An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships: Part 2

A few years ago, I wrote “An Empath’s Guide to Dating and Relationships”. It has been by far our most popular blog. What I have learned from this is that love is really universal and so is energy. People from all over the world are experiencing the same things regarding love and relationship. This applies whether it is a parent, a sibling, co-workers or a romantic partner. As an empath, you are so sensitive to energy shifts from people, places, things and world events. Here are some answers to the most common questions over the years and some additional information.

One of the most common things I know I have experienced, as well as others, is this ping pong effect that can happen with someone you are really close with, especially a partner. Let’s say that your partner is going through an incredibly challenging time. As a result, they shut down emotionally and it is like a stone wall barrier. Although the situation has nothing to do with you personally, you feel the energy of the situation very strongly. It is very common that you may pick up the other person’s emotions of sadness, anxiety, frustration, loneliness, depression and more. Many times you may think that it is you feeling that way when, in fact, it is the other person. Then what can happen when you are both really close like a husband or wife, or in a romantic relationship, and both of you are sensitive to energy the energy can bounce back and forth from each of you, creating the ping pong effect. You may feel helpless in this type of situation, or feel like you are going crazy, or not know what to do at all. Honestly, the best thing you can do is to center your energy and ground yourself. By you doing this, you will also impact the other person’s energy and help them ground and center their own energy without even realizing it. It can help a couple out of that ping pong feeling and allow those feelings of anxiety, depression etc. to shift into peace, happiness and feelings of living in the present. You can review some information about centering and grounding in part one which you can read here: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/02/01/an-empaths-guide-to-dating-and-relationships/

Last year, I wrote a book called “Spiritual Grounding and More: A Reference Guide & Manual” It has four difference grounding techniques plus an additional one for after travel. It also has a lot of extra tools such as protecting your energy, clearing your chakras, and more. If you want more information or to download a copy of the e-book version click here:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/246931027/spiritual-grounding-more-a-manual-and?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=spiritual%20grounding&ref=sr_gallery_2

Another common question, has been about someone being an empath in a relationship. Sometimes past issues come up for them causing fear and panic. This causes them to abruptly walk away from the relationship even though they care about the other person. This can be a really hard thing to deal with. I know I myself have dealt with these feeling in a relationship. We all have things called triggers, and it is very common for those triggers to carry on from one relationship to another, even unintentionally. Honestly, you may not even know you have a trigger about something until you start a new relationship. The most common one I have come across has been around communication. Let’s say that you were in a past relationship with someone who kept things from you and lied with the intention of misleading your or hurting you, such as cheating or manipulation. I spent most of my college years in just that scenario. Then, you meet a great person and you are like “yes, this is it”. You start a new relationship and a few months in you start to notice that they are quite or you feel maybe they are being secretive about stuff. Because of your past experience with this emotion, your ego will automatically make you think that the same thing is happening again.  Now there can be many reasons why someone is acting secretive that don’t involve cheating. Perhaps they are dealing with something personal with which they don’t want to burden you. Or, maybe the new relationship is bringing up a trigger for them as well and they are trying to work through it without you thinking they have lost their mind. They may even be having issues with self- worth or feelings of they don’t deserve you. These are very common feelings for an Empath to feel. The best way to avoid a breaking point where someone walks away is to talk about it and be honest about your feelings. This will be a challenge for some as having talks about your feelings can make you feel vulnerable and sometimes you don’t understand your feelings or know how to describe them. You will want to do a few things before asking the other person if “you can talk”. First you will want to make sure you are grounded and your energy is protected before having that kind of conversation. Next, make sure you both have a full stomach, because, let’s face it when someone is hungry, the energy of angry and annoyance can escalate emotions. Also, if you know you need to have one of these kinds of talks, ask the Universe to show you the right time to do so. Then keep yourself open so you see when they tell you the right time is. Also, you don’t want to have this type of conversation when either of you is tired, angry or frustrated about another situation. And, when you speak to the person, it is important not to play the blame game or say things below the belt or make someone feel ashamed of their feelings. That is the fastest way to get an Empath to walk away. Be completely honest with the other person and maybe even share things about yourself and allow yourself to feel vulnerable. This will help open the lines of communication. In my case, I make sure I am grounded and that my partner and I are fed and relaxed. When I feel the time is right, I work certain topics into the conversation. The two Archangels I highly suggest working with in this situation are Archangel Gabriel, who is the Archangel of communication, and Archangel Raguel, who can help with fairness and resolving disagreements.

Another popular question that comes up is what is my biggest recommendation for an Empath? I can’t stress enough the impact that daily affirmations can have on your life as an Empath.  It will help you stay in the moment, focus on yourself, and allow you to be in your own energy instead of feeling everyone else’s. Also another tip is to ask to be disconnected from the mass consciousness before you go to sleep. This will help your mind and body heal while you sleep and allow you to actually sleep better because your mind won’t be racing about things you saw on social media or TV.

Here are some other tools I really love for assistance for Empaths:

  • The Spiritual Power of Empathy by Cyndi Dale
  • The Reluctant Empath by Bety Comerford and Steve Wilson
  • The Art of Empathy by Karla McLaren

http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/empathy/empathy_exercises.htm

http://humansarefree.com/2013/11/coping-tips-for-empaths-to-help-you.html

http://boforbes.com/yoga-practice-lab/blog/feel-pain-empaths-guide-staying-balanced/

This is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for anxiety that can be very helpful as an Empath:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWu3rSEddZI&t=279

Products that have been helpful:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/248459653/energy-grounding-protection-oil?ref=shop_home_active_7

http://cocreativehealth.com/shop/self-care/grounding/

https://doterra.com/us/en/p/balance-grounding-blend-oil

Stones and Crystals are also great for an Empath. You can place them under your pillow while you sleep, carry them in your pocket or purse throughout the day, or ladies can even wear them in their bra. Here is a great site where you can read all about Stones and crystals for Emapths and how they can help: http://www.crystalrockstar.com/crystals-for-empaths/#.WJBXEfkrLIU. I personally happen to love Lepidolite.

