Making a New Year’s Resolution for your Soul…

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As a New Year is upon us, we can be inundated with resolutions, goals, and wanting to create better lives for ourselves. Rightfully so, but I have found that a lot of people take a physical approach to these New Year’s Resolutions, like getting healthier, work out, “go on a diet” (a pretty popular one), stopping bad habits etc. It is not that these are bad resolutions. In fact I have known a lot of people who have done them, my self included. We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves when it comes to these resolutions. We set a big expectation of ourselves that is hard to always accomplish. For example, losing 30lbs in a month, although feasible, but not healthy, it is also not sustainable in the long term. For many years my New Year’s Resolution revolved around a physical piece of my life. Something that I could see.  Somehow, that meant it was more real. Most of the time, the resolution would fall to the important things to do mid to late January. In fact, none of my successful physical resolutions were ever made at the “New Year”.

Around 2011, I decided that I needed some inner work done on my soul level. Sometimes it is the unseen that needs the most work! Some can appear to have it all together on the outside, but are having a tough time in ways that cannot physically show. I was horrible at taking a compliment. So horrible in fact, that some people would say “can’t you take a compliment”. It would make me so uncomfortable if someone said something nice to me, that I didn’t know how to respond. So I would either over justify, if someone complimented a piece of clothing, purse, shoes etc and explain what a deal I got which, by the way, most people don’t care unless they specifically ask you where you got those items from. Or I would sometimes end up putting myself down to the person who gave the compliment to the point that they would doubt why they said it in the first place. Either way it was uncomfortable all around. I knew it was an area about myself that I didn’t like and wanted to change. So, in 2011 I made my first New Year’s “Soul Resolution”. Something that would benefit my soul and ultimately shine out onto my physical being.  So, for that whole year I decided that if someone gave me a compliment of any kind, I would say “Thank You.” Not thank you, I got them on sale, or thank you but… just thank you. I cut out the over justification and the awkwardness. Sometimes people want you to return the compliment. But, that’s a different story. For me to do what I needed to do, I had to say “thank you,” and move on.  Was I successful in that every day, NO. But somehow because it wasn’t a physical resolution like a diet that could be broken by a bagel on January 2nd but was a core being change that would take time. I just had to take it day by day. Somedays I did well and somedays I needed improvement but that was ok.

As the years went on, I tried to tackle harder things in my soul. For instance, one year I decided I was going to no longer live in fear. Fear is one resolution I may have to make for many years as it is so difficult to overcome. One year, I decided that I was not going to doubt God’s plan or think my life would be a practical joke, and to trust Him. Another year, I focused on Self-Love. This past year, I tackled worry. I joke that I was probably worrying in my mother’s womb. Somehow worry just consumed me and stressed me out, kept me up at night and just overall consumed my thoughts. Again, somedays I did well on this, and somedays I needed to take notes so I could do better the next day. But, as this year is coming to a close, I will tell you that in hindsight that I handle worry very differently than I did at this time last year. Do I still worry, yes, but I focus my energy differently. Instead of only focusing on the worry and the undesired outcomes, I redirect my thoughts to the positive. Now this is not new information that thinking positively will help your life. I am here to tell you that “if you think you can, you will,” and that works both ways. I have also noticed that I don’t lay awake pondering things that I once worried about, because they are all things over which I have no control. I would often recite this Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” I create a new habit within me to better deal with my worry, just like I did with trusting God’s plan, fear, and taking a compliment.

Will we lose 20lbs overnight, it’s not likely. Will we stop worrying overnight? That is highly unlikely also. But, if we get up each day and try our best, and recognize that each day what our best is may change and that is ok. As long as you are giving all you’ve got, even if it’s a two on a scale of a hundred, you are still giving your best. Every year, month, week and day is the opportunity to achieve your goal or desire. As for myself, I knew I had to clear out some old things before those new things fell into place. And for me, it worked, but I am still a work in progress. It didn’t happen overnight. But, as time went on, I noticed, “Oh I dealt with that better, or I am redirecting that thought etc.” For those who may be interested, here is the full serenity prayer that can be helpful for a variety of things you may be going through.

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.”

Serenity Prayer (Full Text)

I hope you will join me this year and every year in taking a Soulful approach to your New Year’s Resolutions. If anything, it can help you work on areas that you need to before the physical ones are ready to unfold.

Stay Positive & Stay Kind & Stay Inspired

Stacey

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The Day I Met Santa…

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The story of Santa Clause is one a lot of us grew up knowing and experiencing the Magic that was “Santa” from songs about good old Saint Nick to leaving out milk and cookies for him on Christmas Eve. I remember being young and thinking “how does he get around the world in one night?” Modern technology now helps us track Santa through his special journey Christmas Eve. But, as we get older, for some reason culture tells us that it is not cool or acceptable to believe in something magical or that we cannot understand with our logical minds. I am going to share with you a story that I have not shared with many people. But, I feel it is essential to fill the world back with some hope or magic this Holiday Season.

When I was 29, I had a profound experience on the Winter Solstice in 2012. That experience seemingly awakened my soul and put me on the path to my Spirituality. It awakened it from all the years of slumber from that part of myself. Ever since that day, I have seen the magic first hand that can be had at this time of year. Some call it a Christmas Miracle, some the Winter Solstice and others call it December 21st. Most of my life, I had experienced health issues, mostly various autoimmune challenges. As my soul was going through this new found awakening, some of those issues came to a cataclysmic moment. Three years later in 2015, I found myself laying in a hospital bed the week before Christmas. Although things weren’t as bad as they had been in the past, or in hindsight as bad as they were going to get, no one loves being in the hospital, especially right before the holidays.

See, you may be asking what exactly had happened to me on December 21, 2012. That was a day, if you remember, many people had speculated about since it was the last day of the Mayan Calendar. Many of us now know that day was a day that the energy changed in the world and it was like a veil had been lifted. Well that was the day when, for whatever reason, the light switch inside of me turned on and with it all of my Spiritual gifts. It was on that day that I realized that I had been suppressing my connection with Spirit. Throughout my life, I have always been able to sense things. But, I often ignored them or pretended they did not exist. I could be in a space and know that something else was there with me and get a sense of energy from it. I know that others can sense things also. But, many times we think it is bad or scary energy because we do not understand what it is. The unknown is often an unsettling experience. Usually, right before I would fall asleep, I would hear people talking to me or calling my name, and sometimes saying things I wasn’t sure I wanted to hear. I remember thinking, “why do they always want to talk to me right before I am about to go to sleep?” Well, that was because, at that time in my life, that was the only time my vibrations were high enough to be open to receiving the messages. I knew energy and spirits were around and there was this whole universal aspect of life. But, I was not sure I was ready to fully embrace that part of who I was. I continued to live my life that way for many years, and had done an excellent job suppressing them, or so I had thought. When that switch flipped everything became clear and yet so much to learn, and so many more questions. That day on the Winter Solstice was a day I stepped into my full relationship with Spirit, the Divine and awakened to my purpose.

