Making a New Year’s Resolution for your Soul…

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As a New Year is upon us, we can be inundated with resolutions, goals, and wanting to create better lives for ourselves. Rightfully so, but I have found that a lot of people take a physical approach to these New Year’s Resolutions, like getting healthier, work out, “go on a diet” (a pretty popular one), stopping bad habits etc. It is not that these are bad resolutions. In fact I have known a lot of people who have done them, my self included. We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves when it comes to these resolutions. We set a big expectation of ourselves that is hard to always accomplish. For example, losing 30lbs in a month, although feasible, but not healthy, it is also not sustainable in the long term. For many years my New Year’s Resolution revolved around a physical piece of my life. Something that I could see.  Somehow, that meant it was more real. Most of the time, the resolution would fall to the important things to do mid to late January. In fact, none of my successful physical resolutions were ever made at the “New Year”.

Around 2011, I decided that I needed some inner work done on my soul level. Sometimes it is the unseen that needs the most work! Some can appear to have it all together on the outside, but are having a tough time in ways that cannot physically show. I was horrible at taking a compliment. So horrible in fact, that some people would say “can’t you take a compliment”. It would make me so uncomfortable if someone said something nice to me, that I didn’t know how to respond. So I would either over justify, if someone complimented a piece of clothing, purse, shoes etc and explain what a deal I got which, by the way, most people don’t care unless they specifically ask you where you got those items from. Or I would sometimes end up putting myself down to the person who gave the compliment to the point that they would doubt why they said it in the first place. Either way it was uncomfortable all around. I knew it was an area about myself that I didn’t like and wanted to change. So, in 2011 I made my first New Year’s “Soul Resolution”. Something that would benefit my soul and ultimately shine out onto my physical being.  So, for that whole year I decided that if someone gave me a compliment of any kind, I would say “Thank You.” Not thank you, I got them on sale, or thank you but… just thank you. I cut out the over justification and the awkwardness. Sometimes people want you to return the compliment. But, that’s a different story. For me to do what I needed to do, I had to say “thank you,” and move on.  Was I successful in that every day, NO. But somehow because it wasn’t a physical resolution like a diet that could be broken by a bagel on January 2nd but was a core being change that would take time. I just had to take it day by day. Somedays I did well and somedays I needed improvement but that was ok.

As the years went on, I tried to tackle harder things in my soul. For instance, one year I decided I was going to no longer live in fear. Fear is one resolution I may have to make for many years as it is so difficult to overcome. One year, I decided that I was not going to doubt God’s plan or think my life would be a practical joke, and to trust Him. Another year, I focused on Self-Love. This past year, I tackled worry. I joke that I was probably worrying in my mother’s womb. Somehow worry just consumed me and stressed me out, kept me up at night and just overall consumed my thoughts. Again, somedays I did well on this, and somedays I needed to take notes so I could do better the next day. But, as this year is coming to a close, I will tell you that in hindsight that I handle worry very differently than I did at this time last year. Do I still worry, yes, but I focus my energy differently. Instead of only focusing on the worry and the undesired outcomes, I redirect my thoughts to the positive. Now this is not new information that thinking positively will help your life. I am here to tell you that “if you think you can, you will,” and that works both ways. I have also noticed that I don’t lay awake pondering things that I once worried about, because they are all things over which I have no control. I would often recite this Serenity Prayer: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” I create a new habit within me to better deal with my worry, just like I did with trusting God’s plan, fear, and taking a compliment.

Will we lose 20lbs overnight, it’s not likely. Will we stop worrying overnight? That is highly unlikely also. But, if we get up each day and try our best, and recognize that each day what our best is may change and that is ok. As long as you are giving all you’ve got, even if it’s a two on a scale of a hundred, you are still giving your best. Every year, month, week and day is the opportunity to achieve your goal or desire. As for myself, I knew I had to clear out some old things before those new things fell into place. And for me, it worked, but I am still a work in progress. It didn’t happen overnight. But, as time went on, I noticed, “Oh I dealt with that better, or I am redirecting that thought etc.” For those who may be interested, here is the full serenity prayer that can be helpful for a variety of things you may be going through.

“God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Amen.”