Being an Empath is nothing to be afraid or embarrassed of. We are living in a time unlike any other on earth. People are becoming more aware of spirituality. As a whole, we are raising our vibrations as a culture even if it doesn’t feel that way. We are also inundated, like never before, with information and news. If you are an Empath just be aware that you are impacted by these things, especially images you see on television. Our eyes cannot make the distinction between something on television and something that is happening right in front of us. So, when the message gets up to our brain, our mind and body then react accordingly. This may even activate or fight or flight responses which can wreak havoc on our health. Above all love yourself through the process. The more self-love you have the more love…relationships overall.  You will feel more confident in your interactions with people.  The world needs Empaths right now. I hope you found some good tools to help you along the journey. If you have additional questions, or want some help with a certain situation, feel free to email us here: contact@elysianld.com

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.” ― Anthon St. Maarten

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Manifestation: Abundance, Prosperity & Wealth! 

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“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.” Anne Bradstreet

Let’s face it we could all use some more abundance, prosperity and wealth in our lives. I know when I first started learning to manifest, I was so worried I would do it incorrectly and screw it all up, but the good news is, you really can’t do it wrong. Regardless of what method or tools you decide to use to manifest with, 99% of it is the intention behind it. So, unless you are asking for lack of abundance, prosperity or wealth, you’re good. Here are some of the things I like to work with when doing manifestation work:

Before you begin, make sure you have a clear picture of the outcome that you desire. Try writing it down as many times as necessary until you have it just right. Make sure you are clear and specific with your intention. Remember that is mostly your own magic that brings your manifested desires into reality.

First you may choose to set up a place in your home specifically for this purpose. It will help you better visualize your intentions; much like a 3D vision board. You may choose to decorate your altar with stones, crystals or even statues. A good statue for an altar for abundance, prosperity & wealth would be Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of exactly that. You can find a statue of her in many sizes, colors, etc. You can even frame a photo you love instead of using a statue. You can also use stones or herbs depending on your liking. This will help increase the energy vibrations of your manifestation. Citrine, Rose Quartz and Aventurine are all good choices for stones, especially for beginners. Other tools you can use are binaural beats for manifesting abundance. Song has great power in shifting energy. So, you can either listen to it while thinking of your intention, or perhaps listen to it while falling asleep at night.

A personal favorite of mine is the Rose of Jericho. I have to admit when I first came across it, I was unsure of how it would work. I made sure I followed the directions as explained in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5tXfQOPwYI by the shop owner from whom I purchased it. I used holy water in the bowl and, to try it, I used pennies and asked that each penny represented $100. Once the plant had opened into a full bloom I placed 13 pennies in it and then let the plant close back up and then reopen. Within a week, I received the $1,300 I had asked for from the manifestation exercise. So be prepared when you use the Rose of Jericho because wealth will find its way to you.

When you are doing any kind of manifestation work, besides a solid intention, you may find that you want to work with an affirmation while the Universe is bringing you your desires. You may want to include something such as “I am worthy of the abundance coming my way”, or “My income is constantly increasing,” these will allow you to stay true in your belief that your intention was heard by the Universe and the Divine is assisting you to reach your goals.

And finally, be sure to express gratitude not only when you receive it, but while it is still manifesting. Go in with the attitude that it is already done! Express gratitude every day for it as you never know the unexpected ways the Universe will provide it for you. Be realistic with it while practicing then after a while you can work your way up to becoming a millionaire!

You may find that when you try to live a life of abundance on a regular basis, the more abundance and prosperity will find its way to you. Even if you can add in one activity that can help you live an abundant life instead of a scarcity mindset, you will notice how your life will start to change. Below you will find a list of characteristic of living in abundance by having an abundance consciousness or living a in a scarcity mindset.

Abundance Consciousness

  • Accept responsibility for their failures.
  • Continuously learn.
  • Embrace change.
  • Exude joy.
  • Forgive others.
  • Give other people credit for their victories.
  • Have a sense of gratitude.
  • Keep a “to-be” list.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Operate from a transformational perspective.
  • Read every day. Talk about ideas.
  • Set goals and develop life plans.
  • Share information and data.
  • Want others to succeed.

Scarcity Mindset

  • Blame others for their failures.
  • Don’t know what they want to be.
  • Exude anger.
  • Fear change.
  • Fly by their seat of their pants.
  • Have a sense of entitlement.
  • Hold a grudge.
  • Horde information and data.
  • Never set goals.
  • Operate from a transactional perspective.
  • Say they keep a journal but really don’t.
  • Secretly hope others fail.
  • Take all the credit for their victories.
  • Talk about people.
  • Think they know it all.
  • Watch TV every day.

In the end, have fun with your manifestation work and do not be afraid to try new things and see how they work for you. Add in your own spiritual tools that you may already know and love. Make the manifestation work your own and that will make it even more powerful!

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding your Worthiness

13bd9af2-5432-48c9-b3ef-b6dd4f73fa0cThrough life we have so many situations we face. Some are good and some not so great. These situations can often impact how we think about ourselves and ultimately how worthy we feel for positive things that happen in our lives. We have all heard about self-sabotage and how during points of our lives we somewhat feel we deserved what we got, or do not deserve happiness in areas such as relationships, career, finances etc. You work hard all your life to get to a certain level you feel is successful. Yet, when we get there, you feel unworthy of the results for which you worked so hard. This can be really challenging to deal with because it can be a constant struggle of feeling inadequate. Many humans, when they think of worth, base it on the wrong criteria such as what others think or how much they are loved rather than themselves. We have all heard it, but take a moment and let it sink it… The only one who can determine how worthy you are and what you deserve in this life is YOU! You can have someone look at you every day and tell you how wonderful you are every day, but the only way you will actually hear and acknowledge it is if you become your own personal cheerleader and tell yourself you are worth it. Here are some things that can help you find and enhance your worthiness:

  1. When you wake up in the morning and getting ready for the day, look at yourself in the mirror and, no matter what you are facing, tell yourself you are worthy of love, happiness, health, success etc.
  2. At the end of each day before falling asleep state out loud something you feel proud about, either on the day or in the past.
  3. Learning to express gratitude is one of the most important things you can incorporate into your life. Not only will it help you learn to appreciate what you have in life and be grateful for it, it has shown many health benefits including overall happiness in life.
  4. Doing things for yourself does not make you selfish. In fact, it can rejuvenate you in ways that will allow you to be more beneficial not only to yourself but to others as well. Think about what you do during the week, how hard you push your body when you’re tired, or have a list of things left to do that others are depending on you to get done. Taking a moment or an hour just for you can definitely increase your feelings of worthiness because you think enough about yourself to recognize when you need time too.
  5. Learn to forgive yourself. Only then can you fully release the energy from your field that may be holding you back.
  6. Look at certain areas of your life and let go of anyone, thing, or situation causing you to feel less about yourself. If you have to, sing “let it go” (we all know words people and it will help you feel better).
  7. Whenever you find yourself in a situation where someone is speaking ill of you or providing excessive drama or bad energy, simple excuse yourself from the conversation. This will empower you and allow you to recognize your own self-worth.
  8. Take time to acknowledge your achievements and reward your successes. So often we set goals in life and then once we reach them we think it is not enough and we set another goal. We walk around trying to obtain unachievable expectations. When you stop to acknowledge your achievements you can actually feel worthy of what you have achieved and it will allow you to feel confident about other goals you set.
  9. Make daily affirmations to help you through moments of insecurities, anxiety and self-doubt. These can allow you to stay positive through difficult times and can help you shift your thinking.
  10. Help other people who need it and recognize and accept when you need help.
  11. The more truthful you live your life, the higher your own energetic vibration will become. So stop lying to others about things. Most importantly, take responsibility for your own actions and stop blaming others for anything bad that has happened in your life. Even if the bad thing was caused by someone else, you don’t have room to hold on to it anymore. It is not your cross to carry anymore. You have control over your attitude so walk in a truthful path.
  12. Start facing your fears! More dreams are crushed by fear than failure. Start paying attention to your thinking instead of “I could never”, or “I can”, and “who cares” and most importantly “what do I think”.

“When you think this pain is all you deserve, you are right. You are the only one that can decide how long you will walk in hell.”― Shannon L. Alder . You have a choice every day when you wake up. To be worthy of the life you deserve all you have to do is decide that you want it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding Self Love

 

heartOften in life, we are raised and taught that others come before us, and we come last. It is time that this perception changes. As a women, I find that others can find it selfish if I put myself first or need me time. But, who is going to nurture us if we do not take the time to do it for ourselves. Every form of love starts with self-love. We cannot truly love another person or have lasting relationships of any kind until we love ourselves. You have to matter enough to yourself before you can let others tell you that you matter. Self love is something we all struggle within our lives. For some, it is an everyday struggle. Whether you just need a little encouragement to know that you are loved and worthy every now and then, or whether it is hard to get through the day without loving who you are for the mind, body and soul, this will help. Take time to learn who you are. Love yourself for every part of you and embrace it and honor yourself.  I offer you the following prayer from The Mastery Of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz. May it provide you healing.

“Today, Creator of the Universe, I decree self-love.

I accept myself just the way I am, without judgment. I accept my mind the way it is, with all my emotions, my hopes and dreams, my personality, my unique way of being. I accept my body just the way it is, with all its beauty and perfection. Let the love I have for myself be so strong that I never again reject myself or sabotage my happiness, freedom, and love.

From now on, let every action, every reaction, every thought, every emotion, be based on love. I increase my self-love until the entire dream of my life is transformed, from fear and drama to love and joy. Let the power of my self-love be strong enough to break all the lies I was programmed to believe – all the lies that tell me I am not good enough, or strong enough, or intelligent enough, that I cannot make it. The power of my self-love is so strong that I no longer need to live my life according to other people’s opinions. I trust myself completely to make the choices I must make. With my self-love, I am no longer afraid to face any responsibility in my life or face any problems and I resolve them as they arise.  Whatever I want to accomplish, let it be done with the power of my self-love.

Starting today, I love myself so much that I never set up any circumstances that go against myself. I can live my life being myself and not pretend to be someone else just to be accepted by others. I no longer need other people to accept me or tell me how good I am. I know what I am. With the power of my self-love, I enjoy the beautiful being I see every time I look in the mirror. Let there be a big smile on my face that enhances my inner and outer beauty. I feel such intense self-love that I always enjoy my own presence.

I now love myself without judgment. When I judge, I carry blame and guilt, I have the need for punishment, and I lose the perspective of God’s love.  I strengthen my will to forgive myself in this moment. I clean my mind of emotional poison and self-judgments so I can live in complete peace and love.

My self-love is the power that changes the dream of my life. With this new power in my heart, the power of self-love, I transform every relationship I have, beginning with the relationship I have with myself. I am now free of any conflict with others. I am happy to share my time with my loved ones and to forgive them for any injustice I feel in my mind. I love myself so much that I forgive myself for ever being hurt in my life.

I possess the courage to love my family and friends unconditionally, and to change my relationships in the most positive and loving way.  I create new channels of communication in my relationships so there is no war of control, there is no winner or loser.  I work together as a team with humanity for love, for joy, for harmony.

Let my relationships with my family and friends be based on respect and joy so I no longer have the need to tell them how to think or how to be. Let my romantic relationship be the most wonderful relationship.  Let me feel joy every time I share myself with my partner.  I accept others just the way they are and without judgment. Because when I reject them, I reject myself, when I reject myself, I reject the knowing of God expressing within me.

Today is a new beginning. Today I start my life over beginning with the power of self-love. I enjoy my life, I enjoy my relationships, I explore life, I take risks, I live my life on purpose, and no longer live in fear of love. I am now Master of Gratitude, Generosity, and Love and I enjoy all creation forever and ever.
And so it is.”

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Masculine & Feminine Energies: How to find balance

398a60b5-5469-42ce-8311-fc3bb1734317We have entered into a year unlike any that we have experienced before. We are more aware energetically and spiritually and are living in a world that is different than any other period in history. When combining consciousness of the Universe, Earth, and Mass with our own energy we are bound to get a little off balance with our inner masculine and feminine energies.