So, in 2015, as I was laying in that hospital bed contemplating life, and trying my best to focus on the Christmas magic I could still harness even if I was not at a magical Winter Solstice event, it happened. That was when I saw Santa Clause walk through my hospital wall.

I may have just lost some of you for a moment, so let me repeat that, Santa Clause walked through the wall. Red suit, holly jolly, Saint Nick…

The hospital can be a very active place for someone who is sensitive to energy, or who can see and hear Spirits. But, never in my life did I expect to see that. Surprisingly, my first thought was not fear or disbelief, but I remember thinking, “Ok, things are about to get interesting!” As Santa walked closer to my bed, I did what any person would do. I said hi Santa. He walked over to my bedside and held my right hand. As he did this, he shared his trade secrets with me and my mind was officially blown. In that moment I remember thinking, this makes SO much sense. Before I tell you precisely what Santa said, it is important to understand that everything is an energy frequency. Even as humans we are made up of billions of particles that are made out of energy and therefore, we are energy. And, anything is possible if you tap into the right frequency of that energy.

Here is what Santa told me. He said, “If Spirit is energy and energy can be anywhere, then all of us have been looking at Santa the wrong way.” He is not a physical man that comes down our chimneys at night, and leave us physical gifts under the tree, but does something much more important. Santa is energy. Whether believing is seeing, or seeing is believing. Santa is Spirit energy, just like how the Universe is energy and we know there is something larger than ourselves in the Universe. Because Santa is this energetic frequency he can be anywhere and everywhere all at the same time.  Spirit frequency knows no time, and therefore time does not exist. So, that solved the question to how he travels around the world in one night and visits every child while they sleep. What he continued to tell me was that every Christmas Eve, he visits the hearts of every child and person who believes in the magic of Christmas. Even though, he doesn’t come in physical form, but energetically, he delivers the most powerful and profound gift to those believers. To a child or adult who has an open heart to the power of belief, he gives them the gift of “Christmas Spirit.” Christmas Spirit is something that will mean different things for different people. For some it is peace of earth, kindness to other people, the Charity of giving, and helping those in need, good tidings and cheer. For others, it may mean something else. But, the magic of Christmas, the kind of magic that can bring miracles is the Christmas Spirit. That frequency of peace, joy, blessings and gratitude for all that we already have in our lives. That kind of frequency that could bring peace on earth, if every person opened their heart to it more. To me, that is the most important gift of all; one that is surrounded in unconditional love from the Universe, from God. Miracles, Kindness, belief, peace and happiness to the Human Soul. So, as Santa stood there holding my hand, he asked me if my heart was open to receiving the Christmas Spirit. Of course I said yes! As he leaned down and kissed my forehead to give me the gift of the Christmas Spirit, I felt the cells in my body  as they reawakened to the magic that Santa Clause has just gifted me. As, the Spirit of Christmas was now inside of me, he said his goodbyes, gave me an old-fashioned Santa wink of his eye, touched my nose with his finger and said, “see you next year.” Then, he left the way he came and walked back through the wall, off to deliver the Christmas Spirit to another person.

The next day, the doctors let me go home. Some may not view it as a Christmas Miracle, but given my visitor the night before, I sure considered it as one. Since that day, I have seen Christmas differently. It is not about a gift under the tree. It is in fact about filling our hearts with the magic of the “Christmas Spirit” and all the other forms of spiritual gifts that come from tapping into its energy.

So, this Holiday Season, as life may have brought you in a direction that makes it hard to believe in Santa, or perhaps you and your family want to incorporate a new tradition, one that doesn’t cost anything, but will give you the best gift. I encourage you to try and open your hearts to the magic that can be had and experienced, by believing, and allowing the Spirit of Santa to give you the most important gift you can get at Christmas… The Christmas Spirit.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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How to Protect your Energy in your Everyday Life…

bubbleSometimes, as empathic or energy sensitive people, we can all wish that we can just stay in our safe sacred space 24/7. But, unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen in our favor. Sometimes in life, we have to do and go places that we would like to avoid at all costs. Sometimes, that may happen every day or sometimes this is heightened during social, holiday gatherings, or public events. Being in this type of situation can cause a lot of anxiety. This is especially when we will be around people with whom is difficult to set healthy boundaries with. Inadvertently, the energy around you can physically affect your mind, body and soul vibrations.

About six years ago, I met a wise woman who had lived thousands of lifetimes. She knew she was living in her last incarnation. She could sense that I had all this stress around me particularly related to an environment I had to be in all the time. She told me that I needed to find a way to protect myself from all the negative energy while still allowing the positive energy to enter into my field. It took some time to really comprehend what she was saying to me. But, within a few months, I started incorporating this method into my daily practice. Before I even knew that I could hear spirit, I was using tools that they were giving me to help me get to a place where I could hear them. This technique allows you to create an energetic shield around you that will keep negative energy out, but allow loving positive energy to flow through freely. This will also help if you are empathic and tend to pick up other people’s negative energy. By doing this exercise, you will keep that negative energy out of your own energy field and space. This method is very similar to “shielding” but uses certain aura colors to spiritually allow you to fill yourself with the light you need for that particular day. When thinking about what colors you will want to use for your day, do a mental review of what you have going on that day or the areas with which you need some help. Let’s say that you have a meeting with your boss that day or know that you need to have an important conversation. You will want to incorporate the color blue for that day as blue is the color of communication. If you want to have some extra protection for your day, yellow is always a great choice as it is a color of Divine protection. Perhaps you have been struggling with a health issue. You will want to use green as it is the color of healing. If you are trying to increase your own intuition and abilities, purple is the color for you, and so forth based on your needs. You may find that you have one or two colors that you want to include daily. White and Pink are good everyday choices. White is a pure state of light and often considered the light of the Divine. Pink is the color of love, and love is in all things. It is something we could all use a little extra of every day no matter how much we may have in our lives. There is no right or wrong way. So, trust your instincts to guide you for each day. When I have a hard time deciding on certain colors for the day, I like to also use Rainbow energy for the color. For some reason, I feel that way I have everything covered. Color is the most vibrant, versatile and fun way we can work with energy, so do just that, have fun. If you have particularly long days, you can always rejuvenate your energetic circle by simply thinking about the colors around you or mentally going through the exercise again. This will ensure that you will stay within a positive energy force all day for your highest good.

Exercise:

  1. While still sitting in the lotus or cross-legged position, bring your hand’s palm to palm to your heart chakra.
  2. Take a deep breath.
  3. Decide what color with which you are going to fill yourself.
  4. Bring your arms straight above your head while still keeping your hand’s palm to palm.
  5. Imagine the color of your choice energetically dispensing from your hands. Once you have that image in your mind’s eye, turn the palm of your hands outward.
  6. While still visualizing the color dispensing from your palms, move your hands down towards the floor. Then, bring the light around your back, up over your head, down your face, core and around your legs and back up to your head. This makes a complete energetic colored circle.
  7. With your hands still at your head from the last circle point, you will want to create a seal. The seal will help keep the color strong all day and keep anything out that will not suit your highest good. To create a seal, simply take your dominant hand and rotate your hand clockwise three times at the last circle point.
  8. If you are working with multiple colors, you will then want to repeat steps four through seven for each color with which you want to fill yourself.
  9. When you are done with your final fill and seal, you will want to express your gratitude to the Universe with a thank you, or Namaste for helping you with your day.