Serenity Prayer (Full Text)

I hope you will join me this year and every year in taking a Soulful approach to your New Year’s Resolutions. If anything, it can help you work on areas that you need to before the physical ones are ready to unfold.

Stay Positive & Stay Kind & Stay Inspired

Stacey

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Finding the Love of your Life…YOU

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Self-love has been something I have personally struggled with all my life. It has, by far, been one of my most difficult lessons in this life. I can play the guilty blame game with myself all day long, and I am the best at it. “You’re this, why that, I can’t believe you” are all famous words in my mind. I have been strongly focusing on my view of my own self-love for the last ten years. The first year along the journey, I had to spend figuring out who the heck I had become. The second year, I did something that I highly recommend to do at least once in your life if you can. I cut my hair from more than half way down my back to a pixie cut. This had been something I had felt called to do for so many years, but let others talk me out of it. One day I woke up and said today is the day. I made the appointment and I basically forced myself to jump off the self-love ledge. Not only did I release the weight of my hair, but years of emotional weight that I didn’t need to hold on to anymore. For some reason, we associate hair with what makes us beautiful. By cutting all my hair off I had no choice but to take a look at me and love me for me.

I am not going to lie. There were empowered days, bad days, ugly days, self judgement days and downright months of awkward hair days along this journey. But, it was so incredibly powerful and an amazing self-learning experience. People I didn’t even know would stop me and talk to me about my hair. Perhaps they had seen me around the grocery store, or saw me out and felt the need to let me know I was rocking it. I learned that it wasn’t my hair that made me beautiful. I was the real me projecting my happiness and inner glow. Each year brought something new that I would focus on. Finally, I was in the position where I was finally living my purpose. Sure, not all areas on my life were amazing. But, I had faith, support from important people in my life who loved me and cheered me on, and filled me with inspiration. Once again, I found myself in the grocery store while my hair in a hat, no make-up, sweats with other women telling me how they could see my glow and I looked happy. I recently read an article on the topic which blew my mind. We place a lot of emphasis on “Love” in our lives. It is right up there on the list of “wants” for our lives. Society, in general, tends to base our worth on who loves us and finding “the One”. The article I read explored the concept of what if “The One” was ourselves? What if the one person that completes us is us (and queue the mind blown emoji). We are the love of our life. All along we were searching for it and it was in us all along! This is an interesting concept to explore. Although, we can have a significant person in our lives be “the one” we love, I have longed believed that we have to start with Self-Love. We have to realize we are worthy of a healthy, happy and loving relationship of any kind, before we can share our heart truly with another person.

Self-Love is becoming increasingly more to a lot of us. We live in a time where fake is real to people and time is moving so quickly because we are being told what we should look like, or wear, or how to act to be considered beautiful. While exploring this topic, I knew that there must be a lot of other people who also have issues with Self-Love. So, I wanted to create a 21 Day Self-Love Challenge. It takes 21 Days to form a new habit. That is why for three weeks you are going to take some needed “YOU” time to regroup, relearn and rejuvenate yourself! There are some basic rules for this challenge. Remember that you are doing this for you, nobody else. Please try to take it day by day and don’t jump around days. You will see that there is a reason for the order of the activities at the end of the challenge. Over the 21 days, there are three things you are going to do EVERYDAY for the whole challenge!

  1. Compliment yourself every day in the mirror ( No matter what)
  2. Listen to your body & take care of yourself
  3. Check in with yourself even for a minute a day and listen to what your soul is telling you
  4. Say “No” to things that don’t make you happy

Here is your guide to your 21 day Self-Love Challenge:

Day 1: Write down something you already love about yourself and write down something you hope to love or accept about yourself at the end of the challenge.

Day 2: Surround yourself with Inspirational Self Love quotes. For example, computer screen, phone background, and post it’s on the mirror, etc. Any quote that makes you feel nurtured.

Day 3: Write down 3 things you would define Love to be

Day 4: Do a meditation that helps connect you with your Higher-Self

Day 5: Take 5 minutes to yourself to just be you

Day 6: Write down a set of Chakra Affirmations for yourself

Day 7: Make yourself a special meal just for you

Day 8: Listen to that song that just makes you feel good and helps you feel empowered

Day 9: Spend some time saying the Ho’oponopono (Hawaiian forgiveness) Prayer. Repeat the words “I am sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You.”