Within each being, regardless of their gender, reside Masculine and Feminine energy. Finding balance within these energies is extremely important and something many overlook. Being unbalanced can affect many aspects of our lives. People who tend to be high in their masculine energy can be toxic and have unhealthy patterns toward other people. People who are high in their feminine energy tend to be toxic towards themselves. Creating balance in your masculine and feminine energies will help improve many aspects of your life and can also improve your physical, emotional and spiritual energies. Here are some common characteristics for masculine and feminine energies.

 Masculine (Yang) Characteristics:

  • Analytical
  • Assertive
  • Competitive
  • Focused
  • Goal orientated
  • Logical & Linear
  • Objective
  • Passionate
  • Protective
  • Singular
  • Stable
  • Supportive
  • Transforming

For a male, optimal balance in your energy field is 60% masculine energy and 40% feminine energy. If you are out of balance and have a weak masculine energy, you may notice that you experience more of the following: fear, anger, doubt, indecisiveness, unreasonableness with others, and the inability to move forward. It is also possible for a male to experience a higher feminine energy. In that case, it would be possible for him to feel overly emotional with things that can intensify some the characteristics of a lower masculine level.

Feminine (Yin) Qualities are characterized by:

  • Allows for flow
  • Compassionate
  • Creative
  • Emotional
  • Empathic
  • Instinctual wisdom
  • Intuitive
  • Multi-tasking
  • Nurturing
  • Receptive
  • Relating

For a female, optimal balance in your energy field is 60% feminine energy and 40% masculine energy. Some indications that you may be out of balance due to a weaker feminine energy are: being closed off from others, tending to be greedy, and tending to isolate yourself because you do not want to give of yourself or share anything you have. A female with a weaker feminine energy will also blame others for everything and not take responsibility for any of her own actions. It is also possible for a female to experience a higher masculine energy and, in that case, it would be possible for her to feel overly logical and in her own mind more than in her heart, and become more assertive with things that can intensify some the qualities of a lower feminine level.

Ways to balance

There are many different ways you can bring balance to your masculine and feminine energy. But, the key is the old saying “treat others they was you wish to be treated”.  Doing so, or at least trying to, keeps your true nature in balance. Think of your masculine and feminine energy as the scales of justice. When you are true to yourself and true to others, the balance is aligned and in this case aligned with the 60/40 balance based on your need. It also allows you to check in with your own feelings and see where you are. Other ways to balance these energies is by first being honest with yourself and recognizing you have an imbalance. Once you do you will find out what you need to balance those energies. Tools are available such as essential oils, spiritual sprays and affirmations based on which area you need to balance out. Here are a few tool links:

Balance Essential Oil http://www.doterratools.com/documents/Balance_Grounding_Blend_Product_Information_Page.pdf

Divine Feminine Goddess Empowerment Spray to help balance Feminine Energy

http://www.embodythesacred.net/awesome_sprays.html

Padre Sol Sacred Masculine and Father blessing spray for solar empowerment and male relationships to help balance Masculine Energy

http://www.embodythesacred.net/awesome_sprays.html

Another key way to keep your masculine and feminine energies balanced is to keep your energy grounded. There are many different ways that you can achieve grounding your energy. These include eating vegetables or red meat, taking a salt bath, exercising, spending time in nature, and even using stones or crystals. Spiritual healing methods such as Reiki, Shamanic Healing and any Healing energy work can also assist you in achieving balance plus so much more. There are also meditative grounding methods that can help you overall with your grounding. There are many grounding meditation methods and resources available online. For more specific information about grounding methods, please check out our “Spiritual Grounding: A Manual & Reference Guide” available in both paperback and e-book. Included in this book, you will find four different grounding methods, plus a bonus method to use during travel. Additionally, you will find a short exercise that you can do in a few minutes daily to help you create optimal balance in your masculine and feminine energy. For more information please visit: https://www.elysianld.com/our-product-shop.html . Email us about this blog post, and receive special pricing for both paperback and e-book versions.

Working with, and balancing out your masculine and feminine energies will not only allow you to connect more with your own energies, but really allow you to learn to love and appreciate who you are and support and nurture your spiritual needs.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Living a Life of Gratitude

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What is the first thing you do as soon as you open your eyes each day? Do you start your day with something positive, or something negative? Each day we have the opportunity to start our day off in a positive way by expressing gratitude. Gratitude is really about expressing thankfulness for what we already have in our life. Living a life of Gratitude is something that you can teach yourself to include and, before you know it, you won’t even have to think about doing it anymore. You will just do it!

 Benefits of Gratitude include:

  • Improves sleep
  • Reduces anger and enhances Empathy
  • Creates higher self esteem
  • Improves both physical and emotional health overall
  • Creates better relationships
  • Opens you up to receiving positive energy exchanges
  • Creates a stronger connection with your faith
  • Allows you to change your perspective of the world around you

 

Living a life of Gratitude 21 Day Challenge:

A habit is formed in 21 days. So, why not form a positive habit to live a life of gratitude? You can do this in a group or individually. Participating in the challenge doesn’t require a special tools. The only requirement is a desire to make a positive difference in your life. Commit to the challenge, by just telling yourself you will do the best you can. Ideally, you would do something every day for the 21 days. But, if you miss a day here or there that is okay. As long as you are trying you are already succeeding in taking steps to live a life of gratitude.  Before starting the challenge, I want you to write a note to yourself that you will open on the 21st day of the challenge. You can write about what you hope to learn or become enlightened about on this 3 week journey. You can write what you would like to do as an expression of gratitude on the last day of the challenge, or a reminder of why you did the challenge, or the promise to continue to live a life of gratitude after the challenge. It can even be a thank you note to yourself for completing the challenge. The letter can include anything you want, it can be a sentence or a paragraph. Once you write it, seal it and place it somewhere safe and don’t open it until the last day of the challenge. Here are 21 ideas for how you can partake in this life changing challenge! You can do all of them, one of them or pick and choose the ones that work for the areas of your life. Remember the more you give of yourself to this journey the more you are going to get out of it at the end. What you do with it is up to you.