 

If visualization isn’t your thing, no worries. Here are some other ways that you can keep your energy field protected throughout your every day.

Stones & Crystals:  

Although there are lots of stones and crystals that provide protection elements. Here are our top 5 selections for you that we believe provide great protection for your energy.

  • Amethyst
  • Black Tourmaline
  • Obsidian
  • Selenite
  • Smoky Quartz

Working with a stone and crystal for energy protection is a fairly easy procedure. All you have to do is wear it, hold it, or have it in your space. There are also lots of jewelry options available for these stones and crystals such as bracelets, necklaces and worry palm stones. When using a stone in this way, it is important to keep the energy clear in it. There are many ways you can do this but, three of the simplest ways are to run the stone or crystal under cold water (DO NOT do this with selenite, as it dissolves in water.), leave it out under the Full Moon overnight, or lastly, you can leave it in a bowl of salt overnight. This will ensure that the stone or crystal works effectively for providing protection for you.

Sprays & Other Products:

If applying a physical product is more your thing, here are some items that we make at Elysian Life Design that can help you accomplish your Energy Protection needs.

 

Energy Grounding & Protection Oil 10ml Roll-on:

This product protects your own energy and repels others. It helps to keep you grounded and your energy up while making sure you don’t hold onto or pick up any lower energies from other people. It is easy to carry in your purse or pocket. Great for anyone, but especially helpful for empaths and great for children who are sensitive to energy shifts. This product comes in a scented or unscented option and uses all natural and therapeutic grade products, as well as Energy Medicine, some as Reiki, and Life Force Energy vibrations to assist in the protection it provides. For more information on this product click here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/248459653/energy-grounding-protection-oil?ref=shop_home_active_16

Holy Water:

Our Holy Water goes through an intense process to raise its vibration and enhance its purification properties. The best thing about a really good Holy Water is that you only have to buy it once! Simply leave a little in your bottle and fill it with another purified water. That water then becomes Holy Water. So, you can make it last as long as you like. Some uses of Holy Water are clearing and blessing yourself, home, office, car, pet, and an ill person. It can also raise vibrations. When in doubt simple spray! For more information about this product click here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/507047988/holy-water-2oz?ref=shop_home_active_12

Protection Salt Rub:

This item is sprinkled around the exterior of your space that helps seal the positive energy in, and keep the negative energy out while clearing and attracting positive energy and prosperity. It can also be used on entryway thresholds, windowsills, or in a small bowl in your space. Perfect for the upcoming season on people and energy in and out of your space. Work in an office? Place some in a small decorative bowl on your desk. Are you or your children sensitive to energy? Place some in a little bag and carry it in your pocket. I sprinkle some over my threshold to help keep my space energetically clear. So many uses! You can also put some in a small bag and wear it throughout the day. For those of you who are scent sensitive, there are no oils used, only natural scents of herbs. For more information about this product click here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/208018561/protection-salt-rub?ref=listing-shop-header-3

Protecting our energy can feel like it is complex at times, and there are so many variations on, how someone can go about it. There is another technique that works really well. However, getting it right is the most difficult part. Learning to not let others affect your energy. This happens a lot with those people with whom it is harder to set boundaries; for instance co-workers, friends, and family. We all have that person the thought of whom gets your energy in a tizzy. The best and most efficient way to deal with that truly comes to the realization that we are all doing the best we can in this life and their reality may not be your reality. It is not always your responsibility to convince them otherwise. All you have to do is remain kind with your words and actions not only to them but yourself as well. Surrounding yourself in love for yourself and being confident in you is just like wrapping yourself in a sparkly white blanket. Always remember that no one can affect your energy unless you allow them to. You got this!

There are many parts and pieces about how energy vibrations affect our mind, body, and soul. These are a few highlights of quick ways you can learn to protect your own energy. If you want to see us write more about this topic or similar topics, let us know. Email us at contact@elysianld.com. We want to hear from you.

If you enjoyed this article, you may also enjoy this one: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2017/08/01/the-power-of-affirmations/

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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A Spiritual approach to De-Clutter your life & why it’s important…

This year, more than ever, I felt surrounded by “stuff”! On all levels, I was cluttered. In my mind, my surroundings and everything felt like it was busting at the seams. I would both physically and energetically clean my space, and yet it would still feel like something was off. Then I realized that I had to start to de-clutter my life. Truth is I was a much different person when I was in my twenties than I was in my mid-thirties. In my twenties, it was “things” that I collected that were fake fulfilling me. When looking back, I was an internal mess in my twenties. At one point I had 100 pairs of shoes. A) I am not proud of that and B) no one needs that many shoes. Reality is most of the shoes hurt my feet and I never wore them or wore them once, but kept them for some kind of sentimental value. We will discuss this shortly. When I turned thirty, I had a shift. It wasn’t because I was in a new decade of my life. Things that once made me happy were suddenly not as fulfilling as they once were. I had a dramatic overhaul of shifts in perspective. Suddenly, material items like brand names, bags, belts, jewelry, shoes etc were not what made me happy anymore. To be honest, those things never did. They only masked the internal clutter I was trying to hide such as my stress, unhappiness, depression, anger, frustration and other emotions I didn’t want to feel and more. Without realizing it, I had formed unhealthy attachments to objects. I bought them to fill a void. It didn’t work.

So, even though it took about 5 years for this shift to fully come into perspective, and probably even longer. I found myself at 35 and wondering what the heck to do with all this stuff? When you go through a major life overhaul it can be overwhelming. So, I suggest you start in steps. If you are like me, make a list of the steps you want to take. You will want to have three lists going for yourself, and sub-lists within each list. The first list is all of the clutter that fills up your mind. All the things you worry about over which you have no control. That one was first on my list and I have been working on that for a good three years and I will probably be a work in progress on that for the rest of my life.  Then you want to write down on that list as well, all the people that hold space in your head that don’t deserve to. I speak from experience! Cut them free from your head or send them a rent bill every month, because it is not worth it. Forgive them, forgive yourself and then let it go, and repeat if and when necessary. Then, write everything else on the list that clutters your head. Like, finances, security etc. Then, go through the list and cross off things over which you have no control. Automatically, those get cut and let go. I never thought a day would come where I would complain and say, I am paying too much for my phone bill or my cable bill. But, the day came. If finances are something that fills your head with clutter, the best thing you can do it actually look at them. See where you stand. See where you can adjust and make changes. What is each worth for you to keep in your life? Call the vendors you work with and see if there is any way they can lower your monthly bill. For me, I looked at my bills, I decided to get rid of cable. Yes, it took some adjustment. But, I was already paying a membership to Amazon Prime and had access to Netflix so spending over $100 just in cable didn’t make sense. Just like 100 pairs of shoes, I didn’t need to be watching that much TV anyway. I wanted quiet in my life and to be able to hear nature. I changed car insurance companies where I actually got more for less money. My point is to look at areas of your life and see where the money is going and adjust where you can and how you can. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the shift happens and then it becomes your comfortable place. Finances are hard for people. They are often the area that keeps people in places they don’t want to be any more for many different reasons. Make financial choices that your future self will thank you for. The next two lists may be harder believe it or not.