Day 10: Buy yourself some fresh flowers

Day 11: Disconnect from technology at least one hour before bed

Day 12: Do this EFT exercise for Self-Love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGybX8_8mto

Day 13: Today, Live in the moment

Day 14: Do something that makes you happy

Day 15: Reflect on 5 things that made you get out of bed today for yourself

Day 16: Stand in your best Superhero pose for at least 3 minutes

Day 17: Look at yourself for 3 minutes in the mirror and give gratitude for your mind, body and spirit

Day 18: Write down your core values of Love

Day 19: Write yourself a letter that releases everything you no longer need to hold on to

Day 20: Have a complete YOU day (and go make up free)

Day 21: Treat yourself to something you Love

Each day we will be following along with you through our Instagram @elysian_life_design and our Facebook event at https://www.facebook.com/events/2018054151796192/ . (Please be sure to read event post about multiple days)

We will be providing in-depth details for each day. Our goal is that, at the end of the 21 days, you will have the tools you need to truly be in the best relationship with yourself and find your own inner glow. The only thing that is expected of us each day is that we give that day 100%. That is going to be different every day. Some days your 100% is 2% or 28% but it is a 100% of what you have. That is all you can expect of yourself. So, honor that within you.

The Ho’oponopono Prayer can be a very powerful exercise. Here are a few videos we like for this prayer that may help you along your self-love journey:

“I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don’t have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?” – Shailene Woodley

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Manifestation: Abundance, Prosperity & Wealth! 

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“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.” Anne Bradstreet

Let’s face it we could all use some more abundance, prosperity and wealth in our lives. I know when I first started learning to manifest, I was so worried I would do it incorrectly and screw it all up, but the good news is, you really can’t do it wrong. Regardless of what method or tools you decide to use to manifest with, 99% of it is the intention behind it. So, unless you are asking for lack of abundance, prosperity or wealth, you’re good. Here are some of the things I like to work with when doing manifestation work:

Before you begin, make sure you have a clear picture of the outcome that you desire. Try writing it down as many times as necessary until you have it just right. Make sure you are clear and specific with your intention. Remember that is mostly your own magic that brings your manifested desires into reality.

First you may choose to set up a place in your home specifically for this purpose. It will help you better visualize your intentions; much like a 3D vision board. You may choose to decorate your altar with stones, crystals or even statues. A good statue for an altar for abundance, prosperity & wealth would be Lakshmi, the Hindu Goddess of exactly that. You can find a statue of her in many sizes, colors, etc. You can even frame a photo you love instead of using a statue. You can also use stones or herbs depending on your liking. This will help increase the energy vibrations of your manifestation. Citrine, Rose Quartz and Aventurine are all good choices for stones, especially for beginners. Other tools you can use are binaural beats for manifesting abundance. Song has great power in shifting energy. So, you can either listen to it while thinking of your intention, or perhaps listen to it while falling asleep at night.

A personal favorite of mine is the Rose of Jericho. I have to admit when I first came across it, I was unsure of how it would work. I made sure I followed the directions as explained in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5tXfQOPwYI by the shop owner from whom I purchased it. I used holy water in the bowl and, to try it, I used pennies and asked that each penny represented $100. Once the plant had opened into a full bloom I placed 13 pennies in it and then let the plant close back up and then reopen. Within a week, I received the $1,300 I had asked for from the manifestation exercise. So be prepared when you use the Rose of Jericho because wealth will find its way to you.

When you are doing any kind of manifestation work, besides a solid intention, you may find that you want to work with an affirmation while the Universe is bringing you your desires. You may want to include something such as “I am worthy of the abundance coming my way”, or “My income is constantly increasing,” these will allow you to stay true in your belief that your intention was heard by the Universe and the Divine is assisting you to reach your goals.

And finally, be sure to express gratitude not only when you receive it, but while it is still manifesting. Go in with the attitude that it is already done! Express gratitude every day for it as you never know the unexpected ways the Universe will provide it for you. Be realistic with it while practicing then after a while you can work your way up to becoming a millionaire!