  • Keep a Gratitude Journal: For 21 days, keep track of all the things you are grateful for in your life. Then, at the end of the 21 days, review what you have written over the 3 weeks and watch how in that time you have received additional blessings in those areas.
  • Say thank you to a soldier
  • Express gratitude when a stranger does something nice for you like hold open a door, or allows you to go in front of them, then pass along that gratitude and do the same for a stranger.
  • Hold a 5 minutes or less gratitude session with yourself. By simply taking a few minutes a day to express your gratitude to yourself, God, Source, Universe, etc. you are keeping that positive exchange of energy increasing the overall wellbeing of your mind, body, spirt.
  • Create a Gratitude affirmation for something you are struggling with, and for 21 days recite the affirmation daily, and whenever you may be thinking about the problem.
  • Post only positive articles, photos, messages etc. on your social media for 21 days.
  • Say a Gratitude prayer daily. There are both really good religious and non-religious prayers available on the internet. The key is to pick the one that resonates with you the most. You can even just pray and praise God, Universe or Source for what is in your life.
  • Express thanks to the people in your life who make a positive impact.
  • Express Gratitude for something that didn’t go your way, only for you to realize that you had something better in store for you.
  • Pick a different topic for each day and express to yourself and others something you are grateful for regarding that topic. For example, health, wisdom, friendship, family, your spiritual path, etc.
  • Struggling Financially? Why not use the 21 days to create a more grateful attitude towards our finances. Instead of saying, how am I going to pay this, say “Universe/ God, thank you for providing this…”
  • Heard of Vision Board? Why not make a Gratitude Board! Take a poster board and place images of everything you are grateful for and look at it every day for 21days to remind you of all the wonderful things you have in your life.
  • Does music inspire you to have a grateful attitude? Make a playlist with your favorite tunes to listen to throughout the day to keep your mind and soul thankful.
  • Looking to create a better relationship with food? Expressing gratitude for the nutritious food you have access to before each meal will help you reinforce making healthy food choices to fuel your body and not feed your emotions.
  • If you are in a relationship, do the challenge together with your partner and, each day, share something about why you are grateful for the other person. Find unique ways to share the experience with your partner, through thank you cards, sticky notes, a note on a napkin they will see later in the day. Be creative and have fun with this one and watch how at the end of the challenge your relationship is that much stronger and you are able to express gratitude more easily with each other in a language you can both understand. You can also do this particular exercise with your children as well and engage them in process of expressing gratefulness.
  • Passing the gratefulness at dinner: If you would like to do a family event, have everyone before dinner go around the table, and express what they are grateful for that day.
  • Create a routine of when you first walk up in the morning, before your feet hit the ground, say thank you for the day you are about to have. Then, at the end of the night, while you are getting back in bed, express your thanks again for your day. Here is what I like to say in the morning, “ Thank you God for today, thank you for anointing me with health and allowing me to live today  the way you intend for my purpose.” Then at night, I simple restate “ Thank you God for today” then I continue with any evening prayers or things that happened during the day that I am grateful for.
  • Each day our body works hard for us. Yet, how often do we take time to thank it for all it does and not just except it to do what we need it to do. We often don’t realize we take it for granted until we get sick or it stops working at its optimum state. Spend time over the 21 days to thank your body for all it does for you and make a commitment to learn to listen to it better to create a stronger relationship with it so you can continue to be grateful for it far beyond the challenge.
  • Read a book about gratitude and look for ways that you can incorporate the methods you learn into truly living a life of gratitude. There are many books available online about gratitude. Go with your intuition with which one is the one you need.
  • Practice gratitude breathing during yoga, pilates, meditation or any other spiritual or physical exercise you may do. Here is a great article about gratitude breathing: http://wildaboutwork.com/improve-your-life-with-gratitude-breathing/
  • Make a gratitude jar. Have someone really special in your life? Why not write down 21 reasons why you love about them, why you are grateful for them, how amazing they are, and any words of encouragement and place it in a jar and give it to them. This will allow them to pull a small note of gratitude anytime they may need an emotional pick me up. These make great birthday, holiday and “just because” gifts!

There are many other ways that you can incorporate gratitude into your life. Get your friends and family involved in your challenge and watch the abundance overflow in your life, really placing perspective on what matters most in your life. As we enter into the month of November, we all tend to become more aware of what we are thankful for as the holidays approach. That is why we will be running our challenge November 5th 2015 through November 25th, 2015.  You can start your 21 day challenge at any time. But, if you would like to participate along with us and our online community and receive encouraging inspiration along the way you can join our event at https://www.facebook.com/events/1069999319700228/ . With our event ending the day before Thanksgiving, the most popular day in the United States to give thanks, why not truly know what it is like to experience gratitude and see how your life can change in the most amazing ways and make it a day of Gratitude all around the world. “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Eckhart Tolle

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Autumn Equinox: Time to Harvest

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“In the beginning when God created the heavens and the earth, the earth was a formless void and darkness covered the face of the deep, while a wind from God swept over the face of the waters. Then God said, “Let there be light”; and there was light. And God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness. God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And there was evening and there was morning, the first day… And God said, “Let there be lights in the dome of the sky to separate the day from the night; and let them be for signs and for seasons and for days and years, and let them be lights in the dome of the sky to give light upon the earth.” And it was so. God made the two great lights – the greater light to rule the day and the lesser light to rule the night – and the stars. God set them in the dome of the sky to give light upon the earth, to rule over the day and over the night, and to separate the light from the darkness. And God saw that it was good.” – The Bible

The Autumn Equinox also known as Mabon brings balance back between the light and the dark. The Spring Equinox brings in balance of the light and the Autumn Equinox brings in balance of the dark. Both the light and the dark co-exists because of each other. The balance of the darkening of the sky gives us time to reflect on all that we are thankful for, to process all of the energy and knowledge we learned during the previous seasons of abundance, and how we can continue to integrate that throughout the changing of the season.