Energetically and physically clear your space. Energetically; everything that ever happens in our space leaves a residue of energy that can become imprinted in the space. Illness, doubt, arguments, negative emotions, trauma, grief and even every day energetic junk that you pick up can build up in the rooms of your space. Prosperity, high vibration, and abundance have a difficult time in lower vibration spaces. So, remove the clutter, organize, and make room for new. A rule that I have personally followed is that, if you have not used it in six months, get rid of it. Let’s be honest, we do not always have this “urge to purge”, or clean up. But, when your body tells you it is time, listen to it and just go with it. That is the absolute best time to go through your closet, cabinets, etc. When you get that urge to organize and clean things out, your emotions will less likely to interfere with your decisions of whether or not to keep sweatpants you love but can no longer wear because they are so worn out, or the CD you bought in 1998 that you now have in your digital music collection. Which organizing my digital library is also on my declutter list, as well as organizing my computer files. But like I said, let’s take small steps.  If you are the type of person who doesn’t get that urge that is ok too; try to do a good de-clutter at the change of each season. Take that feeling and drive and make a “physical things” list. This was definitely where I saw the shift happen. Like I said, I had a lot of stuff, and a lot of stuff I simply didn’t use anymore. And, not only did I have stuff in my home, I also had some at my parent’s house too. (I know they will read this and say to themselves and you still do…again I am self-proclaimed work in progress.) Like I said before, the basic rule to de-clutter anything is; if you haven’t used it in six months it is time to let it go. This is where keeping things for sentimental reasons can come into play. You may not even want to do a list for the physical stuff and just start purging. When you have one of those moods where you just want to clean, that is your best time to do it. You will not be influenced by your emotions to keep that t-shirt from that place, a person visited and brought back for you that you never wear. No! It’s time to let that go. Now, when I decided to go through this phase I also took on being better to the environment. So, I didn’t want to throw anything away. Everything I was letting go of either had to be donated, given to a friend who wanted it, or recycled. So, make a pile of what is what. When I questioned an item, I put it in the Goodwill pile. I had a lot of really nice expensive things that I was going to let friends get first dibs on and so those went in a separate pile. The one thing I definitely came to terms with while I was doing this was that I had more than one bad habit in my twenties besides smoking. The first rule to any recovery process is admitting you have a problem. I had a big one on my hands that I didn’t want anymore. Like the shoes, I had to have because they matched my bag. Guess what, I never wore them. I bet if I added up everything I donated it would come to thousands of dollars. Someone said, “why don’t you sell these things”?  Honestly, I was at the point I just wanted to give them a new life. If they were just going to sit in my closet like they had for the last six years, it was time to let it go and cut my losses. It got to the point where a friend asked me in a concerned voice, “why are you getting rid of all your stuff”? Are you planning on moving across the world or going somewhere”? I simply told them, “I just have too much and it is an older version of myself that I no longer am, and I am ready to let that go and free myself from that version of myself.” Now listen closely people. We all have those one pair of pants or that one item that looked amazing 15 to 20lbs ago that we hang on to as a goal. It is time to let those go as well. Now, this is a multilayered physical list that, for some, may require years to fully work through and that is ok. Besides Goodwill, I also like to donate to Dress for Success, and a local organization that helps families get back on their feet after disasters like house fires etc. Maybe you want to donate your items to a church or organization you like to work with. The point is let the items you are no longer using get a fresh start with someone who needs them. It may take you longer to spread the wealth and find new homes. For instance; you have tons of new bottles of hand lotion that you know you are never going to use.  For those who can’t afford such a luxury your donation would be like a lottery win. There are a lot of women’s shelters and shelters in general that will take items off of your hands. Re-gain your energy, space and emotional well-being. You will be amazed at how accomplished, happy, lighter and at ease, you will feel once you declutter your space. Only then will you see how the clutter was impacting you. I always found that when my home felt cluttered my overall life felt cluttered and stagnant. Even after days of work and many bags of things to drop off at donation locations, I still felt like there was a lot left. But again, I am a work in progress. I, at least, got the Chi moving in my space and it was starting to feel good. In the right space, you can accomplish your dreams. Sometimes that space is outside of you, and sometimes it is internally. And, if you’re lucky, you’re outside surroundings start to match your internal cleansing process.

The last list is all the internal things you need to de-clutter which takes the longest and is often the most stubborn and challenging. Looking back I think I have been de-cluttering my soul all my life. At least feels that way. Now, I wouldn’t suggest trying to do everything at once like I did, because it can often times it can feel like a crash diet where you are setting yourself up for failure. There were many times during the soul part of the de-clutter I felt like a failure, that I need to be better, do better, and be the best version of myself I could be. Again, I think this list is one we work all of our lives because on because as humans we are constantly evolving, changing, upgrading ourselves, working through things, dissolving toxic relationships even with ourselves, and working on boundaries. Not to even mention all of the past life stuff we internally hold. If you are empathic, you are also carrying everyone else’s “stuff” you are carrying around with you also.  There is no quick fix when it comes to de-cluttering your soul. But, when you combine these lists that is where you start to see the impact on your soul. During my de-cluttering phase, I took a look at my actions, limitations, how I was treating and caring for my body, soul as well as others, and environment. I stopped using straws and reduced the amount of trash I had, and focus on how I was impacting the environment. I started taking better care of my skin, and feeling my feelings and not filling them with things. I looked at foods that I was putting in my body and how they were processed. I worked on my feelings towards myself and removed fears and triggers. This is also when you have to learn to say “NO”. Not only to other people that are causing these triggers for you but to yourself as well. No, you don’t need that etc. Whenever I “wanted to buy” something, I slept on that decision overnight and 99% of the time I didn’t want it anymore. And, yes that is something I will have to continue to work on every day. But, when you become more fulfilled internally than externally, you don’t need all this “stuff”. I used to look at the world’s problems as something that was too big for me to fix and it was so overwhelming. It is as if Humans are literally hoarding the Earth and there was nothing that I could do to make that better. But, I was wrong. I could stop contributing to the problem. By going through this process, I not only think about what I am buying from a financial standpoint, but I have a different perspective of need and want after purging my life. So, I accumulate less. I also realized that with no cable my life isn’t any less than it was and I am not missing out on that and I find less clutter in my mind. It doesn’t mean that now I am naive to the world. I just view it differently and choose to live a slower pace without the noise whenever I possibly can.