You may find that when you try to live a life of abundance on a regular basis, the more abundance and prosperity will find its way to you. Even if you can add in one activity that can help you live an abundant life instead of a scarcity mindset, you will notice how your life will start to change. Below you will find a list of characteristic of living in abundance by having an abundance consciousness or living a in a scarcity mindset.

Abundance Consciousness

  • Accept responsibility for their failures.
  • Continuously learn.
  • Embrace change.
  • Exude joy.
  • Forgive others.
  • Give other people credit for their victories.
  • Have a sense of gratitude.
  • Keep a “to-be” list.
  • Keep a journal.
  • Operate from a transformational perspective.
  • Read every day. Talk about ideas.
  • Set goals and develop life plans.
  • Share information and data.
  • Want others to succeed.

Scarcity Mindset

  • Blame others for their failures.
  • Don’t know what they want to be.
  • Exude anger.
  • Fear change.
  • Fly by their seat of their pants.
  • Have a sense of entitlement.
  • Hold a grudge.
  • Horde information and data.
  • Never set goals.
  • Operate from a transactional perspective.
  • Say they keep a journal but really don’t.
  • Secretly hope others fail.
  • Take all the credit for their victories.
  • Talk about people.
  • Think they know it all.
  • Watch TV every day.

In the end, have fun with your manifestation work and do not be afraid to try new things and see how they work for you. Add in your own spiritual tools that you may already know and love. Make the manifestation work your own and that will make it even more powerful!

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Questioning Faith as a Spiritual Being

f8ac41d5-5cab-4a93-8ea1-a8dd8dc3a52cGrowing up, I don’t remember how I originally learned about God, or what my faith was or meant to me. Let me take you on a quick journey with my relationship with my faith. As a young Catholic girl, my family would frequently visit church on Sunday morning’s for choir practice, CCD and Church. This continued for years until I made my first communion. Then, my parents gave me the choice of whether or not I wanted to continue to go to church after that. Being a young child I thought my Sunday’s would be better spent doing something else so I stopped going. I suppose from a very young age I felt that God was all around and that I could talk to him whenever I needed to without going to church. I believed that there was no distance between us. Even though I was thought God was too busy with more important things and I shouldn’t bother him with my problems. Despite not going to church, I continued to pray and have what I thought was a relationship with God.

Once I reached high school, one of my best friends was taking confirmation classes. So, I asked if I could join her for the classes knowing that someday I may want to marry in a church. I got my confirmation and that was that for at least another decade. At this point in my life I had finished college and was just about ready to graduate from grad school. One New Year’s Eve I went out with one of my friends who was very religious. In the wee hours of the New Year, we got to talking about a book she had read called “A Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. She said something that always stuck with me. She said “God is your best friend and he wants to have that type of relationship with you” This perplexed me because even though I knew God was there, why would I bother him with my problems. But, what if I had been looking at this all wrong? What if I went into prayer and God already knew what I wanted to talk about, because God does, so what if I just laid it all on the line while talking to him. What if I started talking to God as if he was my best friend? How would that change who I was or what I was open to?

I was so moved by this book that I started giving it as gifts to other people in an effort to help them to discover their own relationship with God. Now, just so I am clear, not everything else in my life during this time was amazing. In fact, this enlightenment led to more questions as I struggled with death, health and purpose. I thought I had life all figured out and then, things went downhill. You know how people say we hurt the ones close to us when we get mad. Well, maybe we do this because we know they love us so even if we get mad and yell they will be there for us in the end. So, even if I got mad at God he would forgive me because he would see beyond the pain behind the anger. In 2012, a dear friend of mine committed suicide. In hindsight, the Universe was preparing me for this for a good two months before it happened. Then I started thinking I could have changed something for that person and made the outcome different. About the third day into my grief I was so mad that I couldn’t think straight I would walk someplace and not remember why or how I had gotten there. I was mad at the person who left me, but I wasn’t at a place where I was ready to talk to God about it yet because on some level he knew it was going to happen and knew all this pain it would cause the ones left to deal with it. Then in 2014 I got sick to point my body was just giving out on me. At this point I could hear and talk with Spirits and Angels. Yet, I felt like, spiritually, everyone had abandoned me and left me to struggle alone. I know that wasn’t the case and there was some lesson I was supposed to learn from it and change the course of my life. The process somehow made me more understanding of people who have experienced similar events. Then, just recently in December of 2015 I ended up back in the hospital with the same Autoimmune Disorder I had been struggling with for 17 years. I was hospitalized again in January and March of this year. It felt like an endless cycle that once again I had to face on my own spiritually. Anytime I tried to get insight on the situation for myself all I would get is that I needed all my energy to deal with the physical response my body was making me deal with.