Autumn is a time of Harvest, and the Equinox is a time to fill up your spiritual basket. Think of the last 4 months of the year as a harvest period. You were growing and learning new things about yourself and your life purpose and manifested how you would reach that goal of living on your path. Perhaps you took an energy class or started to meditate, or learned about spiritual grounding. There may also be some lessons you learned along the way and patterns that you were finally able to alter. Look back at all those things you learned and decide which items you are going to put in your basket and carry with you down your life path. Sometimes it can be hard to release some of these items, and maybe some of the lessons involved co-workers, friends, or people from your past. When you continue to place those kinds of items such as energy from the past of someone you may have parted with earlier in the year, it is only going to weigh down your basket and make less room for another tool you may need. Spend the week around the Equinox visualizing your basket and what you want to move forward with. It is ok to put certain things in and then take them out and reorganize it as you go. You may think you are almost done and then find something you really want to take with you on the next phase of your journey. That means you have to take something else out. It is ok to let it go, and if you are simply not ready that is ok also. Bring it with you and know that when the time is right for you, you can remove it anytime you want.

Here are some other ways that you can celebrate the Autumn Equinox & Mabon:

  • Meditate: With the Energies of the season shifting, spending some time meditating can be a good way for you to bring some the balancing and harmonizing energies into your energy field. You can also use meditation as a way to help you decide what goes into your spiritual harvest basket.
  • Go Apple Picking: Apples are often a symbol of the fall season, and filled with many spiritual meanings. Spending some time harvesting the apples, connecting to something that grew from the earth will not only help clear your mind, and increase your spiritual energy. It will also help ground you. You can also work with the apples and incorporate them into your diet for the fall such as apple cider, apple pie, apple jam, apple butter, apple bread. The list goes on and on. Apples are truly a sign of harvesting so if including apples into your Equinox activities is something you decide to do, why not make it a celebration itself and make it a family or friends event as well.
  • Clear & Clean your space: Just like spring cleaning it is a good idea to do a fall cleaning. Not only is it a good idea to do a thorough cleaning session in your home, or office, but you will want to clear the energy in your space to. Using sage, sweetgrass, holy water, palo santo or any other smudging tool you may have will not only help break up any stagnate energy, but clear it away and help you raise the vibrations around you, truly making your environment ready for the changing of the seasons.
  • Participate in an Autumn Equinox Ceremony: An Autumn Equinox Ceremony can be a really fun way to participate in the magic of the season. It can also be a great family event. There are many kinds of ceremonies, from drumming circles, bonfires, blessing circles and so forth. Any kind of Autumn Equinox Ceremony will also help you raise your energetic vibration and jump start the blessings that the fall months have to offer.
  • Connect with Nature & Honor Mother Earth: There is something about the crisp air in the fall that brings in clarity and an oneness to the Earth. While spending time in nature, whether it be a walking trail, mountain, ocean or your back yard you are making a conscious effort to connect with the earth’s energy. A great way to honor that connection would be to leave an offering to the earth. Things like birdseed, acorns, sticks etc. are all good items to leave as an offering and express your thankfulness to Mother earth. They are also good items for the animals as they start to stock up for their hibernation period.

Above all this season, express your gratitude for the lessons and the blessings of the past seasons and all that you have learned and gifts you have been given by the Universe. September is the month of Universal Love, Life Purpose, Soul Mission and Higher Perspective. The Universe is really asking you to take the energy of the Autumn Equinox and begin to live a soulful life and step into your purpose. You are in a true season of Harvest and it is time that you learn to appreciate the dark just as much as the light. Without one or the other, how would we know the difference or learn to appreciate what we have.

Stay Inspired by the Divine

Stacey

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Connecting to your Higher Self

hsWhat if there was one person who knew you in every lifetime you ever lived? They knew your purpose, your flaws and your deepest passions. And, they have been your best friend since the beginning of your soul. Well, there is such a person, your higher self! Your higher self is part of your soul and has been with you through the good and bad, every lesson and heart ache and joyous occasion you have ever experienced. One of the most powerful tools that you can develop at any stage in your spiritual path is to create a relationship with your higher self. Your higher self is your highest level of connection with the divine source and resides in your Etheric Body. Imagine your higher self as a direct link to universal information specifically related to you, your purpose and life path. It is your total soul consciousness. It knows everything about you from every lifetime you have ever lived and ever will including information on soul contracts and life plans. It is a constant part of your life that you can choose to incorporate into your everyday.

Each of us has a higher self, and we all have the ability to work with them, get knowledge and life answers from them. Our highest self has nothing but pure unconditional love for us, which means that nothing but love can exist within that relationship. So, when you are working with that element of yourself, it is important to know that you can trust the guidance and information that is given to you. Where there is pure love, there can be no fear. Therefore, there is no EGO involved when it comes to the workings of the highest self. All the information you receive is coming directly from a pure divine source.

Before connecting with your higher self, you should also be open to the fact that your highest self is neither male nor female, but a source that may present themselves to you as either male or female regardless of what gender you are in this lifetime. This means that a female in this lifetime can have a higher self that comes through as male and vice versa. Every human being has male and female energy that resides in our soul. For example, a male that is balanced with his male and female energy will have 60% male energy and 40% female energy roughly, and a female will have 60% female and 40% male energy. Our highest self resonates with all lifetime energies. So, if you are female in this lifetime and your higher self comes through as a male on a soul level you may find that your soul purpose and path has areas that you may need to work on that require more male energy traits. If you are a male in this lifetime and your higher self presents itself as a female, you may find your soul purpose is related to more female energy traits. Here are some traits of male and female energies that may help you relate better to your higher self form.

FEMALE

Being

Containing

Earth, water elements

Feeling

Gathering

Intuitive perception

Listening

Mercy

Nurturance

Pleasure

Synthesis

Yin

MALE

Air, fire elements

Analysis

Contributing

Discipline

Doing

Hunting

Logical perception

Protection

Speaking

Thinking

Yang

There are a few ways that you can learn how to connect and get to know your higher self, here is a list of some good options for beginning contact with them.