Now, this really only scratches the surface of the infinite possibilities of shifts you can experience when you de-clutter your life. Again, you will want to have patience with yourself. Don’t try and do everything at once as you may find yourself in a mind, body and soul clutter mess. Also, don’t give yourself false expectations that they next day you are suddenly going to feel amazing. Especially on the mental and soul clutter items. Now, to really de-clutter your life could take years. If that is the pace is right for you, that is ok. I still have a ton of de-cluttering left to do myself and I would imagine I will be doing it for a while still, if not my whole life. But, I do know that this process has really, for the first time, allowed me to let go of the past that I really needed to let go! Release, forgive and move forward to my present and the future me that I am building every day. One that feels fulfilled on the inside because of healthy relationships, friendship and love of myself and purpose rather than one who collects “just in case items” for a non-existing use or need.

Finally, once I have physically and energetically cleaned my home, I am started feeling like I could take a deep breath. Remember, you are going to have ups and downs and that is ok. It is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and all you can do is wake up each day and do the best you can that day and that is enough. Nothing more, nothing less than your best. Every day you have the opportunity to be the person you know you can be mistakes and all. It’s a small piece in a big picture, but can have a wonderful impact on your overall life. You don’t need to get rid of everything you own to declutter your life. It is more about the learning process that organizing and process of an item with a purpose offers. You have all you need inside of you to feel fulfilled without trying to clutter your mind, body & soul.  I hope something in this month’s blog helps you on the path to finding it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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All Things Solar Plexus Chakra…

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What if I told you there was a spot within you where if you tapped into it, you could unlock courage, personal power and you could feel more worthy in your everyday life. We have all been there when we had a “gut” feeling about something and we knew it was going to be an issue. But, we did it anyway and then we wished we would have listened to our gut! That instinct and the key to unlocking the courage and personal power within you is called the Solar Plexus Chakra. We all have one. Even animals have one. But, most of us do not pay it any attention and we can go our whole lives that way. Until one day we open up to this energy source, and it changes our life.

 

What is a Chakra?

A chakra is an energy source that is within your various energy fields and the physical body. It can also be referred to as a wheel of energy.  These wheels of energy connect various energy sources within your body to each other. They then connect to your physical body, and also cosmic energy. That is how we get our “Chi, Life Force Energy, Prana” etc. We all have a large variety of Chakras within all of us. There are seven major Chakras which you may be more familiar with. Running from the Base of your tailbone up to the top of your head, these seven main Chakra’s help us stay balanced, connected and healthy. When they are all working together and aligned, they can be your best friend. But, when they are having a tough time, need support and having a temper tantrum, well let’s just say you will be in for one heck of a journey. But that is another blog in itself.

 

What is the Solar Plexus Chakra & Why is it important:

The Third Chakra, also known as the Solar Plexus Chakra, is just above your naval area. This energy source deals with raw emotions such as abundance, anger, frustration, personal power, success, worthiness, and intuitions. This Chakra is like your own personal vision board that you carry within you every day. It is the key to manifesting living your best life and achieving all of your desires. It is up to you to decide whether to focus on the positive aspects or negative ones.

 

How the Solar Plexus Chakra Affects your Physical & Emotional Health:

When this energy source is balanced, you can feel worthy, filled with confidence, happiness, feelings of achievement, success, calm and full of life like the Sun. It also allows you to remain flexible and allows you to handle life’s changes with ease. When this Chakra is unbalanced it can lead to a slew of health issues, unbalanced emotions, depression, anxiety, unhealthy boundaries, doubt, anger, digestive issues and more.

This is a unique chakra. Not only does it sit in a location that houses most of the essential organs from the stomach, large intestines, liver, nerves and headquarters for our immune system, etc. It can also be vital to our muscular system and can affect diabetes, self-esteem issues, and even arthritis.

 

Signs your Solar Plexus Chakra is blocked:

  • A physical health issue such as constipation, addictive behavior, reflux issues and more.
  • Difficult time keeping healthy boundaries with people and even ourselves.
  • Feeling bored with life, passive, depressed and anxious.
  • Oversensitive to thoughts and feelings and well as a feeling of vulnerability and an uneasiness of life.
  • Overwhelming feelings of shame.
  • Self- Esteem and Self-control issues.
  • Weight gain and a form of energetic protection.

 

Signs your Solar Plexus Chakra is balanced:

  • A clear direction of your life path and goals.
  • Balanced relationships, work ethics, physical and emotional thoughts and actions.
  • Motivation to achieve goals & desires.
  • Positive self-esteem, sense of self and core beliefs and upholding values.
  • Strong leadership skills & seeing the abundance in your life.

 

Ways to keep your Solar Plexus Chakra balanced & aligned:  

  • Cut your Energy Cords on a regular basis. Ideally once a day if possible.
  • Get organized in your physical space, and this will help you have the motivation to achieve other goals.
  • Incorporating yellow foods into your diet such as corn, lemons, yellow peppers, yellow squash, etc.
  • Physically work your core area in exercise.
  • Practice positive affirmations to yourself and listen to positive uplifting music and sounds.
  • Put into place healthy boundaries and set up ways to make it easy to keep them in place. For example, if you are a “yes” person to everything and someone asks you if you want to do something, simply say let me check my calendar and get back to you. This way you have some time to think about it.
  • Remember your inner roar, and that you are strong, worthy and can achieve your desires and rise above the ebbs and flows of life.
  • Spend some time in the sun and in nature connecting to the energy within you.
  • Surround yourself with yellow or gold light. Either by placing an energy bubble of these colors around you or by decorating your space in these colors.
  • Using Bergamot, Elevation, Cheer, or Lemon Essential oils. We personally recommend DoTerra Essential Oils.

 

I have learned that using “I AM” Affirmations specifically targeting my solar Plexus Chakra is the best and easiest way to keep it working at the desired levels. For example, some powerful ones are “I AM Worthy, I AM Enough, I AM Abundant, and I AM Achieving my dreams.” Telling yourself those simple key phrases every day can make a huge impact in making sure your Solar Plexus Chakra is balanced and healthy. I also love working with crystals for the Solar Plexus Chakra like Citrine, Tiger’s Eye, Orange Calcite, and Pyrite. Simply by carrying them on you or having them in your space can make a huge difference for you and the health of your Solar Plexus Chakra. Try getting in the habit of taking a minute each day to connect yourself to your Solar Plexus Chakra, talking positively to it, setting a daily affirmation and setting the day in a positive motion. By doing this you will create an environment that harnesses self-worth and personal power where you can achieve all. And, certainly, this can take time as we all have self-doubt, vulnerability, and fears that arise. But, take it day by day and each day give it your best effort and see what happens. The more you nurture it the more benefits you will start to see play out in your life. Then, one day you will wake up and feel that abundant joy and inner worth that was right inside of you the whole time and you will be living your desires.