I can’t tell you how many times I wondered why or what did I do to deserve this or go through it. Then, one day I was watching the “Belief” series on OWN Network and a young boy said it is part of our right of having faith to question it at times. “Faith is daring the soul to go beyond what the eye can see” We can’t see faith so instinctively there are going to be times when we question its validity because we don’t understand it. When we don’t get why someone dies, or someone we love gets sick or what the hell the journey is all about. Truth is, we may never know why but I can assure you of this, through everything God never stops being that best friend to us even if we don’t recognize him in that role. There is a reason and we don’t have to go through things alone. Your never know what someone else has been through unless you open up about it on some level. It’s all part of the growing process. I use to think that if I spoke about my challenges people would think less of me. Would putting my challenges out to the Universe by verbalizing them make them worse? But, as part of this growth process, I have realized the last five months, that having health issues, really challenging ones, doesn’t define who I am as a being. It is not the only thing that God knows me as or what I have to be to people.

The moral of the story is that you may have highs and lows in your faith just as in life. But, just because you have a strong faith or live a spiritual life doesn’t mean that you have to be in the high parts all the time. Even when you are in the lows know that someone else is there with you through family struggles, health issues, finances or just finding purpose in life someone is there with you. Sometimes it’s about extending that arm for them to know you are there too. We don’t have to keep our struggles to ourselves anymore. In fact when we do they only get worse. Within the struggle growth happens and after the growth our faith expands and our relationship with God gets more understood as its life progresses. It’s ok to feel certain ways and get mad. No matter how far we push, faith is like a gravitational pull that keeps us going even in the darkness. Just be you with God because he already knows anything you want to say. When we stop being fake with God we stop being fake with ourselves and that is really when healing happens and questions can be answered. We vary off course but that’s okay. It is all part of the course. So, don’t worry you are not alone! So if you are struggling with faith or any other issue reach out we can be stronger in it together than digging in the trenches alone.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Finding your Worthiness

13bd9af2-5432-48c9-b3ef-b6dd4f73fa0cThrough life we have so many situations we face. Some are good and some not so great. These situations can often impact how we think about ourselves and ultimately how worthy we feel for positive things that happen in our lives. We have all heard about self-sabotage and how during points of our lives we somewhat feel we deserved what we got, or do not deserve happiness in areas such as relationships, career, finances etc. You work hard all your life to get to a certain level you feel is successful. Yet, when we get there, you feel unworthy of the results for which you worked so hard. This can be really challenging to deal with because it can be a constant struggle of feeling inadequate. Many humans, when they think of worth, base it on the wrong criteria such as what others think or how much they are loved rather than themselves. We have all heard it, but take a moment and let it sink it… The only one who can determine how worthy you are and what you deserve in this life is YOU! You can have someone look at you every day and tell you how wonderful you are every day, but the only way you will actually hear and acknowledge it is if you become your own personal cheerleader and tell yourself you are worth it. Here are some things that can help you find and enhance your worthiness:

  1. When you wake up in the morning and getting ready for the day, look at yourself in the mirror and, no matter what you are facing, tell yourself you are worthy of love, happiness, health, success etc.
  2. At the end of each day before falling asleep state out loud something you feel proud about, either on the day or in the past.
  3. Learning to express gratitude is one of the most important things you can incorporate into your life. Not only will it help you learn to appreciate what you have in life and be grateful for it, it has shown many health benefits including overall happiness in life.
  4. Doing things for yourself does not make you selfish. In fact, it can rejuvenate you in ways that will allow you to be more beneficial not only to yourself but to others as well. Think about what you do during the week, how hard you push your body when you’re tired, or have a list of things left to do that others are depending on you to get done. Taking a moment or an hour just for you can definitely increase your feelings of worthiness because you think enough about yourself to recognize when you need time too.
  5. Learn to forgive yourself. Only then can you fully release the energy from your field that may be holding you back.
  6. Look at certain areas of your life and let go of anyone, thing, or situation causing you to feel less about yourself. If you have to, sing “let it go” (we all know words people and it will help you feel better).
  7. Whenever you find yourself in a situation where someone is speaking ill of you or providing excessive drama or bad energy, simple excuse yourself from the conversation. This will empower you and allow you to recognize your own self-worth.
  8. Take time to acknowledge your achievements and reward your successes. So often we set goals in life and then once we reach them we think it is not enough and we set another goal. We walk around trying to obtain unachievable expectations. When you stop to acknowledge your achievements you can actually feel worthy of what you have achieved and it will allow you to feel confident about other goals you set.
  9. Make daily affirmations to help you through moments of insecurities, anxiety and self-doubt. These can allow you to stay positive through difficult times and can help you shift your thinking.
  10. Help other people who need it and recognize and accept when you need help.
  11. The more truthful you live your life, the higher your own energetic vibration will become. So stop lying to others about things. Most importantly, take responsibility for your own actions and stop blaming others for anything bad that has happened in your life. Even if the bad thing was caused by someone else, you don’t have room to hold on to it anymore. It is not your cross to carry anymore. You have control over your attitude so walk in a truthful path.
  12. Start facing your fears! More dreams are crushed by fear than failure. Start paying attention to your thinking instead of “I could never”, or “I can”, and “who cares” and most importantly “what do I think”.

“When you think this pain is all you deserve, you are right. You are the only one that can decide how long you will walk in hell.”― Shannon L. Alder . You have a choice every day when you wake up. To be worthy of the life you deserve all you have to do is decide that you want it.

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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Living a Life of Gratitude

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What is the first thing you do as soon as you open your eyes each day? Do you start your day with something positive, or something negative? Each day we have the opportunity to start our day off in a positive way by expressing gratitude. Gratitude is really about expressing thankfulness for what we already have in our life. Living a life of Gratitude is something that you can teach yourself to include and, before you know it, you won’t even have to think about doing it anymore. You will just do it!

 Benefits of Gratitude include:

  • Improves sleep
  • Reduces anger and enhances Empathy
  • Creates higher self esteem
  • Improves both physical and emotional health overall
  • Creates better relationships
  • Opens you up to receiving positive energy exchanges
  • Creates a stronger connection with your faith
  • Allows you to change your perspective of the world around you

 

Living a life of Gratitude 21 Day Challenge:

A habit is formed in 21 days. So, why not form a positive habit to live a life of gratitude? You can do this in a group or individually. Participating in the challenge doesn’t require a special tools. The only requirement is a desire to make a positive difference in your life. Commit to the challenge, by just telling yourself you will do the best you can. Ideally, you would do something every day for the 21 days. But, if you miss a day here or there that is okay. As long as you are trying you are already succeeding in taking steps to live a life of gratitude.  Before starting the challenge, I want you to write a note to yourself that you will open on the 21st day of the challenge. You can write about what you hope to learn or become enlightened about on this 3 week journey. You can write what you would like to do as an expression of gratitude on the last day of the challenge, or a reminder of why you did the challenge, or the promise to continue to live a life of gratitude after the challenge. It can even be a thank you note to yourself for completing the challenge. The letter can include anything you want, it can be a sentence or a paragraph. Once you write it, seal it and place it somewhere safe and don’t open it until the last day of the challenge. Here are 21 ideas for how you can partake in this life changing challenge! You can do all of them, one of them or pick and choose the ones that work for the areas of your life. Remember the more you give of yourself to this journey the more you are going to get out of it at the end. What you do with it is up to you.