  1. Meditation/ Guided Meditation: This is my personal favorite method for connecting and working with your higher self. Meditation can be the most powerful and effective form to receive the information that is most important for you to hear at the time from your higher self. You will find that if you have some experience in meditation even as a beginner you will be able to do some journeying in your meditation work to meet with your higher self. If it is your first time ever contacting your higher self, you may find that a guided meditation specific for contacting your higher self may be a good way to start. Guided mediation is good because it walks you through the process and creates a safe positive environment for you to feel comfortable with contacting your higher self, allowing for an easier time contacting your higher self in the future. At Elysian Life Design, we do offer a guided meditation service that allows you to connect with your higher self. In your first “connecting to the divine session” you will be walked through an amazing one on one experience with your higher self and be able to find out key factors of your life path and purpose, or how to take the next steps in your life. You will also be given insight on how to work with your higher self on your own any time you want. For more information about this service please go to: http://www.elysianld.com/services.html. These sessions can be done in person by phone, FaceTime or Skype. So, no matter where in the world you are, we can help you connect with your higher self. For more questions, or to schedule an appointment, please contact us via: http://www.elysianld.com/contact-us.html
  2. Journaling: This is a good method for keeping track of conversations that you may have with your higher self, as well as providing the opportunity to keep track of questions you may want to ask your higher self in future conversations. While writing in your journal you may also get insight from your higher self if you are advanced in contacting your higher self. This method will enable you to, go back and review any information your higher self may have given you that you may find helpful for other areas of your life path.
  3. Mindfulness: Being mindful is a conscious decision to be aware of yourself and your actions in the very moment that you are doing them. When you are mindful, you are creating a positive environment for a pure connection with your higher self. By being in the present moment you can allow the noise of your mind to become quiet and review choices you are making and how they affect you on all levels.
  4. Dreams: Just as we can receive visitations from past loved ones in dreams, we can receive visitations from our higher self. Setting the intention before you go to sleep to connect and receive information from your higher self will allow the communication to flow in your dreams. When trying to have conversations with your higher self in your dreams, you may want to set specific intentions for your communication in the dream. For example, perhaps you are having a hard time finding out what your life purpose is, or looking to change careers; those are good areas to tell your higher self you need guidance in for that particular dream.
  5. Spending time with yourself: Set time aside weekly to do a higher self check in, and what a better way than spending time with yourself. It can be 5 minutes, 30 minutes an hour or in between. But, during this time review the areas you are working on with your higher self. How are you integrating any information your higher self is giving you in to your life? How are the methods you are using working for you? How are you incorporating your higher self more in to your everyday, and where do you need adjustments? These are all questions that you can ask yourself during this time, plus any additional questions you see fit for your relationship with your higher self. By having weekly time, you will be able to track your progress and become more aware of all the layers of your soul, mental, physical and spiritual.

Your highest self will often present itself from other religions, races, light forms or ancient civilizations. Growing up I always related to various ancient civilizations that I thought for sure would have been represented when I meet my higher self. I was wrong! The first time I met my higher self was in a soul retrieval session. I was doing some journey work and came across a door that led me into one of the most beautiful rooms I had even seen. It was my inner temple that was filled with shades of reds, golds, purples, blues and so much more. Then, once I became open, my higher self made herself known. On a soul level, my spirit relates to Hinduism and appeared to me with her presence as such. I would never have expected my higher self to be of the Hindu persuasion.  But, as I learned more about that culture and my life path, I realized that it makes sense for my soul to resonate with Hinduism.

The best part about learning how to connect with your higher self is that each time you do, you will develop a deeper and deeper relationship. After a few times of using the method of your choice, you will be able to connect to your higher self within a moment. You will be able to visually and mentally go to your sanctuary where the two of you can talk and you can receive the inner wisdom you need. There are no rules on how many time you can contact your higher self, or what you can and cannot include your higher self in. Ideally you will want to connect with your higher self every day

Your higher self wants to connect with you and help guide you. So, now is the time to start forming that connection with the purest divine form of yourself and bring your level of Universal and Self understanding to the ultimate level.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Divine Meditation Tips & Techniques for Beginners

9b1e1758a451c45d0a82a8fd4dffbd5bMethods of mediation have existed since before 500 B.C. Meditation transcends gender, race, religion and age. The Dalai Lama once stated that, “If every 8 year old in the world is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation.” Meditation not only has health benefits of:

  • lower blood pressure
  • improved blood circulation
  • lower heart rate
  • slower respiratory rate
  • reduce anxiety
  • lower blood cortisol levels
  • more feelings of overall health
  • stress reduction
  • deeper relaxation

But, it can bring your soul a deep sense of overall happiness, spiritual enlightenment, a greater sense and connection with the Creator and the Universe. Meditation is a divine act within itself. When you choose to meditate, you are making a conscious decision to get out of your own head, and get connected to your higher self, God, Spirit Guides, Guardian Angels or all of them.

The beautiful thing about meditation is that any one of any age can do it; you do not need special training or anything other than yourself to engage in meditation. It is important that, when you meditate, you remain mindful to the best of your ability. If you are struggling with something in your life like love, family issues, health, business, career changes, and even financial worries, mediation can help you get clear divine answers. Most people I know, including myself, have one major potential problem when they meditate; falling asleep. This is very common, especially as a beginner. There is a fine line between a meditative state, and a sleep state. Don’t become frustrated if this happens to you. I am a big believer that if you fall asleep during your meditation it is for a reason. Many times certain energies can only integrate with your energy and body in a sleep state. Think of it as getting an energy update. Allow it to happen the way it is supposed to and know that you are receiving what you need at that time. You may even find that you receive your answers in your dreams. Once you create a mediation routine or know triggers in your life that would benefit from meditation, you will know that the answers are just some deep breaths away.

It may take some practice at first, but before you know it, you will be able to experience deeper meditations. Here are a few simple steps to begin your mediation practice.