I was and still am one of those people who has to constantly try to keep my Solar Plexus Chakra balanced. It is one of my weakest chakras, so I can understand firsthand the frustration it can cause in your everyday life and how it can touch each facet of life from business to personal. The best advice I can offer is to try to get to a place where you accept that you are enough just the way you are. You don’t have to be anything you aren’t in order to make others happy. Just be you. If that’s a good person or a challenging person just do the best you can and that is enough. We are all works in progress and it can take time to get to where we want to be. But, each day give yourself your best chance to make the day abundant and count towards the good in your life.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Doing a Spiritual Detox: How to…

download (1)A Spiritual journey is filled with many ups and downs just like any important thing we do in life. There are many times that we hit a plateau and we then feel overwhelmed, stuck, defeated, sick, frustrated and so much more. If you have reached those feelings, it is time to do a detox. Not just any detox a full-blown mind, body & soul Spiritual Detox!

For the last year, I have been called to go through this process and it is not always easy. But, I am going to share with you some of the steps to take for each area of this detox. Try your best to do a Spiritual Detox for 21 days. If you are going through some harder areas at the moment, try to extend your detox program to 40 days for best long-term benefits. Before we get into the actual Spiritual Detox plan, I want you to take a few moments and answer these questions:

  1. What is your intention for this Spiritual Detox?
  2. Are you open to Change?
  3. Are you willing to be truthful with yourself along the way? (This is a very important question. If you are good at pretending to yourself, a Spiritual Detox is not something you should try right now, unless you are willing to take a hard look at some things.)

So, now that you have thought about those questions, let’s take a look at the Elysian Life Design Spiritual Detox Plan!

Mind

The mind is a funny and complex entity. Yet, it is where our EGO can live. It is the headquarters for overthinking, doubt, self- destructive behaviors, anxiety and more.

  • Wake up every day with Gratitude: As soon as you open your eyes each day and before going to sleep at night, say these two words and it will change your life in amazing ways. “Thank You”! Saying those words it creates gratitude in your heart and raises your vibrations to the level of gratitude so that you are continuously sending gratitude into the Universe and it can send it back to you.
  • Let it Go…No Seriously Let it Go: That is right, you can literally sing the song from Frozen if you have to. We all have and it is ok if you need to every day. In order to release and make room for new dreams and desires you have to release the past, blame, disappointment, hurt, etc. Doing so will allow you to move into a place where you can be free from those emotions and judgments. You have to get to a place where the only person you have to please or justify yourself to is yourself. If the past is holding your present and your future hostage, you have to cut it off and release it.
  • Surround yourself with Positivity: When you put positive thoughts out in the Universe, positivity will find it’s way back to you. One of the most intense callings I got on my Spiritual detox journey was to turn down the volume of the World. I use to be to the kind of person that loved the hustle and bustle of large cities. But, then I reached a point where all I craved was quiet and a great distance from negativity. We have to turn the TV off, put the phones, tablets, computers away and listen to Nature. Put Facebook and Instagram away for a few hours and seek the real positivity in your life. Some think we are who we surround ourselves with. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, uplift you, and encourage you to go for your dreams. Eliminate the haters and fakes in your life that are holding you back whether you know it or not. One of the things I try to do all year long, even if I am not on a Spiritual Detox, I listen to positive uplifting music on K-LOVE radio http://www.klove.com/. It will remind you of the good in the world and that there are good left and people trying to make it better. Do a good deed every day just because. Be a good person, have patience, and appreciate others. Those small actions will make a huge difference in your life.

Body

I learned something a long time ago that most of us know but forget. So, I am going to remind you again. Our Bodies are our temple. How you treat your body is up to you. But, this area is just as important as the other areas of this detox. This detox is not meant to help you lose weight, but to help you build a better relationship with your body.

  • Practice mindful eating: Being mindful is something I am always working on improving. I constantly multitask in my head. And when I eat, I am always multitasking. I have had and still have moments where I am guilty of not being mindful when I eat. I am rushed so I eat quickly while I have a few minutes. I overextend how long my body can go without eating. Then, when I do eat, I want to make up for the meals I missed in one sitting. And, how many of us actually chew our food properly? I know I wasn’t! So, what I started doing was to slow my mind and be in the moment with each bite. I would engage my senses. How did the food taste? How did it smell? And maybe most of all, I would chew each bite at least 25-45 times. I would actually count each time in my head. Yes, it can get annoying. But, a few things happened when I did this. I became more aware of myself. Sometimes I would close my eyes while I was chewing so that I could just focus on the process. I also would get full faster cause I was able to hear my body because I was paying attention while nourishing it.

 

  • Practice Healthy Eating: Eating healthy, nourishing meals with fresh fruits and vegetables has an incredible way of raising your vibration. You’ll also want to be sure you’re well hydrated by drinking plenty of water, herbal tea, and other non-caffeinated, non-chemical laden, or non-sugar-filled drinks! The more Alkaline the water and foods the better. Try your best to limit your sugar intake as much as possible.

 

  • Take a Detox Herbal Bath: When I was doing my Spiritual Detox journey, I felt like I needed an additional component for my body. So, I created “Purification” A detoxifying herbal bath blend. Filled with high-quality therapeutic ingredients and Energy Medicine. Our bath blend can also be used for a foot bath, and more. As soon as you experience the scents this bath blend has to offer, you will start benefiting from the high vibration energy medicine and your body will be detoxing. This blend is perfect for removing stagnant energy and emotions from your body, as well as removing toxins and allowing your vibes to flow in a pure state of energy. You can view this product in our ETSY store for more information at: https://www.etsy.com/listing/575292274/purification-herbal-bath-blend?ref=shop_home_active_2

Soul

  • Energetically and physically clear your space: Energetically, everything that ever happens in our space leaves a residue of energy that can become imprinted in the space. Illness, doubt, arguments, negative emotions, trauma, grief and even every day energetic junk that you pick up can build up around the rooms of your space.  Smudging your space will help remove or shift that build-up in your space and create a higher frequency of light and positive energy to flow throughout. Many people can find doing this overwhelming and don’t know where to start. To learn more about this, click here: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2016/06/01/clearing-your-space-insight-tips/. It is also important to physically clear your space. Prosperity, high vibration and abundance have a difficult time in lower vibration spaces. So, remove the clutter, organize, and make room for new. A rule that I have personally followed is that, if you have not used it in 6 months, get rid of it. Let’s be honest, we do not always have this “urge to purge”, or clean up. But, when your body tells you it is time, listen to it and just go with it. That is the absolute best time to go through your closet, cabinets, and When you get that urge to organize and clean things out, your emotions will less likely interfere with your decisions of whether or not to keep sweatpants you love but can no longer wear because they are so worn out, or the CD you bought in 1998 that you now have in your digital music collection. If you are the type of person who doesn’t get that urge that is ok too; try to do a good de-clutter at the change of each season. To start to make three piles: Keep, Donate, Throw Away and Recycle (as some items will be beyond help). Creating these piles will help you start the organizational process. When there is a donation pile you know the items are going to be useful to someone else and you will be more inclined to give it to a person who needs it more than you. Knowing you are going to be helping someone by donating items to a worthy charity will calm any separation anxiety you may feel about the item. We all have that t-shirt, souvenir, book, magazine or knickknack that we hold on to just a little too long, so this spring clean it out. These techniques work for your home or office spaces. Re-gain your energy, space and emotional well-being. You will be amazed at how accomplished, happy, lighter and at ease you will feel once you declutter your home, office, and life. Sometimes when you start cleaning and get that energy flowing in your space, you can allow forward movement for your goals.