  • Keep a Gratitude Journal: For 21 days, keep track of all the things you are grateful for in your life. Then, at the end of the 21 days, review what you have written over the 3 weeks and watch how in that time you have received additional blessings in those areas.
  • Say thank you to a soldier
  • Express gratitude when a stranger does something nice for you like hold open a door, or allows you to go in front of them, then pass along that gratitude and do the same for a stranger.
  • Hold a 5 minutes or less gratitude session with yourself. By simply taking a few minutes a day to express your gratitude to yourself, God, Source, Universe, etc. you are keeping that positive exchange of energy increasing the overall wellbeing of your mind, body, spirt.
  • Create a Gratitude affirmation for something you are struggling with, and for 21 days recite the affirmation daily, and whenever you may be thinking about the problem.
  • Post only positive articles, photos, messages etc. on your social media for 21 days.
  • Say a Gratitude prayer daily. There are both really good religious and non-religious prayers available on the internet. The key is to pick the one that resonates with you the most. You can even just pray and praise God, Universe or Source for what is in your life.
  • Express thanks to the people in your life who make a positive impact.
  • Express Gratitude for something that didn’t go your way, only for you to realize that you had something better in store for you.
  • Pick a different topic for each day and express to yourself and others something you are grateful for regarding that topic. For example, health, wisdom, friendship, family, your spiritual path, etc.
  • Struggling Financially? Why not use the 21 days to create a more grateful attitude towards our finances. Instead of saying, how am I going to pay this, say “Universe/ God, thank you for providing this…”
  • Heard of Vision Board? Why not make a Gratitude Board! Take a poster board and place images of everything you are grateful for and look at it every day for 21days to remind you of all the wonderful things you have in your life.
  • Does music inspire you to have a grateful attitude? Make a playlist with your favorite tunes to listen to throughout the day to keep your mind and soul thankful.
  • Looking to create a better relationship with food? Expressing gratitude for the nutritious food you have access to before each meal will help you reinforce making healthy food choices to fuel your body and not feed your emotions.
  • If you are in a relationship, do the challenge together with your partner and, each day, share something about why you are grateful for the other person. Find unique ways to share the experience with your partner, through thank you cards, sticky notes, a note on a napkin they will see later in the day. Be creative and have fun with this one and watch how at the end of the challenge your relationship is that much stronger and you are able to express gratitude more easily with each other in a language you can both understand. You can also do this particular exercise with your children as well and engage them in process of expressing gratefulness.
  • Passing the gratefulness at dinner: If you would like to do a family event, have everyone before dinner go around the table, and express what they are grateful for that day.
  • Create a routine of when you first walk up in the morning, before your feet hit the ground, say thank you for the day you are about to have. Then, at the end of the night, while you are getting back in bed, express your thanks again for your day. Here is what I like to say in the morning, “ Thank you God for today, thank you for anointing me with health and allowing me to live today  the way you intend for my purpose.” Then at night, I simple restate “ Thank you God for today” then I continue with any evening prayers or things that happened during the day that I am grateful for.
  • Each day our body works hard for us. Yet, how often do we take time to thank it for all it does and not just except it to do what we need it to do. We often don’t realize we take it for granted until we get sick or it stops working at its optimum state. Spend time over the 21 days to thank your body for all it does for you and make a commitment to learn to listen to it better to create a stronger relationship with it so you can continue to be grateful for it far beyond the challenge.
  • Read a book about gratitude and look for ways that you can incorporate the methods you learn into truly living a life of gratitude. There are many books available online about gratitude. Go with your intuition with which one is the one you need.
  • Practice gratitude breathing during yoga, pilates, meditation or any other spiritual or physical exercise you may do. Here is a great article about gratitude breathing: http://wildaboutwork.com/improve-your-life-with-gratitude-breathing/
  • Make a gratitude jar. Have someone really special in your life? Why not write down 21 reasons why you love about them, why you are grateful for them, how amazing they are, and any words of encouragement and place it in a jar and give it to them. This will allow them to pull a small note of gratitude anytime they may need an emotional pick me up. These make great birthday, holiday and “just because” gifts!

There are many other ways that you can incorporate gratitude into your life. Get your friends and family involved in your challenge and watch the abundance overflow in your life, really placing perspective on what matters most in your life. As we enter into the month of November, we all tend to become more aware of what we are thankful for as the holidays approach. That is why we will be running our challenge November 5th 2015 through November 25th, 2015.  You can start your 21 day challenge at any time. But, if you would like to participate along with us and our online community and receive encouraging inspiration along the way you can join our event at https://www.facebook.com/events/1069999319700228/ . With our event ending the day before Thanksgiving, the most popular day in the United States to give thanks, why not truly know what it is like to experience gratitude and see how your life can change in the most amazing ways and make it a day of Gratitude all around the world. “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Eckhart Tolle

Stay Inspired,

Stacey

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