  1. Find a place you feel safe, comfortable and can relax. This can be in your home, garden or a place you consider sacred.
  2. Set your intensions for the meditation session. What are you looking to receive answers to? If you are unsure, ask the Creator or the Universe to tell you what you need to know for the greatest good of your higher self.
  3. Decide if you are going to meditate with sound. There are many great options, for guided meditations, or meditation music with breaths. I personally happen to love the OM Life music by OmHarmonics. http://www.omharmonics.com/
  4. Get comfortable in your mediation space. You may find that you are most comfortable sitting or lying down. For beginners, I recommend sitting in the lotus position, or in a crossed legged sitting position. To know more about the lotus position, and examples, visit http://www.yogaoutlet.com/guides/how-to-do-lotus-pose-in-yoga/
  5. Close your eyes
  6. Start to breathe naturally. Start to remove the distractions in your mind and focus on your breath. Notice how your body moves with each inhale and exhale.  With each breath imagine yourself getting more and more connected to the divine.
  7. If your mind wanders, simply return your focus back to your breath. Focus on your breath for 2–3 minutes, and then reset your intensions for the session.
  8. Stay mindful and open to listening to what comes through for you once in your meditative state.
  9. When you believe your meditation session has come to end, slowly start to become more aware of your surroundings, and slowly awakening from mediation. Finally express your gratitude to the Creator, Universe or who you worked with during your mediation.

There is no set time for the duration of mediation other than the restrictions that you place on it. Allow the divine to provide you the time you need in order to receive the answers you seek. Once you become more experienced you will find that you can achieve a meditative state and the clarity you need in as little as 10 minutes. You may find that when you first start out, you may only meditate for 2 -3 minutes and that is ok. As you progress, the length of time will expand.

Just make sure that when you set the time aside to meditate you can fully dedicate yourself to it without being interrupted.

Trust the messages that you receive during your mediation session and trust that they are coming from a purely divine source. It is easy to forget what you experience during your sessions. So, I recommended writing down the your experience, what answers or guidance your received, and how you felt physically and spiritually. Did you feel energy, or visually see images in your mind; could you feel a divine presence? Keep track of these items so you can revisit them later on. It will help you tremendously especially if you are mediating on an issue you plan on doing a lot of work with, such as a health issue, relationship, or life purpose. If writing is not something that comes easily for you, you can always use the voice recorder feature on any smart phone and document your experience that way.

When you embark on your mediation journey, you are making a choice to improve your mind, body and spirit. Make the experience your own, and do what feels right for you, because that is exactly what you are supposed to be doing. Be mindful, listen and embrace the time with the higher source energy.

“Prayer is when you talk to God; Meditation is when you listen to God” – Diana Robinson

Stay Inspired by the Divine

Stacey

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Perspective of Peace

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Peace is a concept recognized around the world. Everyone tries to attain it, countries desire it, humans aspire for it, and probably every living creature prays for it.  So, why can it seem so hard to achieve at times? Peace is often defined as freedom of disturbance, or a period of harmony. But, who gets to decide when you are in your period of peace and why do people feel they have a say on how you attain it and how you live in peace?

I recently had the opportunity to visit the Chuang Yen Monastery in Carmel, NY, which is home to the largest indoor Buddha in the Western Hemisphere. Standing 37 feet tall, the incredible Buddha statue gives off an overwhelming feeling of peace that can bring you to tears. This had me thinking about the Buddha’s life. Growing up as a Prince and having everything he could ever dream of, he was unaware of the struggles of the other people living outside the palace gates.  Once he saw that not everyone experienced life with the luxury he did, he embarked on his journey to enlightenment. He experienced many practices where people had said that he could attain inner peace and enlightenment. Following the path that was true for him, it was under the Bodhi Tree where he finally experienced his awakening. He then went on to teach. Buddha experienced challenges and even had to change his course along the way, much like all of us have had to do at one point or several in our lives. It is when we find our own inner peace that we can view ourselves, others, and our surroundings differently that helps us reach our version of an awakening much like Buddha had.

Personally, I believe that we go through many awakenings and moments of enlightenment during our life time. These moments can come at any different phase of our life and can be related to health, love, career, family and so forth. When we become awakened to part of our inner purpose, we often find ourselves in a transitional period to make sure that all other areas of our life match our newly awakened selves. As part of this transition, we will seek out more peace in our lives and will do whatever we can to create a peaceful environment around us. A major part of this transition deals with reviewing relationships specifically with friends and family. It is very common that while on your spiritual path, you experience a really good relationship cleanse. You will find that friends you use to be really close with and spend time with are suddenly no longer compatible with your beliefs, or you can no longer relate to them.

Sometimes many people who are close to us, or have known us all of our lives will have a hard time accepting this new peaceful you. Remember that change is scary for most people so when you change, people around you experience change. Most of the time, our loved ones are used to us being a certain way and doing things they think we love to do. However, when those habits suddenly change they can question why and unintentionally make you doubt your choices. A few years ago, I decided to stop drinking any kind of alcohol. I had maybe less than 10 drinks a year so it wasn’t really a hard thing for me to do. But, other people, mostly friends, took my decision personally. Suddenly, people assumed I wasn’t fun to go out with in social settings anymore or they looked at me differently because of my choice. The thing was though that is was my choice, and it was something that brought peace to my life with or without the approval of others, because the only approval I needed was my own. It can be hard to hear criticism or comments but as long as you know what brings peace into your life, no one can take that away from you unless you let them.

Give this transition some time while everyone adjusts, including yourself. The relationships that you are supposed to continue and develop will deepen and your loved ones will cherish you more than they did, and vice a versa. If someone doesn’t support this part of you, simply give thanks to the universe for the opportunity to learn from them and then release yourself and that person from the relationship. This can be very difficult to do with friends and family. But, it will allow both of you to continue to learn, grown, and follow your individual paths. This is one of the best gifts you can give to someone you care about.

From a different perspective, once you experience enlightenment it can be challenging to see others not living a lifestyle of personal peace. It is important to remember that peace is attained differently for different people and we all experience it at different times in our life. Something you may have done in your life that brought you more peace will not be what a friend or loved one needs to do in their life. Just the way that we expect someone not to judge us for our choices, we cannot judge someone for something they decide to continue to do in their own lives. It is not your burden to carry. We may want to see the ones we care about living the very best lives they can and have them experience the joy that peace has brought us, but in this moment in time they are where they are supposed to be and living the best life they can for today. Once you can shift your perspective of peace, you may just find that you experience more freedom from disturbances and more periods of harmony than you originally thought.

Once that peace is attained, it is staying in that peace, and living in peace that then becomes a new journey we all must embark upon. “We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” – Buddha

Stay Inspired by the Divine

Stacey

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