 

 

  • Connect with your Divine Support Team: This is something that all of us have access to and it is so easy to do, but we can often forget. Your Divine Support Team consist of, but not limited to, your Higher Self, Guides, Guardian Angels, Past loved ones, Spirit or Power Animals and Deities, or Archangels with whom you have a close connection. Through this connection, you are able to translate information that is most important for you to receive at that particular time in your life. Through visual information, we can tell you how to create a deeper connection with members of your Divine Support Team. This will allow you to strengthen your own spirituality, intuition, signs, and symbols they may send you to let you know they are very much present in your life and that you are on the right path. All you have to do is welcome them into your day and give them permission to help and they will be there. Read more about asking for signs from your Divine Support Team here: https://elysianlifedesign.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/recognizing-divine-signs/

 

Spiritual Extras

  • Cut your Energy cords: When we connect with another person, especially with Family, Friends and in Romantic partnerships, we can activate an energetic cordwith them. As we continue through the relationships with these people, interactions, thoughts, emotions, and feelings are added to the cord. This cord has the ability to share energy and transmit a high frequency of communication which may explain why we often feel and connect telepathically to our partner’s thoughts and emotions. When the cord is healthy, it can create a vibrant, energetic source exchange. But, when the cord is unhealthy, it can often lead to feeling controlled or drained of Most of us will intuitively know how strong our cord is with someone. But, if you are unsure, a good measure is how strong or how often you think or feel towards someone. This is especially true if the thoughts are obsessive, manipulative or fearful. There are many different ways that you can cut your Energy cords. Perhaps you already have a way that works for you. If you don’t and would like some ways others have found helpful, please email us at contact@elysianld.com and we will email you back some helpful resources.

 

  • Cleanse Your Energy With Light: There are many ways that you can do this. You can get energy healing work done. Or, if you are in need of some immediate relief and don’t have access to a healer you know and trust, a simple way is to imagine yourself under a waterfall of white sparkling light. Let this light wash over you and remove anything that is no longer serving you, or anything less than love in your life. Take three deep breathes and with each exhale try to get deeper into your own energy. You can also try clearing your energy with our Holy Water that carries the vibration of White Light: https://www.etsy.com/listing/507047988/holy-water-2oz?ref=shop_home_active_11

 

  • Take YOU Time: This can act as something that can really fall into all three areas of your detox. Maybe you want to get out in Nature and take some deep breaths out in the Sunshine, get an Energy Healing Session, go to a Yoga class, or get your blood pumping at spin. Maybe, you just want to take a nap with your YOU time. Any of those things can feed your soul. It creates a bond of trust with your mind, body, and soul and is really what can keep you going on your overall Spiritual Journey.

Most of all, learn to trust yourself during this Spiritual Detox. Trust in your Divine Support Team and in your journey. Do your best and the rest will fall into place. It may not be in your timing, but Divine time will work itself out in your favor. At the end of your detox, you will have clearer, deeper insight and have a solid foundation of your path. You may find that you need to incorporate some of these things into your daily or weekly routine. Think of it as Spiritual Maintenance like getting an oil change for your car. These tools will help keep you on the right life path. This is a small sample of our Spiritual Detox Program that contains an in depth look on these items and more. Stay tuned for more information on our Spiritual Detox Program publication.

“Trust your heart and embrace the journey. You may make a wrong turn but your heart will get you back on the right path. Just keep making choices and don’t second-guess yourself.” – E’yen A. Gardner

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Spring Transformation & Balance…

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This is one of my most favorite times of year. It is a time when we welcome the balance of the day-force and the night-force with the Spring Equinox (also known as the Vernal Equinox or Ostara). This year, the Spring Equinox is March 20th, 2018 at 12:15 pm EST. On this day, there will be an equal amount of day time and night time. In Christianity it is associated with the passion of Christ and Ancient cultures often associated it with Resurrection. Much like during spring, the Earth resurrects from winter and the darkness. This is a magical day of new beginnings, transformation, and re-birth. The energy of this day will help you match your grid matrix with that of the Universe and offer you healing and balance.

The month of March is all about Fertility and new growth. So, what better day than the Spring Equinox to welcome in new beginnings and any transformation you have been seeking. Many of you may have heard the term “Spring Cleaning”. I am a big fan of “spring cleaning” my soul. Bring in your light, shed your old layers, let go of anything and any one that is toxic to your energy, bring balance, resurrect from your ashes, and give birth to your spiritual self. This isn’t always an easy thing to do. Many of us want to manifest all these abundances into our lives. If the space you have inside is cluttered and full of all these old emotions and limitations, how can new things grow? You have to make the room. So detox your mind, body, and spirit this month as you prepare for the Spring Equinox.

Here are a few suggestions how you can celebrate the Spring Equinox:

  • Clear a space for a garden
  • Honor Mother Earth and spend some time taking a walk in nature
  • Meditate for balance at dawn or sunset
  • Honor the God or Goddess of your choice and ask for their assistance with your transformation
  • Use the energy of the day to fuel new projects and goals
  • Leave an offering of fruit as a symbol of fertility and growth for the nature spirits
  • Light some candles at dawn to help welcome more light to the Earth
  • If you are a mother, spend some time honoring your own fertility and gift of life that was created within you
  • If becoming a mother is part of your re-birth, honor your fertility and set your intentions with Mother Earth, your God or Goddess of choice and the Universe
  • You have heard the phrase “Spring Cleaning”, there is a reason. This is the time to clean your home and welcome in the new season
  • This one was my personal favorite to do last year. It is an activity you can do with the whole family. At the exact time of the Equinox, if you take an egg outside and place it on the ground, it will stand up straight! Yes it is true, I tried it myself and it actually works and is really cool to see in person
  • You can hold a Holi Festival with your family and friends. A Holi Festival is a Hindu tradition where they throw various colors at each other and around town, in honor of the revival of spring

 

No matter how you choose to spend the Spring Equinox, know that your own transformation is divinely supported. Make that room in your spirit and know that you can achieve any goal you have if you nurture it and allow it to grow just like springtime. With the change of the season, you will start to feel more balanced and re-energized.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

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Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

  1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
  2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
  3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
  4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Move into Action in the New Year…

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With the New Year, the energy in the Universe urges us to take action in our lives. Not only action, but authentic action! You will find that the energy of 2018 is giving you the push you need to get your life together and get things that you have been dreaming of done. Taking action in our lives can create the results:

  • Action Creates Courage
  • Action Allows Emergence
  • Motivation Follows Action

Taking action in our lives is like creating change. It can be a very scary thing to do. We can get stuck in fear just thinking of moving forward. Part of the reason we sit in the non-action zone is that many of us we have a fear of failure. We will not do something simply because we can’t fail if we don’t try. That is why fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. When we take action on those dreams and goals, we find out what we are made of, what we are actually capable of achieving, and ultimately emerge. When we create an emergence, we step into who we are meant to be without hesitation or resistance to change. We can also find peace within ourselves and our lives. Once we find internal peace that is when the hard part kind of begins. It is the long term of the action. When we have action, we must have motivation that allows us to keep that action. What is your driving force for the action you are taking? Do you want to live your purpose? Do you want to help others? Do you just want enough money to pay for your needs? Whatever it is that is going to get you out of bed each day to walk in action instead of fear is what you need to nourish. Just like you have to water a garden for it to grow, you must be willing to water your dreams and commit to them for the long term. Part of the reason we can fail at action is that we think making one mistake ruins everything. So, we might as well just give up on it because it is easier than continuing. Let me tell you that, every day and even every second of every day, you have the power to keep going. To decide, yes I screwed that up, but I am going keep going because I believe in my dreams. You want them so badly that you can taste it. If you believe it you will achieve it. If you don’t you won’t. It is that simple.

Other ways you can focus on taking action in your life is:

Connect with the Present: Stay as present as you can each day. Learn to focus on only the things over which you have control. A book that really helped me in this area was “Change your thoughts, change your life” by Wayne Dyer. If you struggle with your thoughts getting the best of you at all, I highly recommend reading it. You can also watch his PBS special at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c3307Ia7Nw

Think before committing: I will admit, I am a people pleaser. I used to have a big problem saying yes to everything. To make things worse, I would say yes without even thinking if it was something I really even wanted to do. Then, as soon as I agreed, I would start thinking about it. We have the right to say no to some things as well. If you don’t want to meet that friend at the bar at 9pm on a Monday night, you don’t have to. Justifications are not required. When I realized that I needed to change the pattern that I created, I implemented the following procedure. When anyone asked me if I wanted to do something, instead of saying yes right away, I would tell them that I would check my calendar and get back to them. Then, I would give myself one day, and then answer back. Now if it is something you know you really want to do, then of course say yes. But, if you find yourself in the pattern of saying yes to everything, and then canceling or backing out of commitments at the last minute, you may want to try this and see if it helps. We want to be authentic in our action. That is why taking a day to think about it actually help you stay authentic to yourself and to the people who are asking you.

Accountability:  We live in a time where accountability is a hard trait to come by. At some point, I fear finding someone who takes accountability for their actions will be like trying to find a Unicorn. Everyone is an individual. But, at some point, we all have to be accountable for our actions. We don’t want to achieve our dreams and actions by manipulation, or cheating, or hurting other people on the way. When you fuel action by those things you will never really attain you goal. The way to achieve the desired outcome from your action is through our own authenticity. How one person achieves it doesn’t mean that is how you will. You have to be brave to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable for who you are and the actions you take. Attaining your dreams is solely your responsibility.  Here is a great article on the topic further:  http://www.amanet.org/training/articles/no-excuses-being-accountable-for-your-own-success.aspx

Now, along the way, you may not get it right and that is ok. But, I guarantee you that you will learn something each time you try, and then there will come a day that you do get it right. It won’t happen overnight, but there will come a day when you wake up and say “wow, I did it!”

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Universe Help: What’s my Life Purpose?

 

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What is my life purpose? That is one of the most common questions asked by people in in my sessions. It is a question that I have asked myself most of my life. Trust me I often think “If I knew then, what I know now”. We know that our past doesn’t define our present. But, it can provide you lessons and opportunities to figure everything out. I often think that we shouldn’t, at 18 know what we want to do with the rest of our lives. We don’t even really know who we are as a person often until our thirties. Then, when we figure it out, we have “wasted” all that time doing what we thought we loved verse what we know we are meant to do. We can feel trapped in the illusion of our security. We are afraid to makes changes once we figure it out. But, how do we even know for sure what our purpose is. Trust me if it was as easy to go see someone who can connect with your guides like myself it would be super easy. I wish I could tell people what their purpose is. But, one of the most important steps in finding your purpose, is your journey in life. Every day, every step, every choice leads you further on your path and that is how you gain insight. Many times we make choices and at the time those choices really serve who we are. But, fast forward 10 years and you may desire to live a quieter lifestyle than you once did. That will lead you in the next step of your purpose. The question is; where do we start when we don’t even know what direction to go in? Here are some helpful steps:

  1. Follow your heart, instead of your mind: I assure you the headquarters of your EGO isn’t going to tell you what you are supposed to achieve fulfillment and happiness. So, don’t ask it and don’t listen to it. Listen to the place built and designed to make you feel love and passion. Start asking your heart to lead your steps and actions.
  2. Don’t live in fear of change: “Fear kills more dreams, than failure ever did.” We all know that fear, especially of change is super scary. In my opinion, worse than a scary movie. It is really through cataclysmic change that we rebuild what is important in our lives. And, anyone that knows their purpose will tell you that they experienced some sort of trauma on their journey to finding out their purpose. Either their entire life went to crap first, or they suffered a loss so deep, or they almost died in order for them to get the message.
  3. “Do” instead of “think”: How many times a day do you spend thinking, instead of doing? I know I think and over-think things till my brain hurts. We can get so caught up in the “what ifs”, and plan a –z that we stay in place and don’t move. I often think, “I wish someone would just tell me what choice to make”. We are the only ones who can take the actions needed to achieve the goals we want. No one else can do it for us. If you want that dream to come true, you have to make choices that get you there, not think them.
  4. Do something every day you are passionate about: By living passion and trying new things, we figure out what we love to do. Maybe you always wear pink nails, but you really love purple. Next time you go to get them done, be bold and be you. If purple and sparkles makes you passionate about life do your fingers and your toes. It can be any size thing that makes you feel that passion, but take that chance and do something small or large every day to help you find out what you are made out of.
  5. Expand your comfort zone…even just a little: Our comfort zone is like a warm, soft blanket on a cold rainy day. Why in the world would we want to move from something like that? There is a saying by Anna Berkes that says, “If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.” In order to find our purpose and figure is out, we have to get out and explore the adventure waiting for us.

Perhaps, you are asking the Universe “What is my purpose?” There are a few things that I recommend to people who are in search of their purpose or know their purpose but, don’t know what to do with it when they come to me. A “Divine Check-In” or a Numerology Report. You can learn more about both on our website: https://www.elysianld.com/services.html or our ETSY store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ElysianLD

Whatever you think or know your purpose is take steps to live it every day, because that is only the beginning of the journey and the beginning of all the abundance coming your way.

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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