and news. If you are an Empath just be aware that you are impacted by these things, especially images you see on television. Our eyes cannot make the distinction between something on television and something that is happening right in front of us. So, when the message gets up to our brain, our mind and body then react accordingly. This may even activate or fight or flight responses which can wreak havoc on our health. Above all love yourself through the process. The more self-love you have the more love…relationships overall.  You will feel more confident in your interactions with people.  The world needs Empaths right now. I hope you found some good tools to help you along the journey. If you have additional questions, or want some help with a certain situation, feel free to email us here: contact@elysianld.com

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.” ― Anthon St. Maarten

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to enhance your spiritual vision

cf041c82-2537-4e49-9f15-2e236d69d520I have been on my own journey of expanding my spiritual vision for almost 6 years now. After thinking about it, haven’t most of us been on some kind of spiritual vision quest for most of our lives even if we didn’t realize it. We go through various things in life that take us to that next level in our spiritual talents. Some call it a “gut feeling” some call it “intuition” but more often than not it is the same thing. Sometimes you just get that feeling inside you or perhaps have a vision in your mind that you should just go for something, or stay away. Hopefully, these tools will help you trust in those feelings more and expand your own spiritual vision.

The following is a great exercise to try when trying to open your third eye or expand spiritual insight. I personally tried it and found it incredibly helpful. So, that is why I have recommended it to others and they also experienced great results. You can read through the details here, be sure to follow the instructions precisely:  http://www.wakingtimes.com/2012/10/05/open-your-third-eye-and-awaken-your-pineal-gland-with-these-simple-exercises/

Another way to enhance your spiritual vision is through Meditation. Meditation has many benefits that can help in many areas in life and this can be a major one. Often times when we learn to quiet our mind, even if it is just for 10 minutes, we can slow our minds down from the fast pace of life and we can learn things from the connection of spirit that meditation can bring. There are also lots of amazing guided meditations on YouTube that you can watch for free that can really help not only allow you to get in a relaxed state but strengthen your inner vision. Sound can also be another way to not only enhance the meditation experience but also assist you in awakening senses that can enhance your spiritual vision. Helpful sounds could be drumming, singing bowls, chanting, etc. You may start to feel your third eye chakra (the area in the middle of your forehead above both eyes) start to pulse or vibrate. The more you use your spiritual abilities you will find that, over time, this can happen very easily.

A major part of enhancing your spiritual vision is trusting the messages or insights you start to receive. It can take years to truly start to trust yourself and believe that you have accurate insight. So, be sure to have some patience with yourself. Let’s face it. We have all wondered at some point “oh I made that up in my head” or “maybe I am losing my mind.” No one is playing deception with you. Trust what you hear. The more you realize what you heard was right the easier it will become to listen and possibly act on the messages. There is a game I like to play with my Guides to help me build my own levels of trust. It has helped other do so also. I talk about how you can play the game too in a previous blog. You can read here:

https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

As part of any journey that awakens a new part of your thinking, it is important to really care for yourself on mind, body and spiritual levels while you are going through this process. I remember when I realized the things I was hearing weren’t in my head I was afraid to fall asleep. I thought if I did I would wake up and my abilities and insight would be gone. Once I got over that fear, I learned over the years that once the light switch per say is flipped on the only reason if will turn off is if you ask for it to shut down. You always have the ability to “shut down” should you become overwhelmed or feel that you are experiencing things that you don’t want to experience. But, if you decide you want to remain open, you will. So, it is important to treat your mind and body well so you don’t burnout during the process. Just stay positive, have patience, and practice your spiritual vision. Then, the whole world can open up to you.

“The more boundless your vision, the more real you are.” – Deepak Chopra

Stay Inspired

Stacey

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Manifestation: Abundance, Prosperity & Wealth! 

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“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.” Anne Bradstreet

Let’s face it we could all use some more abundance, prosperity and wealth in our lives. I know when I first started learning to manifest, I was so worried I would do it incorrectly and screw it all up, but the good news is, you really can’t do it wrong. Regardless of what method or tools you decide to use to manifest with, 99% of it is the intention behind it. So, unless you are asking for lack of abundance, prosperity or wealth, you’re good. Here are some of the things I like to work with when doing manifestation work:

Before you begin, make sure you have a clear picture of the outcome that you desire. Try writing it down as many times as necessary until you have it just right. Make sure you are clear and specific with your intention. Remember that is mostly your own magic that brings your manifested desires into reality.

First you may choose to set up a place in your home specifically for this purpose. It will help you better visualize your intentions; much like a 3D vision board. You may choose to decorate your altar with stones, crystals or even statues. A good statue for an altar for abundance, prosperity & wealth would be Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of exactly that. You can find a statue of her in many sizes, colors, etc. You can even frame a photo you love instead of using a statue. You can also use stones or herbs depending on your liking. This will help increase the energy vibrations of your manifestation. Citrine, Rose Quartz and Aventurine are all good choices for stones, especially for beginners. Other tools you can use are binaural beats for manifesting abundance. Song has great power in shifting energy. So, you can either listen to it while thinking of your intention, or perhaps listen to it while falling asleep at night.

A personal favorite of mine is the Rose of Jericho. I have to admit when I first came across it, I was unsure of how it would work. I made sure I followed the directions as explained in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5tXfQOPwYI by the shop owner from whom I purchased it. I used holy water in the bowl and, to try it, I used pennies and asked that each penny represented $100. Once the plant had opened into a full bloom I placed 13 pennies in it and then let the plant close back up and then reopen. Within a week, I received the $1,300 I had asked for from the manifestation exercise. So be prepared when you use the Rose of Jericho because wealth will find its way to you.

When you are doing any kind of manifestation work, besides a solid intention, you may find that you want to work with an affirmation while the Universe is bringing you your desires. You may want to include something such as “I am worthy of the abundance coming my way”, or “My income is constantly increasing,” these will allow you to stay true in your belief that your intention was heard by the Universe and the Divine is assisting you to reach your goals.

And finally, be sure to express gratitude not only when you receive it, but while it is still manifesting. Go in with the attitude that it is already done! Express gratitude every day for it as you never know the unexpected ways the Universe will provide it for you. Be realistic with it while practicing then after a while you can work your way up to becoming a millionaire!

You may find that when you try to live a life of abundance on a regular basis, the more abundance and prosperity will find its way to you. Even if you can add in one activity that can help you live an abundant life instead of a scarcity mindset, you will notice how your life will start to change. Below you will find a list of characteristic of living in abundance by having an abundance consciousness or living a in a scarcity mindset.

Abundance Consciousness

  • Accept responsibility for their failures.
  • Continuously learn.
  • Embrace change.
  • Exude joy.
  • Forgive others.
  • Give other people credit for their victories.
  • Have a sense of gratitude.
  • Keep a “to-be” list.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Operate from a transformational perspective.
  • Read every day. Talk about ideas.
  • Set goals and develop life plans.
  • Share information and data.
  • Want others to succeed.

Scarcity Mindset

  • Blame others for their failures.
  • Don’t know what they want to be.
  • Exude anger.
  • Fear change.
  • Fly by their seat of their pants.
  • Have a sense of entitlement.
  • Hold a grudge.
  • Horde information and data.
  • Never set goals.
  • Operate from a transactional perspective.
  • Say they keep a journal but really don’t.
  • Secretly hope others fail.
  • Take all the credit for their victories.
  • Talk about people.
  • Think they know it all.
  • Watch TV every day.

In the end, have fun with your manifestation work and do not be afraid to try new things and see how they work for you. Add in your own spiritual tools that you may already know and love. Make the manifestation work your own and that will make it even more powerful!

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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